what is it like being an uncle?

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    Apr 15, 2012 2:56 AM GMT
    I know its a long way off for me, but I was thinking about if I ever want to have kids. I have 3 siblings and thought maybe Ill skip the hassle of adoption/surrogacy and live vicariously through thier kids when they have them.

    Ill get a dog or two whom I can be daddy for, and my siblings can do all the heavy lifting while I get to be Superuncle icon_biggrin.gif

    But tell stories of your neices and nephews and your adventures as thier uncle
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    Apr 15, 2012 3:10 AM GMT
    Just like a younger sibling that you don't see as often. I have 2 nephews about the same age (1.5 years). Very cute and fun to play with.
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    Apr 15, 2012 3:12 AM GMT
    I've been an uncle since I was 5 years old, so I wouldn't know what it's like to not be one! My nieces and nephews are more like younger brothers and sisters to me.
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    Apr 15, 2012 3:25 AM GMT
    I was just on the phone with my nephew when I saw and clicked this thread. We both LOL'd. icon_lol.gif

    Uh, being an uncle is like being a daddy without having to put up with pussy.
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    Apr 15, 2012 3:30 AM GMT

    We have very warm feelings between us and our nieces and nephews, on both sides of our family. It's startling how emotionally empathetic they are.

    -Doug

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    Apr 15, 2012 3:34 AM GMT
    I have a 1 year old niece and and a nephew due in 4 days.
    My nieceloves me, she really loves her uncles in general. She's perfect! It makes me want kids. icon_neutral.gif
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    Apr 15, 2012 3:38 AM GMT
    I played a large part in raising my neice and therefore she's basically like my little sister. My nephew is still a toddler, but I love playing with him. Cutest little guy.
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    Apr 15, 2012 3:40 AM GMT
    that sounds great!

    do you guys feel fulfilled by the relationship with your neice/nephews to a point where you dont want kids, or does it make you want to have your own?
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    Apr 15, 2012 3:41 AM GMT
    BTW, my nephew is 22 and about to be an uncle himself in a few months.
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    Apr 15, 2012 4:24 AM GMT
    Phoenyx saidthat sounds great!

    do you guys feel fulfilled by the relationship with your neice/nephews to a point where you dont want kids, or does it make you want to have your own?


    I certainly do. I remember when i first found out I was going to be an Uncle, it made me very clucky and I sought out ways I could make my own kids.
    Glad that never eventuated.
    I have 6 nephews the 2 oldest have come out and are teenagers and 4 neices and 1 unkown on the way.
    I get to have all the fun with them wthout the full responsibility. I have looked after all of them for periods of time and its not as much fun as swooping in for a visit or taking them out for icecream.
    Now the kids are getting older i find they use me as a sounding board for more adult themes, for instance my youngest gay nephew texts me to let me know how hot One Direction are ( some boy band touring here atm) they have no other adult that reacts the way i do to their texts. It kind of helps them validate their feelings and I find that very forfilling at my end of the relationship.
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    Apr 15, 2012 4:28 AM GMT
    Like having a friend and younger sibling rolled into one! Sometimes they grow with you, other ones will grow away from you. I come from a large dynamic family. Helping help raise the youngins is part of the deal.
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    Apr 15, 2012 5:01 AM GMT
    I think it's the role I enjoy the most. I have a 2 year old and a 3 year old niece so I know all the Disney Princesses by name and have actually worn the tiara. It's also fun to piss off my brother and his wife by undoing all their good parenting in one afternoon.
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    Apr 15, 2012 5:05 AM GMT
    the best gift given by your brother/sister ever ! my niece is turning 2 this July, just started speaking. I told her every time you say me name, I'll buy you something. There is a possibly I'm going broke lol
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    Apr 15, 2012 5:06 AM GMT
    Of course my nieces are the smartest, most beautiful, sweetest children ever so your experience may be different.
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    Apr 15, 2012 5:09 AM GMT
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    Coach_Mike saidI think it's the role I enjoy the most. I have a 2 year old and a 3 year old niece so I know all the Disney Princesses by name and have actually worn the tiara. It's also fun to piss off my brother and his wife by undoing all their good parenting in one afternoon.
    When I'm out of college and able to support myself with a full time job I'm going to be the most fun uncle ever.

    There's something really special about having a steady paycheck and knowing it can be spent on Barbies and not have to be socked away for college tuition.
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    Apr 15, 2012 5:11 AM GMT
    Hey guys! New here, but I wanted to give my input.

