Thoughts on a machine sharing incident...

  • wriggle

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    Apr 22, 2012 7:23 AM GMT
    Ok, this just happened to me today and would love to hear opinions.

    Like some of you, a major pet peeve of mine used to be getting asked to share machines. That was years ago when I was a newbie. These days, especially when the gym is full, I happily let others work in if I'm asked having learned gym etiquette over the years aside from just being common courtesy.

    However! Today something happened that really pissed me off.

    Let's set the scene first: There is practically no one in the gym and there is no one, and I mean NO one in the weight machine section except me and one other guy. There are about 15 machines. There are also 15+ machines open right next to me near the free weights.

    I always have my headphones on when working out which are at a volume level high enough to drown out the environment around me. This is intentional. I get into my zone, focus on my workout, helps to remove virtually all distractions and hopefully indicate that I'm not there to socialize.

    I just get done adjusting the weight on the chest press, sit down and grab the handles when this guy approaches me and says something that I can't hear. I move one headphone over and he asks "mind if I work in?"

    I give an exaggerated look around at all the empty machines trying to make a point and say "OK" in an obviously annoyed tone. He gets pissy and says, "I'll work at another machine if it's a big deal". I respond, "Yea, if you don't mind, every other machine is open".

    Now I'm really pissed, mainly on principle alone. Are you kidding me?? You can't find ANYTHING else to do for 5 friggen minutes? Note that this guy clearly was not doing any kind of circuit and wasn't on the machine prior.

    In hindsight, I probably should have just been nice and said yes but, I think this was just being inconsiderate.

    Thoughts? Thanks!

    -W


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    Apr 22, 2012 9:25 AM GMT
    guys who work out with ipods blaring are generally dicks.
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    Apr 22, 2012 1:30 PM GMT
    Did he adjust the weight up? If so it was clearly an intimidation factor. Some jerks like to do that. Otherwise, he might have been an audiologist worried about your hearing.
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    Apr 22, 2012 1:38 PM GMT
    I'm not seeing the big deal that would warrant your reaction, frankly. It's not worth getting that worked up over, IMO.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 22, 2012 1:38 PM GMT
    My suggestion to you is to blow it off. Life is too short to worry about this sort of incident. I understand it's aggravating, but be a bigger guy and handle it smoothly.

    My point is, sure, what he did was ridiculous... but I personally dislike getting all worked up about something that isn't worth it. Save your ire for something that is really worth it...... and have a great workout!

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    Apr 22, 2012 1:41 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidMy suggestion to you is to blow it off. Life is too short to worry about this sort of incident. I understand it's aggravating, but be a bigger guy and handle it smoothly.

    My point is, sure, what he did was ridiculous... but I personally dislike getting all worked up about something that isn't worth it. Save your ire for something that is really worth it...... and have a great workout!

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    What the handsome man said. Look at it like being cut off in traffic. Salute him as you walk out and forget about it.
  • jock_1

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    Apr 22, 2012 1:56 PM GMT
    No big deal in my book. Either the guy was trying to strike up a convo or was just that stupid to even ask to work in when the gym was empty. You should have just told him it was all his and went to another machine and back to that one later in your workout. All you did was let him ruin your workout.
  • Laurence

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    Apr 22, 2012 2:00 PM GMT
    I get irritated by things like this. But generally only for about 5 minutes. Then I forget and get back to my work-out/day dreaming.

    Learn to let go of your anger. It only makes you tense and causes you stress.

    Next time someone asks to work in. Tell them how many sets you have to do or how long you'll be and let them wait.

    Don't stress the small stuff.

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  • chi_rock

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    Apr 22, 2012 2:14 PM GMT
    Keep in mind that sometimes people have a routine moving from a certain exercise to another in sequence. What is the big deal about sharing, anyway? If he can get in and out while you rest, just let him do it.
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    Apr 22, 2012 2:27 PM GMT
    I tend to agree. When anyone wants to share a machine with me I feel rushed almost.
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    Apr 22, 2012 2:34 PM GMT
    This is a puzzling case. If there were other machines available that were the same kind as yours, and he STILL wanted to work in and use yours - - - - - that would make me think he wanted to meet or talk with me (even hit on me). If that was the case - - - and the guy was hot, I'd be up for sharing my machine.
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    Apr 22, 2012 3:44 PM GMT
    The question raised if there were other machines the same as yours is a factor. If there were others, I would have said OK, but why not use that machine that is the exact same? Otherwise, I think you should have not made a big deal out of it. As mentioned, he might have had a set routine that he wanted to do. More experienced lifters learn to adjust the order to keep going, not waiting or sharing when possible. Others are less experienced and aren't comfortable doing that. Also possible he wanted to meet or improve his weights/reps on that machine, and exercise order does make a difference.
  • wriggle

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    Apr 22, 2012 6:16 PM GMT
    Thanks all for your input. As expected, most was constructive and thoughtful.

