Does waiting on HIV test results make you nervous?

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    Apr 16, 2012 3:08 PM GMT
    I haven't had ANY KIND of sexual activity in two whole years. Despite this, I always wait on pins and needles for my test results to come back. Does anyone else feel the same way and how do you deal with the anxiety of waiting?
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    Apr 16, 2012 3:18 PM GMT
    fhaynie81 saidI haven't had ANY KIND of sexual activity in two whole years. Despite this, I always wait on pins and needles for my test results to come back. Does anyone else feel the same way and how do you deal with the anxiety of waiting?


    always! it's pretty normal i think, we all go, "but what if....?" inside our heads. i take slow deep breaths to bring my anxiety and heart rate down. and actually, having a friend with you helps too icon_smile.gif
  • dyslogistic

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    Apr 16, 2012 3:30 PM GMT
    I work in HIV research and know the topic back to front, and despite knowing how safe I've been, I can't get anything other than a same day HIV test as the waiting game KILLS me.
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    Apr 16, 2012 3:33 PM GMT
    frankhfunk saidI work in HIV research and know the topic back to front, and despite knowing how safe I've been, I can't get anything other than a same day HIV test as the waiting game KILLS me.


    Yeh, I go to the VA (ex-Navy) and they only offer the test that takes couple of days..YUCK!!!!!!!!!
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    Apr 16, 2012 3:34 PM GMT
    It's been over a year since I've had sex in any form, and two weeks ago when I got tested, though I do it every three months, I was sweating bullets. I always do. It's a life changing moment. Being nervous is understandable.
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    Apr 16, 2012 3:43 PM GMT
    Uhhh... if I know I haven't engaged in unprotected anal--and that hasn't happened since I was in a monogamous relationship 3 years ago--I don't feel nervous at all.
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    Apr 16, 2012 3:47 PM GMT
    fhaynie81 saidI haven't had ANY KIND of sexual activity in two whole years. Despite this, I always wait on pins and needles for my test results to come back. Does anyone else feel the same way and how do you deal with the anxiety of waiting?

    I was only anxious for my initial HIV test. I had delayed it because anonymous tests were difficult to obtain where I lived, a poz result being recorded at State level by Republican mandate. And I'd already been sexually active for a number of years, my behavior at times at bit risky.

    So I used a phony name, and no one checked my ID. It was a blood draw, not a mouth swab, and I had to wait about a week. I admit to being a bit tense.

    But it came back negative, and nowadays I have them at least twice a year, and lately more often with all the other blood work I must have done on me. Being monogamous I no longer worry, the doctor mentions the results in passing, lumped together with my other readings.

    But I still have them, as does my partner, despite our being at no risk, to set an example for others in our gay community. We can't very well preach regular testing if we don't do the same ourselves. If we said: "You should test, but we don't ourselves because we're not at risk" then you know all these guys would rationalize that they're not at risk, either, even when they really are. But if we say we test regardless, no exception, that's the better example.
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    Apr 16, 2012 3:51 PM GMT
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    fhaynie81 saidI haven't had ANY KIND of sexual activity in two whole years. Despite this, I always wait on pins and needles for my test results to come back. Does anyone else feel the same way and how do you deal with the anxiety of waiting?

    I was only anxious for my initial HIV test. I had delayed it because anonymous tests were difficult to obtain where I lived, a poz result being recorded at State level by Republican mandate. And I'd already been sexually active for a number of years, my behavior at times at bit risky.

    So I used a phony name, and no one checked my ID. It was a blood draw, not a mouth swab, and I had to wait about a week. I admit to being a bit tense.

    But it came back negative, and nowadays I have them at least twice a year, and lately more often with all the other blood work I must have done on me. Being monogamous I no longer worry, the doctor mentions it in passing, lumped together with my other results.

    But I still have them, as does my partner, despite being at no risk, to set an example for others in our gay community. We can't very well preach regular testing if we don't do the same ourselves. If we said: "You should test, but we don't because we're not at risk" then you know all these guys would rationalize that they have no risk, too, even when they really do. But if we say we test regardless, no exception, that's the better example.


