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well im a jamaican male mixed with a lil bit of italian and indian and i have never been kissed yet and frankly im a virgin when it comes to males. i realized that i have a big attraction when it comes to white guys..but havent found white guys attracted to blacks. do the races feel comfortable with the same?

Hey, don't worry about it...guys have hang-ups...a lot of 'em...it's some sorta rule...so when guys of a different color don't seem interested...move on, there will be others who are. Skin color is the most fundamental (and ridiculous) prejudice out there...and there's really no point in trying to overcome it...let the guys who don't appreciate you rot in their individual version of hell... In the meantime, keep looking for the guy who appreciates you for who you are...and not just your skin color...because you are so much more than that...but its our reality...so we just have to deal with it!
mark.

Are you kidding? I love black men.

mmmmm aint NO lover like a black man
they've got rhythm and finesse
no rushin
just sweet sweet fuckin

i love me my black boys

They are more passionate than white guys.

Do black men like white men?

I love me some black men!
Love it!!

From the musical Hairspray:"The blacker the berry, the sweeter the taste!
The darker the chocolate, the richer the taste!"

That kinda sums it up for me!

Why many black guys post this topic "Do white guys like black men?" Or it is suppose to be like a hook-up site "White Men for Black men" lol

Im white and have dated both. I am currently in my 2nd relationship with a black guy and love him with all my heart! I dont go looking for a specific color...just whatever happens happens

I do find a black man sexier tho. I think they kiss better and the blacker the berry the sweater the juice is true!!

I like black guys... I actually never date or have sex with them. I find them attractive sometime... I am not black, white, brown, or yellow.

I guess I am golden ;)

TurkishDelight saidDo black men like white men?

Hell yes!!! But I can only speak for myself.

darkphoenix89 saidi have never been kissed yet

You're cute. If you're in SF, let me know, and I'll solve the kissing problem for ya, no charge.

Don't try to put yourself out of the loop
men like men
If you're sexy... take care of yourself bodywise
dress well have a brain in your head so that you can carry on a conversation

don't worry... men will take notice

Predjudice starts,when you,re young.Dislike on the other hand is inhereted.
If the first is not encouraged,you never feel it.
The second will never actually leave you.
Therefore like Blacks/Indians.
Dislike the English.
moonboy

Uggg, Another thread on this. Enough already. Of course white guys like black guys....they like latino's, and asians too. However, you will find some that dont. It is just a man's personal preference.


Guys. Please. No more threads asking these types of questions.

I am attracted to black men (many, but not all) as well as men from all races. My love for a man is not, in any way, determined by the color of his skin.
Tom

I have been with some black man. I have never been one to discrimiante. I dated more black men then, I have my own white brothers. Just my preference I guess. All men are equal in my eyes. We still have a long ways to go to end discrimiation.

I am not particularly fond of black men that require "validation" by white men. But then I am not particularly fond of anyone who requires validation by others.

I don't know about other white men, but me.... I LOVE BLACK MEN!!!!! (well, not all of them....lol).

And as some more people said, it's all in the guy (brains,personality, sense of humour,...), not the colour of his skin.

UVaRob9 said

TurkishDelight saidDo black men like white men?

Hell yes!!! But I can only speak for myself.

Me Too Me Too Me Too..... But only had one b/f many moons ago from philly as I don't see many now living here apart from the odd tourist or Military ones with there pussy on there arm?

Boo Hoo Hoo!!!!!!!!

GQjock said
men like men
If you're sexy... take care of yourself bodywise
dress well have a brain in your head... men will take notice

I really think this is the core of it.. I hate to say it this way but, maybe it has nothing to do with race. Maybe the guys you've run into have been turned off by something else. I've been asked out by a few people before, black and white both, that have just been social awkward, weird people. And their race had nothing to do with why I turned them down.

Ok! Seriously, can we STOP already with the Black and White questions/statements!! Jeezuz!!!!

I believe the horse has been DEAD for QUITE some time now!!

its not that im being prejudice or anything. cause i love all races but i have been on site where i never posted a pic and people would send tons of messages saying they like my profile and they want to know me better and when i send a pic they say o im not into black people and im like wtf.