    Some clarity:

    1) I exaggerated regarding my reaction. I would say I was more disturbed then pissed, mainly because I personally would have been more considerate under the circumstances I described. If it was to start a conversation, so be it but, at least wait until I'm done with a set as opposed to interrupting me.

    2) Upon reflection, there were no other machines of this type. Regardless, I still think this was an odd situation.

    3) I completely agree, life is short and not worth getting upset over. For the record, I typically am very level-headed and don't let much get to me, including being snapped judged as a dick because I blast my headphones to drown out the legitimate dicks. ;-)

    4) I neglected to add this detail. This guy wondered off for about a minute, then proceeds to plop down on the leg extension right in front of me and stare me down the remainder of the time I was on the machine which totaled less then 4 minutes. My response was to ignore him, wipe down the machine when I was done and walk away. Proud of me?

    -W
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    Apr 22, 2012 6:19 PM GMT
    GonzoTheGreat saidguys who work out with ipods blaring are generally dicks.


    Or, I don't enjoy being blasted by Hillbilly music from the PA system while I'm working out. Or, worse, today's "top 40" with commercials from a Clearchannel broadcaster.
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    Apr 22, 2012 6:20 PM GMT
    He could have OCD. Perhaps he liked the lighting in the area. Maybe he has some type of connection with that particular machine...... .

    He ended up working on another machine as a result.

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  • wriggle

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    Apr 22, 2012 6:27 PM GMT

    Why is this matter still renting space in your head?icon_rolleyes.gif[/quote]

    For future reference. I just was curious what the majority thought. That's all.
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    Apr 22, 2012 6:29 PM GMT
    RobertF64 said
    GonzoTheGreat saidguys who work out with ipods blaring are generally dicks.


    Or, I don't enjoy being blasted by Hillbilly music from the PA system while I'm working out. Or, worse, today's "top 40" with commercials from a Clearchannel broadcaster.


    naaa.
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    Apr 22, 2012 6:37 PM GMT
    Maybe he was trying to make a friend and that was the best approach he could think of...
  • suedeheadscot

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    Apr 22, 2012 7:46 PM GMT
    wriggle saidOk, this just happened to me today and would love to hear opinions.

    Like some of you, a major pet peeve of mine used to be getting asked to share machines. That was years ago when I was a newbie. These days, especially when the gym is full, I happily let others work in if I'm asked having learned gym etiquette over the years aside from just being common courtesy.

    However! Today something happened that really pissed me off.

    Let's set the scene first: There is practically no one in the gym and there is no one, and I mean NO one in the weight machine section except me and one other guy. There are about 15 machines. There are also 15+ machines open right next to me near the free weights.

    I always have my headphones on when working out which are at a volume level high enough to drown out the environment around me. This is intentional. I get into my zone, focus on my workout, helps to remove virtually all distractions and hopefully indicate that I'm not there to socialize.

    I just get done adjusting the weight on the chest press, sit down and grab the handles when this guy approaches me and says something that I can't hear. I move one headphone over and he asks "mind if I work in?"

    I give an exaggerated look around at all the empty machines trying to make a point and say "OK" in an obviously annoyed tone. He gets pissy and says, "I'll work at another machine if it's a big deal". I respond, "Yea, if you don't mind, every other machine is open".

    Now I'm really pissed, mainly on principle alone. Are you kidding me?? You can't find ANYTHING else to do for 5 friggen minutes? Note that this guy clearly was not doing any kind of circuit and wasn't on the machine prior.

    In hindsight, I probably should have just been nice and said yes but, I think this was just being inconsiderate.

    Thoughts? Thanks!

    -W




    Can I just ask, wriggle, was there only one chest press in the gym? The guy may not have been comfortable doing weights.

    Also - as much as you hate using the machines - the guy may have been following a routine and the chest press was next on the list.

    Just a thought.