First vacation together

  • cookingitswee...

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    Apr 13, 2012 2:26 AM GMT
    Hey guys, I asked Mike to be my boyfriend on New Years and we've been together since. I love him and see him a few times a week. I work at a hotel and get a discount and so I would like to go on vacation sometime this summer. I was wondering do you think 3 months is too soon to be planning a vacation together? Mike is someone I see myself having a future with and my longest relationship so far in my life. What do you guys think? Any advice?
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    Apr 13, 2012 4:07 AM GMT
    Not too soon, may even be a good way to learn more about each other. Of course that can cut 2 ways, since what you learn may be the unpleasant stuff.

    But better to get it out in the open early, and decide if you've still got the right ingredients for a relationship. I've taken vacations with guys as early as 1 month after meeting, didn't regret it.
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    Apr 13, 2012 4:30 AM GMT
    Hmmmmm... no, not too early. But you might want to make sure of a few things:
    1. Not too elaborate an itinerary. You want to share time together on your vacation, without the stress of trying to cram in too much sightseeing et cetera.
    2. Make sure that your destination has things that you will both enjoy.
    3. Make sure that you are both on the same page as to the TYPE of vacation you want.
    4. Go into it with an open mind, and a sense of discovery.
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    Apr 13, 2012 4:46 AM GMT
    I'm far from being an expert on relationships, but I would say that it probably depends on much time you've been spending together and what you've been doing. If you've just been going out to movies, dinner, etc., then it might be a drastic change. If you've been spending a lot of time at each other's places, then you are probably used to each other enough to be fine.

    In addition to the other suggestions, remember that you're going to be spending a lot more time together than you are probably used to. Be aware that you may get tired and need to rest or even spend a little time apart. Don't push it, and don't think that because you can't spend every waking minute together, you aren't a good match for each other.
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    Apr 13, 2012 4:52 AM GMT
    cookingitsweet saidHey guys, I asked Mike to be my boyfriend on New Years and we've been together since. I love him and see him a few times a week. I work at a hotel and get a discount and so I would like to go on vacation sometime this summer. I was wondering do you think 3 months is too soon to be planning a vacation together? Mike is someone I see myself having a future with and my longest relationship so far in my life. What do you guys think? Any advice?



    My advice is to go on a vacation together. It's all about fun.

    -Doug
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    Apr 13, 2012 11:11 PM GMT
    I don't think that three months is too soon at all. I agree that a vacation or any trip somewhere where it's just the two of you can be a bonding experience. In my own dating experience, I've found that trips with the boyfriend can uncover hidden qualities (good and bad) that your boyfriend has. Plan something fun---don't pack each day too full because it's also fun to be spontaneous. Enjoy and take lots pictures so you can remember your first vacation together! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 13, 2012 11:17 PM GMT
    Sounds like a blast!

    When I had only been dating my ex for about 3 months we took a weekend trip to the beach together. It was a blast.

    I agree with previous posters, though, that you should leave it free and organic if you end up going. Planning too much leaves little time to be with him, which defeats the purpose.
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    Apr 13, 2012 11:36 PM GMT
    This is actually a good time to experience each other away from your normal day to day. It could really be an eye-opening experience, both good and bad, hopefully all good, though. Have fun!
  • Brack202

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    Apr 14, 2012 1:57 AM GMT
    Man, it's not too soon if you are crazy about each other and committed to each other. Go with your instinct.