Do you have a low speaking voice?

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    Apr 19, 2012 1:50 AM GMT
    I talk very low and people often have trouble understanding what I'm saying. I especially feel awkward when someone leans their head in to hear me speak. I need to work on speaking up, but my self esteem is pretty low.icon_redface.gif
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    Apr 19, 2012 2:03 AM GMT
    Boland92 saidI talk very low and people often have trouble understanding what I'm saying. I especially feel awkward when someone leans their head in to hear me speak. I need to work on speaking up, but my self esteem is pretty low.icon_redface.gif


    Speaking clearly is probably more important than speaking up.
    I met a biggg tattooed body builder at the gym that I decided to ask questions. He looked very unapproachable and mean (looked like he wanted to keep a low profile) but I went up to him anyway. He had a very low voice with a strong Brooklyn accent but spoke very slowly and very clearly. Despite the strong accent and low voice (and regular noise/music at the gym) I heard him very well which is pretty rare at the gym. Turns out that he was very well spoken and helpful (several days) and I learned a lot from him. Sort of like the words flowed into my ears.
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    Apr 19, 2012 2:04 AM GMT
    Just take your time with it dude. And to answer your question I try to be well-spoken but it never works that well I'm just naturally outspoken
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    Apr 19, 2012 5:04 AM GMT
    I do, but I also speak fast, so I have to constantly repeat myself.
  • LJay

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    Apr 19, 2012 5:12 AM GMT
    As a vocalist, I can tell you that it is probably more a matter of your breath control than your self esteem. Since you are on a fitness board, consider a few voice lessons to help you to identify the muscles used and the feeling of using them well. It is an amazing feeling to learn this.

    Using the voice and the support mechanism for it is a a form of aerobics that most guys never even come to grips with.
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    Apr 19, 2012 5:28 AM GMT
    Yep, I'm like "the low talker" on Seinfeld. Thought I was the only one.

    I get flack about that from my dad sometimes, and he thinks it translates to low self-esteem, but it's really more of a bad habit than anything.

    If you feel like it's a problem, work on changing it. Sometimes it is just a matter of projecting and breath control.
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    Apr 19, 2012 5:31 AM GMT
    I've learned over the years to soften my voice for the effect of making people listen to me more intently.

    Though I've inherited the "command voice" from my dad (ex-Army drill sergeant) which has come in handy.
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    Apr 19, 2012 5:34 AM GMT
    As long as you don't talk like a girl you're good, nothing is more of a turn off than a hot guy who then opens his mouth and sounds like a valley girl...I'll take monosyllabic barritones anyday over that!!! ;)
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    Apr 19, 2012 5:49 AM GMT
    I agree with the others - being clear is so important, possibly more so than being fast and loud. When I lecture, I make sure I slow down my speech; sometimes I purposefully speaker quieter to make the students listen. It's all about the 'commanding presence'.
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    Apr 19, 2012 5:53 AM GMT
    I've got a very strong voice, deep and it carries easily. So I could be heard pretty easily when I need to be. Thankfully I've learned to speak softly; which makes me sound sexy when I'm tired and have little control over the resonance in my voice.
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    Apr 19, 2012 6:26 AM GMT
    Do you think it's tied to your self-esteem?

    Do you always speak in a low voice or at certain times?


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    Apr 19, 2012 6:27 AM GMT
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    Apr 19, 2012 6:30 AM GMT
    Do you mean that you speak quietly? Because that's different than having a low voice. I can talk very quietly at times. I don't know how that happened. I come from a very loud family. I guess I went the other direction.......in a lot of different ways. icon_neutral.gif

    I work on speaking up when I think people can't hear me. It isn't tied to my self esteem. I've had awkward situations when people heard me the wrong way or didn't hear me at all.
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    Apr 19, 2012 6:31 AM GMT
    My voice seems to change on me!
    I don't do it on purpose, but friends have told me sometimes I would either sound very fem or very butch! I guess it depends on who I'm talking to, or even my mood at the moment, lol! But I'm not conscious of how I sound until somebody tells me. Mmm.... icon_confused.gif
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    Apr 19, 2012 6:35 AM GMT

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    Apr 19, 2012 6:41 AM GMT
    Man just speak up!! Its your voice and part of who you are so own iticon_smile.gificon_smile.gif. Once you make it your own and speak up it will automaticlly bring confidence to you and improve yourself esteem.

    Being from another country I have a stong "Afrikaans" accent and people tell me how nice it sounds altough I HATE my accent, so you might not like your voice or how you speak but someone else might think the opposite!
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  • steventx

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    Jun 25, 2012 6:39 AM GMT
    All replies, considered, if I were asked, " do you have a low voice?", I would say, "yes!". I do not have a SOFT voice, nor, do I jave a high pitched voice. It easn't clear, in the question, was it meant Low, as in deep? Was it meant Low, as in soft?
  • Musicman91

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    Jun 25, 2012 6:41 AM GMT
    People tell me I should be a phone sex operator. I don't know what to think D:
  • steventx

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    Jun 25, 2012 12:13 PM GMT
    All replies, considered, if I were asked, " do you have a low voice?", I would say, "yes!". I do not have a SOFT voice, nor, do I jave a high pitched voice. It isn't clear, in the question, was it meant Low, as in deep? Was it meant Low, as in soft?
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    Jun 25, 2012 1:58 PM GMT
    Boland92 saidI talk very low and people often have trouble understanding what I'm saying. I especially feel awkward when someone leans their head in to hear me speak. I need to work on speaking up, but my self esteem is pretty low.icon_redface.gif

    I presume you mean low in volume (soft) rather than low in pitch? I was shy as a kid (yes, me), and also spoke softly until I was 20. Two things changed that, to where today I have a very strong voice, and my problem is instead toning it down.

    One was having leadership positions in the Army. My continued career depended on me becoming forceful and losing my shyness, so I just made it a conscious goal and priority.

    But it was also easy in a way, because most of the other guys around me had loud, aggressive voices, so it was somewhat like what they say about learning a foreign language. The best way is not from a book or in a classroom, but living in a place where everyone else speaks that language. Well, these guys spoke loud Army, and I learned from them.

    Second, I took a college degree in Speech, which included classes in public and dramatic speaking. At the same time I secured a position as a radio DJ, and did other voice work.

    Now you probably don't wanna join the military just to improve your voice, or devote an entire college degree to it. But you could take some elective courses. And you might try hanging out with those friends who have the personalities and voices you would like to have, too, guys with whom you feel comfortable, and try to study and emulate them, just like I did in the Army. Although these might be considered bandaids, I believe that such a backdoor approach can also serve to increase your confidence, which, as you sense, is likely at the root of your problem.
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    Jun 25, 2012 2:05 PM GMT
    is Toastmasters still around?