Interesting question. Some white guys like black men. Being black myself I have dated a whit guy before. However I have to point out, a lot of white guys who 'look' for black men are in reality looking for a stereo type. The thug, muscled, big dick, black guy. I don't date stereo types and therefore have no desire to be such myself.

a1972guy saidOk! Seriously, can we STOP already with the Black and White questions/statements!! Jeezuz!!!!

I believe the horse has been DEAD for QUITE some time now!!

Here here. we all have our likes and dislikes! This horse has been beaten into oil!

a1972guy saidOk! Seriously, can we STOP already with the Black and White questions/statements!! Jeezuz!!!!

I believe the horse has been DEAD for QUITE some time now!!

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I'm going to try to dismiss the fact that I'm weary of this question and will be nice.

*sigh* Here goes: some guys don't care about ethnicity, some do. Some guys don't care about how thin, muscular, fit, tanned, intelligent you are and some do. The ones that do aren't worth the pain they cause you. They either aren't attracted, which is fine, or they are insensitive assholes.

I think I'll be glad when someone posts a personal add instead of a questionaire because someone hurt thier ego and instead of searching the forums to see what has already been said they post a new topic as if this hasn't been addressed. It could be as simple as the following: quality black or latino or asian or indian or white or whatever kinda guy looking for ego bump from insert other ethnicity here. Haters need not reply. (I'm sure I'd get tired of that type of thing too, since I don't consider this a dating site.)

I'd say get over it, but that would be my exasperation speaking and sometimes it's hard to get over if it's in your face constantly and you're 18 with only 3 posts, so I should be more understanding. I guess I'm one of the lucky ones, I think I got the last white guy with a Mandingo complex. I'll try to work on some of the others for the new batch of young men out there. In the meantime, just be yourself and have fun.

The best way to deal with it is to be as up-front as possible, like Auryn said. Post a picture of yourself, like you have here. Note your background and take pride in it. However, you also need to look at why you are only attracted to white guys. If you expect people to be open-minded with you then you should also be open-minded. I challenge my white friends who only date white people and I also challenge anybody who isn't white and only dates white people.

Shakes head. Fucken duh of course there are white guys that like black guys. Don't think someone is rascist if they don't. Taste, thats all that shit is.

What I don't like is the double standard that a lot of black men have. They will call a white guy racist for not being into black guys but they never go for black guys themselves. Just like darkphoenix has stated, he doesn't like black guys. So what does that make him? A black guy that doesn't find his own race physically attractive, a self hating black man simply because he's black, an oreo cookie (black on the outside, white on the in)?

What about other races? It's not just a black and white issue.

I agree with everyone who has said they have had enough with these posts, so just read the old one about this subject and hopefully that'll help:

http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/55168/

White, black, what does it matter? We're all pink on the inside!

ENOUGH! ENOUGH! ENOUGH!

You're 18 years old youi have not lived loong enogh to ask this question! You need to ask yourself who are you limiting yourself to just one race when you are a mixture of a few!

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Mmmmm.... Horse meat, YUM!!!

i'm black/asian and my bf is white.
really...has it ever crossed your mind
that you're simply unnatractive or don't
have common interest with certain guys?
sure there are some people who don't date outside their race but i assure you that is a small percentage-whatever the reason may be. just get to know the person....on a platonic level..if it works out, then great! if not..move on.

and you say you're only attracted to white guys...what about the other races turns you off? particularly about blacks? answer that question..then ask yourself if you fall in that category..maybe that's why you haven't had any luck.."you are what you try to avoid" therefore you can't expect people to like you when you don't even like yourself!

i'm sure this can be argued but that's what a forum's about.

I lovvvve dark chocolate

They sure do and I got a box full of "forget me nots" to prove it. They aren't to keen on thugs though. Are you thuggish?
I gotta say I don't like thugs either...but I do like bikers.

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muchmorethanmuscle saidWhat I don't like is the double standard that a lot of black men have. They will call a white guy racist for not being into black guys but they never go for black guys themselves. Just like darkphoenix has stated, he doesn't like black guys. So what does that make him? A black guy that doesn't find his own race physically attractive, a self hating black man simply because he's black, an oreo cookie (black on the outside, white on the in)?

