Do u REALLY ALWAYS practice "safer sex."

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    Apr 18, 2012 3:14 PM GMT
    So after being on this site for almost a week now, I found that almost everyone and their momma puts safe sex: always. But I wondered, how many people are really not telling the truth. I wouldn't have unsafe sex with a stranger, having said that, I left mine open becasue it could be in the cards way down the road. And if I said I always have had safer sex it would be a lie. If your not sucking cock with a condom then your not having "safer sex." Interesting is that when intially dating someone they claim to always have had safe sex and eventually (if enough time passes) you find out that they actually haven't always had "safer sex." Is the thought of someone barebacking a deal breaker?
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    Apr 18, 2012 3:19 PM GMT
    Like most things on the internet, the "safe sex" box is code for something else. It typically means 'safe sex until...'

    But because most people lie, if a guy puts anything less than "safe sex always" he'll be assumed to be a hungry rando-bareback bottom.
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    Apr 18, 2012 3:25 PM GMT
    Larkin saidLike most things on the internet, the "safe sex" box is code for something else. It typically means 'safe sex until...'

    But because most people lie, if a guy puts anything less than "safe sex always" he'll be assumed to be a hungry rando-bareback bottom.


    Very true..but now that I have access to my VA lab results I can produce a HIV test on command HAHHAHAHHA! BUt I don't BB with strangers like some cum slut ho people shouldnt assume anything about anyone.
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    Apr 18, 2012 3:27 PM GMT
    I honestly DO always have safe sex. . . I value my health more than a fleeting moment of pleasure.
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    Apr 18, 2012 3:36 PM GMT
    Larkin saidLike most things on the internet, the "safe sex" box is code for something else. It typically means 'safe sex until...'

    But because most people lie, if a guy puts anything less than "safe sex always" he'll be assumed to be a hungry rando-bareback bottom.
    This^^^

    But actually there is no such thing as 'safe sex' just safer sex. icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 18, 2012 3:45 PM GMT
    TellMeMoar said
    Larkin saidLike most things on the internet, the "safe sex" box is code for something else. It typically means 'safe sex until...'

    But because most people lie, if a guy puts anything less than "safe sex always" he'll be assumed to be a hungry rando-bareback bottom.
    This^^^

    But actually there is no such thing as 'safe sex' just safer sex. icon_smile.gif


    Exactly! YOu just won the prize behind door number 3.
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    Apr 18, 2012 3:56 PM GMT
    I thought we were supposed to lie on the interwebz. icon_confused.gif
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    Apr 18, 2012 4:50 PM GMT
    unfounded7 saidI thought we were supposed to lie on the interwebz. icon_confused.gif


    So everything you told me was a lie?

    I HATE YOU!!icon_mad.gif
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    Apr 18, 2012 6:24 PM GMT
    I'd bet my jockstrap you're not going to get an honest response to your question on here.
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    Apr 18, 2012 6:33 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidI'd bet my jockstrap you're not going to get an honest response to your question on here.

    I started with the truth I guess others aren't as forthcomming.
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    Apr 18, 2012 7:29 PM GMT
    I've checked sometimes because my boyfriend and I don't use condoms, but our deal is that when we're with others, it's safe sex or no sex.
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    Apr 18, 2012 7:31 PM GMT
    ALWAYS BE SAFE no excuses
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    Apr 18, 2012 7:32 PM GMT
    unfounded7 saidI thought we were supposed to lie on the interwebz. icon_confused.gif


    We are. We have to craft a meticulous image that both puts us in the best light while still seeming honest and natural.
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    Apr 18, 2012 7:36 PM GMT
    For me the definition is "safe sex always... untill we are in a monogomous relationship and have both been tested"
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    Apr 18, 2012 7:39 PM GMT
    buddha_the_god saidI've checked sometimes because my boyfriend and I don't use condoms, but our deal is that when we're with others, it's safe sex or no sex.


    This, which obviously is not completely and absolutely safe, but nothing in life is.
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    Apr 18, 2012 7:43 PM GMT
    Do u REALLY ALWAYS practice "safer sex."

    Yes
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    Apr 18, 2012 7:45 PM GMT
    showme said
    buddha_the_god saidI've checked sometimes because my boyfriend and I don't use condoms, but our deal is that when we're with others, it's safe sex or no sex.


    This, which obviously is not completely and absolutely safe, but nothing in life is.


    Sorry, I mean safeR sex icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 18, 2012 7:49 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidI don't put too much weight into other people's profiles regarding their sexual practices and their HIV status.

    None of you will ever realize how many people contact me on this site who want some guidance because they have been recently infected with HIV. They tend not to change their HIV status from negative to positive, even after months. I can understand that they do this for all the shaming that homosexuals do to one another.

    I just hope that they are being truly honest with people they are actually having sex with. Really the only people that have a right to know your status and if you use condoms are the people you wind up in bed with.

    Ever since websites have created or rather 'forced' the HIV status to be filled out it has created more polarity within the gay community than anything. At least from my observation. I don't think it's creating more awareness or more responsible behavior. How can that be said when there are so many people out there lying about it.

    Lastly, if I had a dollar bill for every time someone on these threads used my own HIV status as a verbal weapon against me, I'd have a pretty high mound of cash. It doesn't bother me. I say, "Good for them!" Cuz if it weren't for my HIV status then I fear they'd have no ammunition to 'fallaciously' use against me in a disagreement about something on the threads.


    Excellantly said. I dated a guy that didn't tell me until a over a week into the relationship (lasted 5 and half years) but I found out his status from friends at a bar! WTF! AND it still took him 3 more days to tell me.
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    Apr 18, 2012 7:49 PM GMT
    Yeah....I do. I'm not even comfortable not using condoms in a relationship.

    And I think it is a little naive to think the fact that you "only bareback with people that aren't strangers" will protect you from harm...
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    Apr 18, 2012 7:49 PM GMT
    I refuse to have transmissible contact with anyone until he submits to going to get tested together. And still we use protection.
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    Apr 18, 2012 7:56 PM GMT
    Velociraptor saidI refuse to have transmissible contact with anyone until he submits to going to get tested together. And still we use protection.


    But if you have both been tested and are in a monogomous long term relationship isn't using protection kind of like saying "I don't trust you, and think that you may be sleeping around"
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    Apr 18, 2012 7:57 PM GMT
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    Velociraptor saidI refuse to have transmissible contact with anyone until he submits to going to get tested together. And still we use protection.


    But if you have both been tested and are in a monogomous long term relationship isn't using protection kind of like saying "I don't trust you, and think that you may be sleeping around"


    You have to protect yourself...you can trust someone, but you always have to trust yourself more...people DO make mistakes, and in the long run, I feel like you have to protect yourself.
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    Apr 18, 2012 7:58 PM GMT
    Velociraptor saidI refuse to have ...contact with anyone until he submits....


    Fixed that one for ya. icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 18, 2012 8:44 PM GMT
    If you bareback, it's only a matter of time before you seroconvert. It's like Russian roulette. It only takes one bullet.

    Exception - if you're in a 100% monogamous relationship, and you've been having safer sex while you get tested a few times over about a year, and all your results came back negative. Then your chances are probably slim.
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    Apr 18, 2012 8:45 PM GMT
    Renegade67 saidIf you bareback, it's only a matter of time before you seroconvert. It's like Russian roulette. It only takes one bullet.

    Exception - if you're in a 100% monogamous relationship, and you've been having safer sex while you get tested a few times over about a year, and all your results came back negative. Then your chances are probably slim.


    Yeah totally agree. I won't have sex now just because I don't want to get it and I like BB.