KansasColt09 saidSomething I've always had a hard time with from my Catholic upbringing was sex outside a relationship. How do you guys feel about it? Part of me wants to enjoy being single and meeting and messing around with different guys, and then part of me feels like damaged goods from it. Thoughts?
I had the same Catholic upbringing and struggled with my sexuality because of it.
When I came to accept my homosexuality and learned more about human sexuality in general, I saw the Catholic church has a seriously flawed way of addressing sex. The studies of abusive priests have shown how suppression, repression and shame helped form some predatory tendencies.
I learned that our sex drive is natural. I read somewhere our sex drive is only behind hunger and thirst in strength. We are sexual creatures. Why the hell make something feel so good then condemn if enjoy it.
NOW! I do believe in some self control, responsibility and wisdom. Be careful who you hook up with, how you do each other and keeping your dignity by not becoming a common slut.
I felt ashamed of my "slut phase" right after coming out. I was like a kid in a candy store. I think that is typical and normal. I had to learn by "doing." I grew out of it.