Paying a stranger to cook and deliver food.

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    Apr 19, 2012 6:39 PM GMT

    My mom was telling me I should get food delivered since I hate cooking and the easiest to eat is usually the unhealthiest. But take out is expensive, more than I could justify.

    I said I wish there was someone I knew locally who could just double the amounts they cook at home and bring me that portion in tupperware (a few days worth at a time).

    I looked on a classified ads site, and there's an ad for a woman offering to cook and deliver meals just like I was talking about. I'd have to ask about pricing, but it's apparently quite a bit less than ordering from a restaurant.

    My only concern and the reason I'm asking here is: Is it a smart idea to entrust a stranger to cook & prepare food for you?

    There is no inspector coming to her kitchen like there is in restaurants. Will she store things properly? Does she know to wash her hands after handling raw meat? Will her dog lick my food while she's not looking? Will human bodily fluids get secretly added? Does any of that actually matter if it tastes good?

    I'd love to do it but am feeling very apprehensive. Whaddyas all tink?
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    Apr 19, 2012 7:01 PM GMT
    Stop being lazy and learn how to cook! It's not hard!
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    Apr 19, 2012 7:01 PM GMT
    That, in my eyes is a brilliant concept.

    While I think it is human nature to be apprehensive of strangers.... i think you might be demonizing this poor lady too quickly. icon_smile.gif

    Why not contact her, say you are really interested, explain your situation... as some discovery questions. More importantly, as if you can contact a couple of her other clients for a referral and even 'visit her kitchen'. You can even frame it as "Not that I do not trust you; I just want to be sure this is something we both want to work together in." Perhaps do your first pick up at her kitchen?

    I do not think its out of the realm of possibilities to ask for that information. You are hiring her for a service... asking for references and questions SHOULD be something she expects.

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    Apr 19, 2012 7:03 PM GMT
    If you have the slightest anxiety about someone else preparing your food, there is one simple solution.
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    Apr 19, 2012 7:05 PM GMT
    This is the simplest example of how knowledge can help you go from can't to can. Champion yourself, make several mistakes in the kitchen and learn how to cook what you want to eat. Good luck! icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 19, 2012 7:41 PM GMT
    If cooking was a possibility, don't you think I would be doing it myself?

    Thanks for the advice, gibby. From the way she wrote, she sounds not old, and savvy. Says she loves cooking, so it's not like she'd be a noob. The neighbourhood she posted her postal code in is a newish subdivision where couples starting families usually dwell. It's not going to be a hoarder house with cat urine everywhere.

    My impression is that it's probably a great idea. My problem is that I trust no one, and have a terribly low opinion of humans.

    I would like to see the kitchen, I think that would help. Not sure if she has references; I don't know how long this ad has been up.

    Would you do it?
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    Apr 19, 2012 7:43 PM GMT
    I would at least ask for references. You are technically hiring her for a service.
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    Apr 19, 2012 7:44 PM GMT
    SkinnyBitch saidIf cooking was a possibility, don't you think I would be doing it myself?

    Thanks for the advice, gibby. From the way she wrote, she sounds not old, and savvy. Says she loves cooking, so it's not like she'd be a noob. The neighbourhood she posted her postal code in is a newish subdivision where couples starting families usually dwell. It's not going to be a hoarder house with cat urine everywhere.

    My impression is that it's probably a great idea. My problem is that I trust no one, and have a terribly low opinion of humans.

    I would like to see the kitchen, I think that would help. Not sure if she has references; I don't know how long this ad has been up.

    Would you do it?


    That's because cooking is possible. You're just being lazy about it or haven't tried enough to make things within your own ability.

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    Apr 19, 2012 7:50 PM GMT
    pocketnico saidThat's because cooking is possible. You're just being lazy about it or haven't tried enough to make things within your own ability.

    You know not of what you speak. Try to keep an open mind especially when you have nothing to go on. If you're not going to be helpful and respond to the topic, which is "is it safe to pay a stranger to cook and deliver food", well you know what to do.
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    Apr 19, 2012 7:55 PM GMT
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    pocketnico saidThat's because cooking is possible. You're just being lazy about it or haven't tried enough to make things within your own ability.

    You know not of what you speak. Try to keep an open mind especially when you have nothing to go on. If you're not going to be helpful and respond to the topic, which is "is it safe to pay a stranger to cook and deliver food", well you know what to do.


    That's for all your grammar Nazi crap from previous posts icon_twisted.gif

    But honestly, what is so hard about cooking? Do you not have a kitchen at all? Nothing to go by?
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    Apr 19, 2012 7:57 PM GMT
    Just when you think Psychology Today had finally found the VERY LAST fear-based, anxiety-ridden, TOTALL UNNECESSARY, neurosis to ponder and obsess over....
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    Apr 19, 2012 8:06 PM GMT
    Cash saidJust when you think Psychology Today had finally found the VERY LAST fear-based, anxiety-ridden, TOTALL UNNECESSARY, neurosis to ponder and obsess over....


    So you're saying go for it?
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    Apr 19, 2012 8:10 PM GMT
    SkinnyBitch said

    Thanks for the advice, gibby. From the way she wrote, she sounds not old, and savvy. Says she loves cooking, so it's not like she'd be a noob. The neighbourhood she posted her postal code in is a newish subdivision where couples starting families usually dwell. It's not going to be a hoarder house with cat urine everywhere.


    I personally wouldn't do it, because I love cooking. Its a great way at the end of my day to unwind.

    Im guessing shes a stay at home mom who is starting her own business to augment the family's income, but also to 'do something'. I could be totally off base here and am imagining what I think she is... but I forsee you getting very "mom packed my lunch" treats included too.... like on St. Patricks day, Shamrock Sugar cookies included for dessert, and other "cute" touches.