What about other races? It's not just a black and white issue.

muchmorethanmuscle thats intertesting i think i may be an oreo because i do work at abercrombie and hang around more white people but i am attracted to my race just dont prefer them cause most of the black men ive met which are alot are disrespectful and thinks my penis is the only part of me that exist. the white guys i know are romantic and think more about that individual so its just me generalizing it probably

muchmorethanmuscle thats intertesting i think i may be an oreo because i do work at abercrombie and hang around more white people but i am attracted to my race just dont prefer them cause most of the black men ive met which are alot are disrespectful and thinks my penis is the only part of me that exist. the white guys i know are romantic and think more about that individual so its just me generalizing it probably[/quote]


Oh where to start??? What is an oreo...please. I have mostly white friends also. So what. I know what I am. Im not a white man trapped in a black mans body. Not all black men will only be into your penis. Any guy can. Do not place an entire race in that catagory.

gymguy1 said
muchmorethanmuscle thats intertesting i think i may be an oreo because i do work at abercrombie and hang around more white people but i am attracted to my race just dont prefer them cause most of the black men ive met which are alot are disrespectful and thinks my penis is the only part of me that exist. the white guys i know are romantic and think more about that individual so its just me generalizing it probably

Oh where to start??? What is an oreo...please. I have mostly white friends also. So what. I know what I am. Im not a white man trapped in a black mans body. Not all black men will only be into your penis. Any guy can. Do not place an entire race in that catagory.

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well im not a white man stuck in a black mans body but i grew up in an area (bronx,ny) filled with guys that called themselves gangster and they claimed they were bloods and crips and latino kings. i seen white guys, blacks, asians and even indian claiming they were in gang showing colors. based on the wya i act and who i was around they labeled me an oreo. i didnt label myself that way. and im sorry if im offending you but i am young i realized but when you try and all you get is one result its natural to give up hope. i have gone on trains and dudes licking their lips at me which is just rude. i actually have gone in a bathroom and some dude decidees he is going to look at my penis making more obvious then anyone can have imagine. i have had a black dude i met who was sincere try to grope me down after one intellectual conversation. i know it just seems like i woke up and said hey im gonna like this and not like that or prefer this and not that but from my choices all came from experience. i live life as me but others label me the name oreo cause maybe if i lived in a different area i would simply be me but because i came from the bronx where alot of my friends have died in violence..they say "you orea. go hang with your whiteboys." now reading the post and what i read i guess i take it back when i say i dont like black men becuase i have been crushing on some black dudes for a while but i correct myself and say i dont like the black men i grew up around and i rather that beach white boy over the hood black guy and thats just my preference. my reason for posting this was that everytime i meet someone good they say your cute what are you and i say im black and they say im not into black people and i have gotten alot of these. even to the point i met one guy online and we were talking for a month. we met several times and i was really feeling him then we had a conversation about our background and he said "i thought u said you were jamaican" and i was like yes i guess thats considered black and he straight out blank said to me "i dont date black guys. i thought you were jamaican." and i looked at him like i just wasted precious days getting to know you. and one man posted on here maybe its because im ugly. maybe thats the case. i just wanted to know what others that were not in my area thought because according to the white guys in my area..not really..no not my style...thats why i came on here to get the world wide opinion. i was not discriminating

DarkPhoenix89,
Don't be so quick to take on the monicker of Oreo. It's as outlandish as letting someone convince you that you're a nigger. The term Oreo is a pejorative title given to black people that care to emulate the good components of White culture. It's as unacceptable as calling a White guy that acts like a thug a Wigger.

There may be those that go overboard to become or try prove that they are something other than what they grew up being, such as the guy that grows up and being masculine and turns extremely feminine (and vice versa) to overcompensate for how they think they should act in the gay world. If you grew up in a predominately white neighborhood and identify with that culture, how can you be called or allow yourself to be called an Oreo by anyone?

Don't let other peoples titles define you. Be who you are, be honest with who you are, and if anyone else ridicules you for it, they're the ones with the problem.

auryn,
i appreciate that. i come from a place where blacks acted like they ran the world and between the deaths the violence and the drugs. i have been labeled differently from them. being a bi individual didnt make things better cause they never spoke about gay and honestly when i tell you that the whole high school of boys played basketball and had girlfriends that is no exaggeration..i just felt alone and i kinda still feel alone cuz i still dont have that person that i could relate to. leaving high school into college i met other people that i thought they could relate to but they werent any different and you just lose hope in humanity.

Caslon5000 saidI am not particularly fond of black men that require "validation" by white men. But then I am not particularly fond of anyone who requires validation by others.