    I went two years without being tested because of fear. I dated a POZ guy for five and a half years. I was soo scared I never got tested till two years after the relationship had ended. We practiced safe sex always but I was still extremely uneasy. That was this past Novemeber and I was negative : ) I think all the toxic shit that was pumped out in the 1990's still has people on edge: such as, back then, the message was " it can stay in your body for years with out being detected."
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    Apr 16, 2012 4:02 PM GMT
    fhaynie81 saidI haven't had ANY KIND of sexual activity in two whole years. Despite this, I always wait on pins and needles for my test results to come back. Does anyone else feel the same way and how do you deal with the anxiety of waiting?


    I think of it as a time to think about what I have done to get to this point. My first HIV test was very very very torturous. It was all I could think about.
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    Apr 16, 2012 4:07 PM GMT
    fhaynie81 saidI went two years without being tested because of fear. I dated a POZ guy for five and a half years. I was soo scared I never got tested till two years after the relationship had ended. We practiced safe sex always but I was still extremely uneasy. That was this past Novemeber and I was negative : ) I think all the toxic shit that was pumped out in the 1990's still has people on edge: such as, back then, the message was " it can stay in your body for years with out being detected."

    The more common HIV tests will now detect its presence within 3 to 6 months of exposure. A more expensive test that's available can reduce that to about 3 weeks.

    My late partner was poz, and we had safe sex. In fact, I bottomed with him. His HIV doctor insisted I be tested regularly for all infectious agents because, as he put it to me: "I have to know what I'm dealing with. And with his impaired immune system, you could give him something he can't handle, maybe a different HIV strain."

    I immediately agreed to a full battery of tests, with the results reported by law to the State if positive, but no way would I place my partner at risk. They proved that despite my rather careless past I had never contracted an STD in my life, or anything that endangered my partner.

    It's one thing to drag your feet testing for your own awareness, but if it involves other men, too, like your BF or just tricks with whom you have sex, you MUST get tested. A real man does nothing less, regardless of the fear.
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    Apr 16, 2012 4:09 PM GMT
    first time I ever had sex with a guy it was protected except for oral sex of course. However 2 weeks later I got this flu and I was freaking out. The flu went away and I spent like about a year without getting an HIV test cause I had moved to a different country and I needed to apply for a health card. Every time Id get sick of anything I would think it was the result of my immune system losing ground to HIV lol. So I finally went for a general test for all STDs and it all came out negative. Those were the longest 15 dias of my life seriously.

    So ya you are not the only one who got paranoid over nothing.
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    Apr 16, 2012 4:09 PM GMT
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    fhaynie81 saidI went two years without being tested because of fear. I dated a POZ guy for five and a half years. I was soo scared I never got tested till two years after the relationship had ended. We practiced safe sex always but I was still extremely uneasy. That was this past Novemeber and I was negative : ) I think all the toxic shit that was pumped out in the 1990's still has people on edge: such as, back then, the message was " it can stay in your body for years with out being detected."

    The more common HIV tests will now detect its presence within 3 to 6 months of exposure. A more expensive test that's available can reduce that to about 3 weeks.

    My late partner was poz, and we had safe sex. In fact, I bottomed with him. His HIV doctor insisted I be tested regularly for all infectious agents because, as he put it to me: "I have to know what I'm dealing with. And with his impaired immune system, you could give him something he can't handle, maybe a different HIV strain."

    I immediately agreed to a full battery of tests, with the results reported by law to the State if positive, but no way would I place my partner at risk. They proved that despite my rather careless past I had never contracted an STD in my life, or anything that endangered my partner.

    It's one thing to drag your feet testing for your own awareness, but if it involves other men, too, like your BF or just tricks, you MUST get tested. A real man does nothing less, regardless of the fear.


    OMG! Yeh I know all these guys that are POZ that BB with other POZ guys and I TOTALLY believe the whole "another strain" theory. MY Dcotor told me the same thing," wrap it up no matter what!"
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    Apr 16, 2012 4:19 PM GMT
    No. I am immune to HIV.
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    Apr 16, 2012 4:19 PM GMT
    charlitos saidSo ya you are not the only one who got paranoid over nothing.

