Opinions on having sex the first meeting after meeting online.

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    Apr 18, 2012 6:27 AM GMT
    I met this guy online and he is comming over to my place tomorrow and i am wondering if i should have sex with him or not. hes a really good looking guy thats not the issue. I kind of want to create a relationship in general, so will having sex jepordize this ? your thaught please and thank you
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    Apr 18, 2012 6:34 AM GMT
    You never know.

    My bf and I had sex the first night we met. We're still together 5 1/2 years later.
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    Apr 18, 2012 11:20 AM GMT
    It depends on whether or not you are both looking for a relationship or not
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    Apr 18, 2012 11:23 AM GMT
    In general it's better to wait if you're looking for a relationship.
  • muscletruk

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    Apr 18, 2012 11:27 AM GMT
    if you wait it can make the 1st time that much better, but so many relationships start in bed. I take it case by case and go with the mood
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    Apr 18, 2012 11:35 AM GMT
    if you have sex and both of you enjoyed or satisfied!!!!!!!! of course you can continue the relationship for long time.................icon_smile.gif

    All depend on your meeting which create the mood

    so best of luck!!!!!!
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    Apr 18, 2012 11:39 AM GMT
    and please keep us posted... and provide photos or video if possible...icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 18, 2012 11:44 AM GMT
    TROLLOLLOLLOLL
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    Apr 18, 2012 11:56 AM GMT
    i think the proper etiquette upon first meeting, is to bow (if you're a top) and curtsy (if you're the bottom). then you can get to the sucking/fucking/fisting without jeopardizing your relationship.

    really there's no rule. it depends on who you and your partner are together.

    personally think that a first meeting should not be at your house, but at a neutral nearby location - say for a coffee or a drink or something, so you can have a conversation. there's no automatic assumption of dropping trou and going for it. you can size him up if he doesn't look like his pics. and there's a safety mechanism in case he's a psycho. if you like each other you can always invite him over.
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    Apr 18, 2012 11:58 AM GMT
    If you're going to be a hoe, enjoy it. If you want to mix it up, do it! If you want something more, don't waste your time seeking something less. icon_wink.gificon_idea.gif
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    Apr 18, 2012 12:17 PM GMT
    The guy i'm dating now was a hook up I met on Grindr. We fucked the first nite we met, "big deal" it happens. Your old enough NOT to pass judgement.

    3 weeks after we met we found ourselves in Colrado skiing at Winter park for a week! The bottom line is we like ea other. Sexually, physically and emotionally we click and neither of us care about how we met but glad we did.
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    Apr 18, 2012 2:13 PM GMT
    Have had 6 LTRs in my life (lasting 6 months to 8 years) and each began with sex on the first date. In fact, all of the dates where we postponed sex, in the name of some sort of principal and propriety, never lasted.
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    Apr 18, 2012 2:34 PM GMT
    Nivek saidHave had 6 LTRs in my life (lasting 6 months to 8 years) and each began with sex on the first date. In fact, all of the dates where we postponed sex, in the name of some sort of principal and propriety, never lasted.

    Totally had the same happen to me. 3 LTR"S all lasting 3 years +THE FIRST time I waited, it slide right into a friendshipicon_confused.gif
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    Apr 18, 2012 2:40 PM GMT
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    Nivek saidHave had 6 LTRs in my life (lasting 6 months to 8 years) and each began with sex on the first date. In fact, all of the dates where we postponed sex, in the name of some sort of principal and propriety, never lasted.

    Totally had the same happen to me. 3 LTR"S all lasting 3 years +THE FIRST time I waited, it slide right into a friendshipicon_confused.gif


    Imagine how long those relationships would have lasted if you waited till the 3rd date!
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    Apr 18, 2012 2:51 PM GMT
    Stuttershock said
    fhaynie81 said
    Nivek saidHave had 6 LTRs in my life (lasting 6 months to 8 years) and each began with sex on the first date. In fact, all of the dates where we postponed sex, in the name of some sort of principal and propriety, never lasted.

    Totally had the same happen to me. 3 LTR"S all lasting 3 years +THE FIRST time I waited, it slide right into a friendshipicon_confused.gif


    Imagine how long those relationships would have lasted if you waited till the 3rd date!

    What's that suppost to mean? A guy could just as easily dump you on the third date or 3 years down the road.
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    Apr 18, 2012 4:14 PM GMT
    Thanks for all your input guys , i did decide that we would fuck and i could tell he wants to aswell. unfortunately we werent able to meet up. icon_sad.gif it sucks
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    Apr 18, 2012 5:00 PM GMT
    speedobuddy saidand please keep us posted... and provide photos or video if possible...icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 18, 2012 5:14 PM GMT
    Nivek saidHave had 6 LTRs in my life (lasting 6 months to 8 years) and each began with sex on the first date. In fact, all of the dates where we postponed sex, in the name of some sort of principal and propriety, never lasted.




