How to answer messages from unexpectedly hot guys?

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    Apr 13, 2012 5:32 AM GMT
    Dude's profile has a very typical amount of information and pics, and looks legit. This is the third time I've been messaged by out-of-my-leaque-type guys since I resurrected my profile on POF a week ago. I'm pretty sure I didn't get more attractive over the last semester. What's going on?
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    Apr 13, 2012 5:33 AM GMT
    idk but its only weird cuz u have no pic
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    Apr 13, 2012 5:34 AM GMT
    not on my realjock profile, but i hv pics on my pof profile.
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    Apr 13, 2012 5:43 AM GMT
    Just be yourself. Everyone has preferences and certain types they are attracted to.
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    Apr 13, 2012 5:45 AM GMT
    post pic here so we can answer properly
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    Apr 13, 2012 5:51 AM GMT
    Forgot to mention that his message is just "hi there"... how can i respond to that? (hence thread title).

    The other thing is that the other 2 guys are sending shorter and shorter messages, like they're losing interest... how is it possible after we barely exchanged 10 lines of text total?
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    Apr 13, 2012 5:53 AM GMT
    post a link to ur pof profile

    and copy paste message transcripts so i can help u flirt them up, i'm rly good at that shit
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    Apr 13, 2012 6:03 AM GMT
    lol u don't need to see my profile, it's pretty generic. Here's some transcripts tho:

    him: heeye!! hoow aree youu?!
    me: Great, so busy w/ school, can't wait till term's over haha. How bout you? Visit [my city] often?
    him: yeeah same and kinda lol you?>
    me: yeah well i live here heh
    him: oh ok thats kool

    ok, maybe the messages aren't getting shorter; maybe he's just dumb. He's also 6'2"... since when are tall blond jocks into short asian guys? The only hot people I've managed to attract b4 are short too.

    Another:
    (context: i put "very christian" in my profile and he is middle eastern/aethiest... aladdin-hot tho)

    him: Ahaha I would love to argue religion with you.
    me: haha that's so high school. Ur family ok w/ the gay thing then?
    him: they are very religious but they dont have to know lol
    me: same, but i'm hoping to convert my folks/church in august when i tell them
    him: yeah i wouldn't do that if i was in your position but its your choice eh
    me: worst case scenario I got a job lined up and won't be homeless haha. so where do u study?
    him: [4-letter acronym] icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 13, 2012 6:49 AM GMT
    ok you guys are in a completely different league of conversation than the conversations i have so i'm afraid what i'd say would scare them away because i'm too smart
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    Apr 13, 2012 6:52 AM GMT
    Well that sounds like a typical A4A conversation I'd have with the ever stupid sex fiends on there. I'd try to avoid websites that provide idiots who only give one line/word messages.
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    Apr 13, 2012 7:14 AM GMT
    MarkRoger saidWell that sounds like a typical A4A conversation I'd have with the ever stupid sex fiends on there. I'd try to avoid websites that provide idiots who only give one line/word messages.


    Haha pretty much. And for whatever reason if the guy's "unexpectedly" hot, then it's very possible he's using a fake pic. I seen a guy who's adverstising a glory hole setup and looks just like a model!
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    Apr 13, 2012 7:19 AM GMT
    Guycicle said
    MarkRoger saidWell that sounds like a typical A4A conversation I'd have with the ever stupid sex fiends on there. I'd try to avoid websites that provide idiots who only give one line/word messages.


    Haha pretty much. And for whatever reason if the guy's "unexpectedly" hot, then it's very possible he's using a fake pic. I seen a guy who's adverstising a glory hole setup and looks just like a model!


    I have no idea what PoF is but if it's like A4A then it's probably a fake pic. I saw someone using Sean Cody pics on A4A before and trying to pass it off as themselves.

    One of them even pretended to be the model featured, claiming that he's a part-time model lol. It's pathetic, I actually kind of had fun with it and messaged them telling them "Hi model-name-here how's working for insert porn place here"
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    Apr 14, 2012 5:28 AM GMT
    lol, what kind of deep intellectual conversations do you guys have with online strangers you've never met? I usually save everything for the first coffee date, after I decide if it's worthwhile to spend time on the guy.
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    Apr 14, 2012 5:42 AM GMT
    Sounds to me like the first guy is a fake, or even a computer generated profile. His answers could apply to almost any conversation. He gives non-specific information and never asks any questions that refer to the information you give. Even if he's NOT a computer... who wants to carry a conversation like that? It's not his fault he's so challenged.. (if he's real).. but that still won't make it any easier on you.

    The second guy seems like a fruitful investment. (lol) When it comes to his being "out of your league" I'll say this.. :

    I've been considered attractive by people for a while. (I don't see it, and don't put faith in their words) ... but others that I've thought were SO gorgeous.. it was like they had no idea! I could be entranced by a guys looks and he could see himself as having nothing to offer. It's happened so often I wonder if I purposefully seek it out.

    So don't discount yourself. You NEVER know what someone could see in you. Some could like your looks, others could care less, and genuinely so. When you feel a connection with someone, regardless of class, invest yourself. Even if it fails you'll never have to look back and curse yourself for not trying.
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    Apr 14, 2012 5:49 AM GMT
    KentuckyTuss saidSo don't discount yourself. You NEVER know what someone could see in you. Some could like your looks, others could care less, and genuinely so. When you feel a connection with someone, regardless of class, invest yourself. Even if it fails you'll never have to look back and curse yourself for not trying.


    that's good advice there. at the same time though, don't be going around like you're "everything and all that". in between and real is the better place to be ;)
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    Apr 14, 2012 4:20 PM GMT
    But the second guy also left me with nothing to respond to... so I know where he goes to school now.. great, then what lol

    Could they be disappointed that our dialogue is so dry? My controlled nonchalance is always based on assuming that online banter is merely to confirm sanity and mutual physical attraction so that we can have a real conversation somewhere else.
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    Apr 14, 2012 7:04 PM GMT
    I am really surprised no one jumped down this guys anus for being a guy that is

    "a masculine top looking for masculine white bottoms haha"

    must be because he's asian icon_confused.gif