Relationship Questions Thread. RQT

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    Apr 22, 2012 2:04 AM GMT
    My boyfriend mentions my roommate too much. Yes, 1 time saying, "oh he's cute," yeah thats fine, he's simply giving a compliment, but other times as we'll...im not worried per se, seeing as my roommate is straight, but it gets to me.

    What should I do?

    I confronted him in front of another gay couple we were out to dinner with when he mentioned him again, and one of them asked for a description while the other looked at me with a sad glance. I never saw myself as a person who would be upset by such a small thing, but I am. I really love him (and he's expressed the same to me) and everything else is perfect, keep this in mind.

    He's also spoken, with ease, about another couple he knows who have an open relationship, not saying that he wants one, but when I expressed my personal disgust with this, he defended them..

    Help.




    Im also thinking this thread could be a relationship question and answer forum, probably been others but heres a new version icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 22, 2012 2:23 AM GMT
    Sleep with your roommate before your bf gets the chance.
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    Apr 22, 2012 3:16 AM GMT
    I need real answers people icon_eek.gif, yes this is a thread bump.
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    Apr 22, 2012 3:34 AM GMT
    I gave a real answer. This is where you come for free advice, not good advice. This is a relationship questions thread and it was your idea. Your question has been answered. Next relationship question, please.
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    Apr 22, 2012 4:01 AM GMT
    What are you even asking for advice on???

    Whether you should continually nag yer boyfriend and make inappropriate dinner conversation in front of others because he thinks your Straight roomate is cute???

    IS your Straight roommate cute???

    Perhaps he defended his friends with the open relationship because they are his friends and it is their right to live THEIR lives as they see fit and your "disgust" is completely judgemental and irrelevant????

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    Apr 22, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    You need to deal with your jealously issues...it's your problem... not his...Your disgust regarding an open relationship...If it works for that couple who are you to judge...took a stab at it
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    Apr 22, 2012 4:26 AM GMT
    mybud saidYou need to deal with your jealously issues...it's your problem... not his...Your disgust regarding an open relationship...If it works for that couple who are you to judge...took a stab at it


    Thats what i figured...i'm not a jealous person, but i guess in a relationship you have to allow for things you never thought ud have to...or maybe i could wait for real love icon_neutral.gif
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    Apr 22, 2012 4:57 AM GMT
    pat33rob saidMy boyfriend mentions my roommate too much. Yes, 1 time saying, "oh he's cute," yeah thats fine, he's simply giving a compliment, but other times as we'll...im not worried per se, seeing as my roommate is straight, but it gets to me.

    What should I do?

    I confronted him in front of another gay couple we were out to dinner with when he mentioned him again, and one of them asked for a description while the other looked at me with a sad glance. I never saw myself as a person who would be upset by such a small thing, but I am. I really love him (and he's expressed the same to me) and everything else is perfect, keep this in mind.

    He's also spoken, with ease, about another couple he knows who have an open relationship, not saying that he wants one, but when I expressed my personal disgust with this, he defended them..

    Help.
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    Then considering this,
    "(and he's expressed the same to me)" means he loves you. Do you trust that, with him?

    btw, I defend open relationships (which I think as valid as ours) even though I don't want one. icon_wink.gif

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    Apr 22, 2012 5:09 AM GMT
    Yes he's expressed he loves me, and I did trust this and it made me really happy, but when someone mentions their interest in something multiple times...a hint is bound to be taken. Someone mentions an object a lot, u take it as a hint to get it for them, someone mentions other people...it might be time to step aside..
    Guess i got the advice i needed, thanks guys.
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    Apr 22, 2012 5:13 AM GMT
    Iceblink saidSleep with your roommate before your bf gets the chance.



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  • mikeylikes

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    Apr 22, 2012 6:29 AM GMT
    i mean how often is often?

    i think i'd be fine with someone mentioning that another guy were attractive. i mean if ur boyfriend is with you, he probably thinks youre pretty attractive too.

    but if its everyday or even every few days then maybe its a little much. maybe you could pick someone you think is hot and keep mentioning them. i think thats petty, but i mean if he gets annoyed then you can both stop...

    if i had a boyfriend who got upset when i stared at a hot piece of ass i'd probably break up. even the expectation of monogamy can't rule out finding other people attractive
  • monet

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    Apr 22, 2012 6:43 AM GMT
    Post pictures of your cute roommate, preferably naked.
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    Apr 22, 2012 8:09 AM GMT


    If he's with you, then you shouldn't really feel threatened... If he trusts, you, then you should trust him.