Precisely...here we go again..

I've wanted to say for quite some time, minorities, mixed or otherwise who are convinced that they are ONLY attracted to whites need to ask themselves: "Do I have significant REAL life experience that supports this position or am I just chasing a fantasy?"

If the answer is the latter, your black ass needs to snap out of it and get with the program!

In this forum and beyond I have regularly "whooped" on men (mostly white) who've come across to me as bigots and sexual racists, but offline it's been a different story for me.

In the real world, white men (along other types) respect my strength, integrity and understand my staunch pro-black stance. We've gotten along extraordinarily well sexually (over and over) and OK socially. I don't limit myself to any particular race.

What's important is to cast a wide net, be black for ALL races and approach prospective partners with confidence and have high expectations. Demand respect and get it. Of course you may encounter many bigots, and you should occasionally let them have it!

But ultimately you cannot expect to receive a level of consideration that you are not willing to give.

If you don't like your own people why should anyone else?

Personally, I think this topic has been beaten to death. It seems to be a reoccurent issue among black guys and it's a bit irritating.

There are white men that will like you and those that won't. Why should it matter? It only means they aren't worth your time.

Once I went Black, I never went back! Black men are the model of what a hot man is, to me anyway. Asians and Pacific Islanders, and certain Latinos are really hot, too. But Black men are WAY up there on the top of my ass... er, list. Yeah, that's it, list!

I too have dated every color under the rainbow. You'll notice in my pics that my partner is latino. Somehow, I have always been drawn to men of color. The dark, smooth skin just gets me going... Big time!

I haven't dated any white guys seriously and only messed around with two in my life time.

My problem is that I can be attracted to someone, but they don't seem to notice me or i get the impression that they're not interested in me. I get more interest on here than I do in public.

There are some guys I would bend over front wards for (lol!) but they give me nothing in return.

Even if I go to a predominately white club or bar, I gets nothing.

But I still think it doesn't matter the color the person is. All it takes is the right one!

I like black men as much as I like white men. I've I like someone I like them. I usually look at the persons face first, if there attractive to me then i'll go for it. Skin colour is not a factor at all.

No, White people are not attracted to any other peson apart from their own race. In fact white people abhor other races, that's why you never see mixed race babies.

*rol;ls eyes*
enough of the stupid questions already?

Life is like a box of crayola crayons. Some of them are sharp, dull, or may come in many different shades. They may even have a goffy or odd name, but we all still live in the same crayon box. With that said... WHO IN THE WORLD CARES IF THESE GUYS AREN'T GIVING YOU THE TIME OF DAY. Aka don't even lose your dignity over a piece of ass bro lol. NOT WORTH IT!

oh and another thing...

seriously guys (african americans) grow up! life isn't a cake walk. no one is required to like you. so have some dignity and sanity to stand up for yourself with out stooping down to their level (narrow minded people). we've come too far to just be all lame and retarded now. we should be worrying about bigger issues in our society like how ohbama will be end up like another kennedy if elected.

There's always someone who likes you and someone who doesn't ... it doesn't matter if you're white or black ;)

I like black men.

I like latino, white and black but have a preference for white and/or latino...that doesnt make me a self-hating black man... and before you can love yourself in this society you have to love yourself and know where you came from....

I think some of the responders are being unnecessarily hard on the original poster, a young (and obviously inexperienced) guy. He is simply sharing his observation and seeking responses from others. The gay community is plagued by racial prejudice. None of us can deny this fact. With that said, is the original poster's question that unreasonable?

As some responders have opined, the answer is obvious: some white guys like black guys, and vice versa. In my experiences--I'm an 'equal-opportunity' dater--I've met white guys who like black guys, as well as white guys who wouldn't touch black guys with a ten-foot pole. The original poster stated that he has witnessed the latter. Again, I join the responders who believe in respecting others' preferences. Besides, I'm no snow queen, so a white man's rejection could never stress me out. Seriously.

I often wonder about the foundation(s) upon which we base our ethnic preferences. To say that one likes what one likes because that is just what one likes seems honest and harmless. Certainly, it sounds nice. But is ethnic preference always that reducible? What about societal pressure, obvious trends, fetishization, racial prejudice, etc.? My experiences suggest that these factors sometimes colour our ethnic preferences more than we care to admit, yet we refuse to acknowledge them. Why?