    Being an uncle is awesome. My sister has two sons. Honestly, I think my eldest nephew (almost 3 years old) is more attached to me than he is with his own parents. He always follows me around, cries whenever I leave, always wants me to play with him, and he even prefers me over his parents when it comes to feeding him, showering him, dressing him, etc. (mostly because I make it fun)

    It also has its drawbacks though. For one, you get really attached to them because they love you so much, but then you don't live with them at the same time. So it becomes very hard whenever you have to leave them.

    They're incredibly fun to play with, and both of them are hilarious. But at the same time, they're not your kids and I'm always kind of aware of that even though I do (whenever I can) help my sister and her husband out a lot with them since they're so busy.

    Even after having nephews (with more on the way), I really feel like I want my own.

    Despite that though, I really feel like my two nephews are like my own sons; even if I do get my own kids some day, I'm probably gonna love my little nephews as much as I do my real kids!
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    Apr 15, 2012 5:11 AM GMT
    I am an uncle to seven from 3 to 16. I have a great relationship with each on their terms. A few I take to lunch and movies once in awhile. The 3 year old nephew now knows the "Red Solo Cup" song because it drives his mom crazy. I take them overnight sometimes and we watch movies and eat all the stuff they aren't allowed to. I help the older ones with their homework. Edit research papers.

    IT IS AWESOME
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    Apr 15, 2012 5:17 AM GMT
    love it and hate it. i love playing w/ them, doing things w/ them that my sisters/BiLs dont' have time 2 do, teaching them, passing on the fam traditions/history, watching them grow mentally/physically/spiritually, and just hanging out. i hate when they're bratified, changing diapers, cleaning up after them, and not having enough time 2 spend w/ them.
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    Apr 15, 2012 5:23 AM GMT
    I love my two little nephews to pieces. They are 9 and 7. They are both very intelligent, and the 7 year old is quite a smart-ass, like his uncle Sean. I pick them up, have a little outing with them, whether it may be to the park, or beach, that usually ends in getting ice cream, and they LOVE it. Whenever I go out with them, people are always like, "Your kids are so well behaved." icon_smile.gif

    Cheers,

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    Apr 15, 2012 5:26 AM GMT
    I love being an uncle! I have 2 nephews (a soon to be 14 yo and an 9 yo) and 3 nieces (a 13 yo and twin 11 yos). Just got back in fact from an horrendous day of commuting to make the 14 yo's Confirmation - but got to play some footie and manhunt (I couldn't believe him and his friends still play that!) with him and the other boys and thus earned my "Cool Uncle" points for the day icon_biggrin.gif

    My cousin's children also call me "Uncle" and I refer to them as my nieces and nephews too. They all call me something different though - my nephews call me Uncle Josey, my nieces call me Uncle Jo-Jo, one cousin's kids call me Uncle Flask (I had a flask at a family party years ago and it stuck), another's calls me The Tickler (I used to play "tickle time" with them when they were babes, and again it stuck) and to the rest I'm just Uncle Joseph.

    Its like everyone has said - its great being an Uncle - you get to spoil them, be their confidant, encourage them, mentor them, spoil them some more and at the end of the day, pack them back off to their parents to deal with the damage you've done icon_razz.gif

    But it does make you think if you do want kids or not, or at least it does for me.
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    Apr 15, 2012 5:35 AM GMT
    Coach_Mike saidI think it's the role I enjoy the most. I have a 2 year old and a 3 year old niece so I know all the Disney Princesses by name and have actually worn the tiara. It's also fun to piss off my brother and his wife by undoing all their good parenting in one afternoon.


    This, I remember baby sitting my cousin and we would play dress up and tea time for hours then I fed them ice cream before bed lol If they are being naughty, i put on horror movie.
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    Apr 15, 2012 5:37 AM GMT
    JPtheBITCH saidI have three nephews and four nieces. I used to have two more nephews, but their mother killed them. (No this is not one of my jokes.)


    OoO
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    Apr 15, 2012 5:38 AM GMT
    You can spoil kids that you don't have to take care of 24-7.
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    Apr 15, 2012 5:39 AM GMT
    I'm the cool uncle who buys then everything they want and does the things they enjoy doing that their parents don't have the time or pay really close attention to like I do and also do things with them that they wish to do/accomplish as individuals. Sorry for the run on sentence-it's late.
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    Apr 15, 2012 8:40 AM GMT
    Sigh... doesn't look like my siblings are going to reproduce, either. I have to settle for being an "uncle"... which means I'll never be truly saddled with their care... oh, wait... icon_biggrin.gif