    Hmmmmm....6 LTRS? Apparently none of them worked out either, so I kind of doubt that having sex (or not having sex) on the first date was the ultimate determining factor. Personally, since the OP says he wants to create a relationship in general, I think holding out until at least the 2nd date sends a more positive message that meeting the guy isn't all about sex. If the other guy is interested, and attracted, holding off during that first encounter will likely only increase that attraction --- AND he'll respect you in the morning.
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    Apr 18, 2012 5:19 PM GMT
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    Nivek saidHave had 6 LTRs in my life (lasting 6 months to 8 years) and each began with sex on the first date. In fact, all of the dates where we postponed sex, in the name of some sort of principal and propriety, never lasted.




    Hmmmmm....6 LTRS? Apparently none of them worked out either, so I kind of doubt that having sex (or not having sex) on the first date was the ultimate determining factor. Personally, since the OP says he wants to create a relationship in general, I think holding out until at least the 2nd date sends a more positive message that meeting the guy isn't all about sex. If the other guy is interested, and attracted, holding off during that first encounter will likely only increase that attraction --- AND he'll respect you in the morning.


    Just because his past relationships haven't worked doesn't mean it's because he's had sexual intercourse during his first date.

    It doesn't matter how long you wait it off to have sexual intercourse, the results of the relationship will still end up being the same, reality isn't like a stupid Romance Movie.
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    Apr 18, 2012 5:25 PM GMT
    GERGIN said
    CuriousJockAZ said
    Nivek saidHave had 6 LTRs in my life (lasting 6 months to 8 years) and each began with sex on the first date. In fact, all of the dates where we postponed sex, in the name of some sort of principal and propriety, never lasted.




    Hmmmmm....6 LTRS? Apparently none of them worked out either, so I kind of doubt that having sex (or not having sex) on the first date was the ultimate determining factor. Personally, since the OP says he wants to create a relationship in general, I think holding out until at least the 2nd date sends a more positive message that meeting the guy isn't all about sex. If the other guy is interested, and attracted, holding off during that first encounter will likely only increase that attraction --- AND he'll respect you in the morning.


    Just because his past relationships haven't worked doesn't mean it's because he's had sexual intercourse during his first date.

    It doesn't matter how long you wait it off to have sexual intercourse, the results of the relationship will still end up being the same, reality isn't like a stupid Romance Movie.


    True but for some "how good" the sex is could be a deciding factor. Having said that, the first time with ANYONE is usually an akward attempt to "get off" and totally deserves round two but most guys never get there. Additionally, once you wait too long, the guy may see discover things that he doesn't like about you and therefore doesn't want to sleep with you at all. Had you slept together right off you could have already had it in the bag on pure sexual chemistry however, your right the end results would probaly be the same. Building a relationhsip on soely sex is red flag city!
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    Apr 18, 2012 5:25 PM GMT
    GERGIN said
    CuriousJockAZ said
    Nivek saidHave had 6 LTRs in my life (lasting 6 months to 8 years) and each began with sex on the first date. In fact, all of the dates where we postponed sex, in the name of some sort of principal and propriety, never lasted.




    Hmmmmm....6 LTRS? Apparently none of them worked out either, so I kind of doubt that having sex (or not having sex) on the first date was the ultimate determining factor. Personally, since the OP says he wants to create a relationship in general, I think holding out until at least the 2nd date sends a more positive message that meeting the guy isn't all about sex. If the other guy is interested, and attracted, holding off during that first encounter will likely only increase that attraction --- AND he'll respect you in the morning.


    Just because his past relationships haven't worked doesn't mean it's because he's had sexual intercourse during his first date.

    It doesn't matter how long you wait it off to have sexual intercourse, the results of the relationship will still end up being the same, reality isn't like a stupid Romance Movie.
    Perhaps but the problem with hosting /fucking on the first meet-up comes in when you think you're doing a screen test for a romantic comedy, and instead find out it's a film noir. icon_eek.gif
  • swimmer8671

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    Apr 18, 2012 5:32 PM GMT
    I personally think that is trashy.

    I mean out of all of the things to talk about with it being your first meeting and everything, how is it the only thing you can come up with is having sex with a complete stranger? And trust me if you are just meeting for the first time you ARE complete strangers.

    Not only is that dangerous, but it is stupid.
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    Apr 18, 2012 5:40 PM GMT
    I think a first date being at someones house kind of suggests that sex will be involved. If youre looking for something more try going on your date somewhere public and end the night in front of your house not inside it.
  • Coug24_wyo

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    Apr 18, 2012 5:42 PM GMT
    I don't think I'd be comfortable moving that fast, but to each their own. If you both feel comfortable and attracted to one another I don't think there's anything 'wrong' with it. Just play safe! You don't know him that well yet remember.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Apr 18, 2012 5:51 PM GMT
    GERGIN said
    Just because his past relationships haven't worked doesn't mean it's because he's had sexual intercourse during his first date.



    I didn't say that it did. I was just making the point that IF there is potential in a relationship, holding off until at least date #2 isn't going to kill that....in fact, it may even increase the chances that a 2nd date could happen. There is something to be said for maintaining a bit of mystery and not revealing all and giving it all away right out of the box.