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    Apr 19, 2012 8:11 PM GMT
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    Cash saidJust when you think Psychology Today had finally found the VERY LAST fear-based, anxiety-ridden, TOTALL UNNECESSARY, neurosis to ponder and obsess over....


    So you're saying go for it?


    Why not? You may want to get comfortable with her kitchen and cooking style, but it's not gonna be that different from getting take-out. Or hiring a personal chef. Or getting meals on wheels. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 19, 2012 8:14 PM GMT
    you don't trust humans yet you eat out and trust that the inspectors rating is accurate and that you trust that the cooks and servers in a restaurant adhere to strict guidelines and that the food that they prepared is 100% grade A.

    if you want cooking that you can "trust" then spend the money for a professional cook
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    Apr 19, 2012 8:15 PM GMT
    gibby320 saidThat, in my eyes is a brilliant concept.

    While I think it is human nature to be apprehensive of strangers.... i think you might be demonizing this poor lady too quickly. icon_smile.gif

    Why not contact her, say you are really interested, explain your situation... as some discovery questions. More importantly, as if you can contact a couple of her other clients for a referral and even 'visit her kitchen'. You can even frame it as "Not that I do not trust you; I just want to be sure this is something we both want to work together in." Perhaps do your first pick up at her kitchen?

    I do not think its out of the realm of possibilities to ask for that information. You are hiring her for a service... asking for references and questions SHOULD be something she expects.



    Great advice. Let us know if it works out.
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    Apr 19, 2012 8:19 PM GMT
    AMATHOS saidyou don't trust humans yet you eat out and trust that the inspectors rating is accurate and that you trust that the cooks and servers in a restaurant adhere to strict guidelines and that the food that they prepared is 100% grade A.

    if you want cooking that you can "trust" then spend the money for a professional cook


    Hah, I'm too cynical to assume that restaurant food is 100% grade A. I worked in one once. But restaurants are more open, there are lots of co-workers to notice strange-doings, and everyone is too busy to be doing things they shouldn't.

    There is a difference in a person doing it at home alone, maybe using food that's half-rotten from the clearance trolley at the grocery store.

    Sooo would anyone do this for himself? Or they would only recommend it to someone else but never themselves?
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    Apr 19, 2012 8:20 PM GMT
    SkinnyBitch said
    Cash saidJust when you think Psychology Today had finally found the VERY LAST fear-based, anxiety-ridden, TOTALL UNNECESSARY, neurosis to ponder and obsess over....


    So you're saying go for it?


    Yeah, sure...why not???

    Ask for a few sample menus, ask about kind and quality of ingredients (which I don't think you really care about anyway), get some references and try it out.
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    Apr 19, 2012 8:20 PM GMT
    I have a friend that cooks most of my meals. I'm multi-tasking all of the time and I find that it is not good to do that with cooking. I never have asked him to do it...he enjoys doing it. My best friend, that I lived with, used to do it for me. He also loved to cook. When he past away, another really good friend took over.

    It is yummy for me! icon_smile.gif And we are always talking about possible ways to make things healthier.

    Wow..I was just thinking about how long this has been going on now...over 10 years! I'm just so fortunate to have such awesome friends that love to cook! Tomorrow will be the 7 year anniversary that my best friend past away.
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    Apr 19, 2012 8:41 PM GMT
    Well, I've hired people to come in and clean the house. I even had someone cooking dinners one summer. But when I'm that busy, quality of life is severely limited. I'd rather pay someone to do some of the other work around here.

    On the other hand, I did have someone cooking for my Mom when she became incapable of doing it herself. It let her stay in her own home for a couple more years.
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    Apr 19, 2012 8:42 PM GMT
    SkinnyBitch saidI'd love to do it but am feeling very apprehensive. Whaddyas all tink?

    I don't believe you will have an easy legal recourse if you get food poisoning from a private, unlicensed provider.

    When my Father was terminally ill, living at home in 1997, I contracted with an at-home meal supplier. I couldn't cook for him, no knowledge, certainly not up to his tough standards, and he wasn't eligible for the "Meals on Wheels" county program because his income was too high. And he was usually too weak to go out to restaurants. Plus he refused to have a stranger come in to cook for him.

    But this private company would deliver 2 meals a day, lunch and supper, both around 11 AM in boxes. His light breakfast was just some toast he could make himself, along with some orange juice & fruit. If he was up to it I might take him out for breakfast, he could sometimes manage that.

    I'd reheat and enhance the 2 boxed meals with condiments, and serve them to him on regular dinnerware, making a nice presentation. He really enjoyed them, which pleased and relieved me so much. I wanted his last days to be as happy as possible. And like at a hospital, he went over their menu to select what items he wanted 2 days in advance.

    You might have such a service in your area. But from a private individual I would have my doubts.
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    Apr 19, 2012 8:53 PM GMT
    Some people pay a stranger for sex.

    You can pay a stranger to cook.
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    Apr 19, 2012 8:54 PM GMT
    I have a stranger cook and deliver my food all the time. He's named Papa John and unfortunately he hasn't mastered anything but pizza.
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    Apr 19, 2012 8:56 PM GMT
    Coach_Mike saidI have a stranger cook and deliver my food all the time. He's named Papa John and unfortunately he hasn't mastered anything but pizza.


    Is he Hot?
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    Apr 19, 2012 9:00 PM GMT
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    Coach_Mike saidI have a stranger cook and deliver my food all the time. He's named Papa John and unfortunately he hasn't mastered anything but pizza.


    Is he Hot?


    If that's actually Papa John in the commercials and not some actor playing Papa John then yeah, he is kind of hot.