    By coincidence I developed mild flu-like symptoms when I first became sexually active with gay men. And that's what happens early in some cases of HIV, within the first few weeks, months before the tests we had then could detect it.

    So I had a bit of panic, too. Which likely generated some psychosomatic reactions to further frighten me. And partly out of fear I dragged my feet getting tested, and especially because of mandatory reporting procedures in effect. But to my credit I stopped having sex until I finally arranged to get tested under a false name, and was given a clean bill of health.
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    Apr 16, 2012 4:23 PM GMT
    fhaynie81 saidOMG! Yeh I know all these guys that are POZ that BB with other POZ guys and I TOTALLY believe the whole "another strain" theory. MY Dcotor told me the same thing," wrap it up no matter what!"

    My understanding is that it's not a theory, but established medical science that there are different strains of HIV. Hence, sex between poz guys should still be performed safely.
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    Apr 16, 2012 4:25 PM GMT
    fhaynie81 said
    OMG! Yeh I know all these guys that are POZ that BB with other POZ guys and I TOTALLY believe the whole "another strain" theory. MY Dcotor told me the same thing," wrap it up no matter what!"

    It's more than just a theory. Someone can easily have HIV that is resistant to a particular class of antiretroviral drugs, as they may have failed that drug regimen in the past. They can then pass on this drug resistant virus to you, causing you to fail the same drug regimen even if you were doing fine. So regardless of your HIV status, wrap it up.
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    Apr 16, 2012 7:16 PM GMT
    I remember in 1992- 1994 you would get tested and have to wait up to 6 weeks for the results

    good way to lose ten pounds and get those abs in shape when I was 18-19
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    Apr 16, 2012 7:19 PM GMT
    Nope.
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    Apr 16, 2012 7:25 PM GMT
    I was last tested on 4/12, and while waiting for the result I was a little worried. I had gotten tested because my lymph nodes were swollen and I felt a little ill, and bein the hypochondriac that I am, I assumed I was HIV+.

    Well, the test came back negative, but the few days leading up to me being tested had me more worried than waiting for the results.

    Everyone should be annually tested every 3-6 months, especially because IT IS FREE. Sadly, most disgusting people refuse to get tested, and continue to sleep around.

    Wonder why HIV is spreading so much? Thank the guys behind a4a and grindr for making casual sex ever so easy and convenient.
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    Apr 16, 2012 7:30 PM GMT
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    Augustine92 saidWonder why HIV is spreading so much? Thank the guys behind a4a and grindr for making casual sex ever so easy and convenient.
    It's definitely not their fault that their userbase suck at taking necessary precautions.


    But would you agree that they created the sites intently for quick hookups for gay men? Why don't hetero's have adam4eve, or humpr?
    Also, ever notice how much they hype sex? There are ads of naked dudes all over the place, and if you ask me, most of the guys in the ads turn me on.
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    Apr 16, 2012 7:38 PM GMT
    Every time. I'm generally a prude: I can count on two hands the number of guys I've had full on sex with. And yet still... there's an irrational part in my mind that treats the HIV test like a life and death lottery... as though the answer gets decided there in the clinic.

    The answer is already the answer though.
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    Apr 16, 2012 7:40 PM GMT
    Did you you just say you're a prude? icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 16, 2012 7:45 PM GMT
    They don't have Humpr but they do have Blendr !
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    Apr 16, 2012 7:47 PM GMT
    Augustine92 said
    Wonder why HIV is spreading so much? Thank the guys behind a4a and grindr for making casual sex ever so easy and convenient.


    HIV exploded as an epidemic long before Grindr and A4A were ever around. Also, HIV is a predominantly heterosexual disease outside of North America and Europe.

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    Apr 16, 2012 8:02 PM GMT
    frankhfunk said
    Augustine92 said
    Wonder why HIV is spreading so much? Thank the guys behind a4a and grindr for making casual sex ever so easy and convenient.


    HIV exploded as an epidemic long before Grindr and A4A were ever around. Also, HIV is a predominantly heterosexual disease outside of North America and Europe.



    Yes it did, but do you think that these anonymous sex websites enable people to make wise decisions, and control their STDs?

    Stupid people tend to ruin everything nice, even sex.