FitBudz101 saidNot everyone's into the whole coming out epiphany thing. Personally, i find it a bit self-indulgent and tiresome. It doesn't mean we're "in the closet" either.
Grew up on the fem side. New things were different at a young age. The first time I actually mentioned it was in my last year of high school to a close friend. Later, I came out to my family during a medical scare (thought I was going to kick the bucket, so figured, what the heck). Family was surprisingly supportive, and explained I had a gay uncle (boy, that would've been nice to know years earlier).
In the end, I am who I am. Don't feel the need to talk about being gay to others. I do, however, have the same water cooler chat that most others do around the office. For example, when I was with the other half, I commonly brought him up in conversation (partner, partner in crime, better half -- all the references I hear the hetero's use). I'd get a look or two when they realized I was using 'he' instead of 'she'. We were together at company events, and proudly introduced one another.
Coming out is relevant to most of us, because we can all relate to that one moment where we were brave enough to tell someone we were different.
I think all the rhetoric that we hear about how being gay is unacceptable, a mistake, or somehow immoral will fall away the very moment that gays (and the lot of them) feel comfortable enough in their own skin to carry a casual, non-defensive conversation with someone who isn't, and make them feal at ease.
Also, I agree with the above, quoted, statement. Just because someone doesn't talk about their sexual desires or attractions . . . doesn't mean they're in the closet. They're just living life. Society (gay culture) created the term 'in/out of the closet' as a way to categorize groups of individuals. And just because the category exists . . . does not at all mean that everyone must fit neatly within them (-:
All the best,