Holding Hand

  • ringu20

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    Apr 14, 2012 12:55 PM GMT
    Do you hold hand your boyfriend in public? Were you bullied when you did that?
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    Apr 14, 2012 2:04 PM GMT
    Yes I do. Only ever was bullied once.
    Funny enough I was bullied in one of most gay friendly cities in the world Toronto. Some kids through a beer bottle at us out of their car.
    But yet, never had a problem in a small town.

    ringu20 saidDo you hold hand your boyfriend in public? Were you bullied when you did that?
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    Apr 14, 2012 2:37 PM GMT
    No, i would feel VERY uncomfortable.
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    Apr 14, 2012 3:12 PM GMT
    ringu20 saidDo you hold hand your boyfriend in public? Were you bullied when you did that?


    I have no problems holding my boyfriend's hand in public and no problem showing him affection either icon_razz.gif

    Besides, I can handle and defend myself and the guy I'm with extremely well, so they better think twice before anyone tries to bully me and my guyicon_wink.gif
  • ringu20

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    Apr 14, 2012 4:34 PM GMT
    Truppensturm saidNo, i would feel VERY uncomfortable.


    But you live in Brussel. İs it a gay friendly city?
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    Apr 14, 2012 4:38 PM GMT
    If I had a boyfriend,

    It depends upon where. Never around the area I live-- too conservative. But I would in a larger city.
  • cookingitswee...

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    Apr 14, 2012 9:42 PM GMT
    Yes, every day we see each other. We also kiss in public tooicon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 14, 2012 9:43 PM GMT
    Well, I don't have one right now, haha...

    But yeah, I do. However, I'm not a fan of excessive displays of affection in public regardless of gender/orientation.

    Hand holding is cute, short kisses are cute...but I feel like in a crowded place, it shouldn't go much farther than that.
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    Apr 15, 2012 1:29 AM GMT
    No, have never done it before. Guess we're too insecure.
  • Timbales

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    Apr 15, 2012 1:30 AM GMT
    depends, sometimes
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    Apr 15, 2012 1:36 AM GMT
    It's scary I think in an area that's really crowded, but I imagine if you were to zone all that out it would feel awesome.

    Eventually at some point in the future I'm hoping I get to experience that. Sounds nifty icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 15, 2012 1:41 AM GMT
    my hands sweat so better now icon_lol.gif
  • NerdLifter

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    Apr 15, 2012 2:13 AM GMT
    What is this... "boyfriend," you speak of?
  • mybud

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    Apr 15, 2012 2:20 AM GMT
    If I had a boyfriend I'd hold their hand and wouldn't give a flyin fuck what others thought....
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    Apr 15, 2012 2:30 AM GMT
    mybud saidIf I had a boyfriend I'd hold their hand and wouldn't give a flyin fuck what others thought....


    *taps his nose*
    icon_wink.gif Bingo!
  • Trepeat

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    Apr 15, 2012 9:12 AM GMT
    At some point I grew resentful of the PDAs that straight people are permitted because I wasn't able to have them myself, then became jealous and bitter. I don't know if I would want to hold hands in public now, after all of the negative associations I've attached to PDAs.icon_idea.gificon_neutral.gif
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    Apr 15, 2012 9:14 AM GMT
    ringu20 said
    Truppensturm saidNo, i would feel VERY uncomfortable.


    But you live in Brussel. İs it a gay friendly city?

    Not really. It also doesn't matter. I would feel uncomfortable and not just because i'd feel unsafe.
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    Apr 15, 2012 9:14 AM GMT
    Hold hands, peck on the cheek, quick kiss on the lips... no biggie here in Vancouver, nor in much of Canada.

    We don't like to overboard on PDA's, but not because of safety concerns.
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    Apr 15, 2012 11:47 AM GMT
    We hold hands whenever we feel like it, rural Ohio county fairs, WalMart, natural food stores, movie theaters. I am unaware of any sort of bully sort of behavior.
    If you want to be treated like equals and not a freak show, you may as well get used to men holding hands with the men they love, it is one of the things some couples do.
  • DanOmatic

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    Apr 15, 2012 12:14 PM GMT
    When out and about with the guy I'm currently seeing, we often hold hands walking down the street, and there are little displays of affection in other ways, but nothing that would be considered out of bounds. I love it--that's one of my favorite things: to feel his hand in mine is simple but awesome at the same time.
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    Apr 15, 2012 12:31 PM GMT
    Nah not a fan of it to be honest. Same with other couples PDA's , whether they are gay , str8 etc. I like to keep that stuff private and not shove it down peoples throats.

    I don't mind the odd hug though.

    Each to their own though.
  • What_May

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    Apr 15, 2012 3:09 PM GMT
    Was only ever bullied once.... But it was nothing more than side comments... I guess the respect for army fatigues was greater than their fear of gays..

    I think there's a time and a place for PDA. Not all the time, not always down your throat, but it can be nice every once and a while,
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    Apr 15, 2012 3:34 PM GMT
    if i had a bf i wouldn't be afraid to hold his hand in public and to hell with anyone who had a problem with it.
  • ggst82

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    Apr 15, 2012 3:43 PM GMT
    Under normal circumstances PDA, in general, weirds me out a little, but excessive PDA truly makes me want to vomit! I live in Boston so it's pretty common place for gay couples to walk hand-in-hand and not feel threaten in most parts of the area. The last guy I was seeing wasn't into PDA either, but we found ourselves randomly doing it without care or concern of what anyone thought...we never got heckled...i guess if it's with the "right" dude in the right area you just kinda have to go with it...as long as both guys are comfortable, knock yourselves out! (just try to keep it PG-13)
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    Apr 15, 2012 3:45 PM GMT
    Trepeat saidAt some point I grew resentful of the PDAs that straight people are permitted because I wasn't able to have them myself, then became jealous and bitter. I don't know if I would want to hold hands in public now, after all of the negative associations I've attached to PDAs.


    Interesting comment as I often have this same feeling. I do hold my bf's hand regularly and will give him a hello kiss when I meet him after work. That of course is in SF but when we're near my place (30 miles east) I don't do these things. It's all about where you are and risk vs reward. I do become bitter when I see a str8 couple holding hands walking down the street and feel that it's 'inappropriate' for us to do the same but perhaps it's me bullying myself!