Beauty & the Beast

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    Apr 18, 2012 11:50 PM GMT
    As men we are turned on by sight h touch obviously. What would happen if we put our sex drive on the back burner & actually got to know men for who they are first?
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    Apr 19, 2012 12:27 AM GMT
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    Apr 19, 2012 12:39 AM GMT
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    Apr 19, 2012 12:42 AM GMT
    2xciteu saidAs men we are turned on by sight h touch obviously. What would happen if we put our sex drive on the back burner & actually got to know men for who they are first?


    Who says "we" don't? icon_confused.gif
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    Apr 19, 2012 12:43 AM GMT
    OP, have you ever gone on a date in your life before that wasn't preceded with sex?
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    Apr 19, 2012 9:54 AM GMT


    I love this song from beauty&the beast.
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    Apr 19, 2012 10:06 AM GMT
    I'm not sure who the OP is because he is hidden/deleted for me...

    I am wondering why the barrage of mudslinging that all men are shallow lately? I have seen it in more than one forum.

    I mean the male bashing is worse than things I hear women saying...

    I think we've seen this thread before... typically we're attracted to the physical first,which is entirely subjective. Then most of us are looking for a complete package. Someone that is absolutely amazing in the looks department, but a complete douche of a personality is a big turn off (unless you're into that).

    However, if you are going to want a lasting relationship - you are going to have to find him physically appealing or there will be no sexual attraction - unless you aren't planning on doing the dirty with him.

    Oh and the title of the forum is misleading. I was ready to chime in with the "Tale as old as time. True as it can be...."
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    Apr 19, 2012 10:35 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA said
    2xciteu saidAs men we are turned on by sight h touch obviously. What would happen if we put our sex drive on the back burner & actually got to know men for who they are first?

    Who says "we" don't? icon_confused.gif

    Yes, this is a loaded question. When I was still single and dating I enjoyed meeting & knowing PEOPLE, women too, for purposes other than sex. I had my sex "stable" and I had my intellectual friends. And sometimes those 2 sets overlapped. Sometimes I tricked with a guy, and sometimes I got to know him first as a friend, and then sex happened. Or it didn't at all, we just remained friends.

    Partnered today, my friends are for the purpose of their friendship, not sex. And we travel on vacations together, we have dinner & drink together, we go out to movies & shows, we sit and talk together, and so forth, but sex has no part in what we do.

    And it's the same as when I was single, except that now sex (and love) is confined to 1 man. So that I think the OP's model & assumptions are faulty.