Judgement call based on reactions to physical objects.

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    Apr 20, 2012 6:38 AM GMT
    So, I've not been in too many serious relationships, but I have found something that I have been subconsciously dictating weather or not I bring a guy home a second time. It is all based on how he reacts to certain things in my room. Sure, he can dislike some stuff, but there are several items that if his face shows derision or even scorn, I never call him for another outing.

    Now, for this case, the items would be my intense collection of Dungeons and Dragons books and my Lightsabers that I leave by the bedroom door. If I see that they have a primal look of disgust for even a moment, they don't get reconsiddered.

    I am curious, is that at all unreasonable?
    Do others amongst you feel the same about certain things?
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    Apr 20, 2012 9:50 AM GMT
    I think you're bizarre, but...I guess it's all about compatibility these days. But I mean, married couples have things one likes and the other doesn't. Music. Movies. Hobbies. Loosen up a bit, don't be so judgmental.

    I'd personally take that light-saber and start decapitating mofos like Luke did Chewbacca ...
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    Apr 20, 2012 11:33 AM GMT
    Eh, I guess I was a little unclear.

    Not the "Oh, well, I don't like Star Wars" expression. More of the "I can't believe he has toys, how immature of him" expression. I've had a few guys do that, and I know it is over the top to react to that. And I don't.

    I really only noticed it yesterday when I brought a guy into my room and, even though we were hardcore groping in the living room, seeing the lightsaber made him nerdgasm so hard that we had a long conversation about sci-fi books and videogames instead. Because of that reaction, I felt oddly pleased and liked him more, and by relation, made me realize I liked people less based on their reaction to those types of things.

    I just... started to think about it, and realized that I have been using it as a litmus test without even being aware of it. Now, I know the fawning over it is not to be expected, but the derision is normally where I subconsciously turn them down.
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    Apr 20, 2012 2:05 PM GMT
    What kind of relation were you looking for?

    If it's a hookup, who cares what they think. They can jolly well do their job and get out. Whatever.

    If you want more from them, of course that's a great way to screen them. A boyfriend doesn't have to be passionate about all your passions, but he shouldn't react with contempt.
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    Apr 20, 2012 2:21 PM GMT
    Dungeons and Dragons is awesome.

    I've never brought a guy in my room, so I don't have any experience with their scrutiny of its contents. However, right now I have a laundry basket full of cans of beer in my room. PARTTTYYY TONIGHT

    Anyway, it sounds like you aren't interested in pursuing guys who don't like your interests, which is actually pretty normal. I don't want a long term relationship, but if I did I'd pick a guy with similar interests, and a nice ass.