BODY IMAGE IN THE GAY COMMUNITY III: What else have you got beyond the physical?

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    Jul 16, 2008 3:05 PM GMT
    I was provoked by the first two series of this thread. Now I am taking this a bit further by asking, on the premise of your physique (since I have never seen so many stunning men in one site!), what else have you got when you're stripped off of your muscles and looks? Or more bluntly, who are you if not for your body?
    Let's say, if you wake up one day and you've just suddenly/radically become an average guy, what else remain there of you? Will you still have your friends?...your lover?...your career?...your sense of humor?...and most importantly, a life?
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    Jul 16, 2008 3:16 PM GMT
    Judging from your profile, somebody already got to you ... icon_lol.gif ... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 16, 2008 3:19 PM GMT
    What do you mean, Caslon5000?
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    Jul 16, 2008 3:20 PM GMT
    Intelligence, empathy, tolerance, a sense of humour, patience, self-discipline, curiousity.

    Yes I would still have my partner, my career and my friends and family. I avoid shallow people like the plague, and I am pretty good at identifying who they are.
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    Jul 16, 2008 3:33 PM GMT
    LOLatYOU said...what else have you got when you're stripped off of your muscles and looks? Or more bluntly, who are you if not for your body?

    I like to think I've got a sharp and curious mind, an ambitious and driven ethic, loyalty to my friends and loved ones, a strong and multifaceted personality, creativity in spades, an independent nature, and probably a bunch of other Hallmark-card virtues I'm forgetting. Edit: can we tell I'm resume-writing this morning??? icon_razz.gif

    If I lost my body and looks today...yeah, I'd still have all those things. If I'd never had my body and looks, I'd like to think I'd have drawn the confidence that allows me to manifest those virtues from some other source.

    LOLatYOU said Will you still have your friends?...your lover?...your career?...your sense of humor?...and most importantly, a life?
    LOL@YOU

    Of course.

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    Jul 16, 2008 3:36 PM GMT
    Creativity, humor, intelligence, empathy, slave army, weapons of mass destruction, and cookies.

    Heck, I don't even have much on the physical side already. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 16, 2008 3:38 PM GMT
    The cookies are all you need.
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    Jul 16, 2008 3:49 PM GMT
    A positive attitude about life, a fun sense of humor, an ambitious and adventurous nature, and a good heart. I've met enough lonely, unhappy, insecure "beautiful people" in my life to know that "looks" can only get you so far.
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    Jul 16, 2008 3:51 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidI've met enough lonely, unhappy, insecure "beautiful people" in my life to know that "looks" can only get you so far.

    That was next on my agenda.
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    Jul 16, 2008 3:54 PM GMT
    unusually high level of optimism, always there to listen/act as a sounding board, wicked sense of humor, nurturing/caring nature, striving for balance icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 16, 2008 4:00 PM GMT
    A change in my physical image would never change my core. I love my inner child that is still filled full of curiosity and wonder. The humor and what I'm told is a quick wit would still be there. I'd still be asking a ton of questions. Growing up I was the why? and how come? kid that drove everyone up the wall. It hasn't changed. I am a seeker. I'm analytical and because of that trust my final choices. I'm loyal, and love deeply. None of which came from my looks. Long before looks ever became a part of the equation I saw a competitive nature. Not always to win although that seemed to be a goal, but more importantly just to make sure I could look back and know I'd done my best. That has translated in my vocation and I feel good about that knowing now as an adult other adults look to me and trust my approach. Take any looks back I may have and all of that will remain in tact.
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    Jul 16, 2008 5:24 PM GMT
    LOLatYOU saidWhat do you mean, Caslon5000?
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    Your profile doesnt have anything in it, so you have already been striped. ... just a little humor... icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 16, 2008 5:26 PM GMT
    me gotz candeez
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    Jul 16, 2008 5:28 PM GMT
    Funny that I am wearing my striped PJs right now!
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    Jul 16, 2008 5:29 PM GMT
    Serge Gainsbourg (I shudder if you don't know who this is) had to be one of the ugliest men to be born in France yet, by many accounts, he had an easy time with the ladies. It's all about the charm, personality, and ease with which you carry your confidence.

    That said, as someone who has experienced a semi-radical change (haven't always been a fit guy) I can say that it's true: a hot bod is no prerequisite for getting men. Also, if all your looks are all you've to offer, it's not worth much. Intelligence and personality account for far more than looks, IMHO. So then, if I woke up and found an "average guy" looking back at me, I'd laugh and get on with my day...though my looks are something unique, it isn't the sum of me.

    "Stupid beautiful people should be seen but never heard, lest they spoil the mood."
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    Jul 16, 2008 6:07 PM GMT
    StripperRocco saidme gotz candeez


    Trade ya for a cookie?
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    Jul 16, 2008 6:16 PM GMT
    Sedative said
    StripperRocco saidme gotz candeez


    Trade ya for a cookie?


    DEELZ
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    Jul 16, 2008 6:26 PM GMT
    nom nom nom nom
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    Jul 16, 2008 6:30 PM GMT
    Sedative saidnom nom nom nom


    delicious cake??
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    Jul 16, 2008 6:32 PM GMT
    kryptonianadrian said
    Sedative saidnom nom nom nom


    delicious cake??


    >.>

    Cake?! Whut Cake?! The Cake is a lie!

    candee? cookie?
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    Jul 16, 2008 6:34 PM GMT
    Does this mean the thread is / just got boring?
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    Jul 16, 2008 6:40 PM GMT
    LOLatYOU saidDoes this mean the thread is / just got boring?
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    Nope. Means the regulars got hungry. *goes back to sipping water and enviously watching the eating of cookies and candy, mentally hating fellow RJers who aren't on diets today*
  • dhinkansas

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    Jul 16, 2008 6:45 PM GMT
    At this point, Bow Wow Wow should be singing "I want candy......I want candy."
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 16, 2008 6:46 PM GMT
    Well I hope whats left is the "personalty" of who I am.... my personality, my diligence, honesty, sympathetic nature, determination... my hopes and dreams...

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    Jul 16, 2008 6:50 PM GMT
    I use to have a syphilitic nature. Thank god for penicillin