My first time was awful, to be completely honest. I couldn't meet a guy who I really liked, so I chose the first man who was interested. It took place in a gay bathhouse (that particular establishment doesn't even exist anymore). We did it in his room (oral sex), and once he 'got off' he went away. I'm still disgusted thinking about it. Months later, I met a guy who I actually liked, and it was much better. Don't be afraid to be choosy- don't take the first guy who comes along out of desparation or loneliness or curiosity. I learned the basics from porn. It should not be scary. It should be fun and positive.