Just need to rant

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    Apr 22, 2012 3:53 PM GMT
    Alright so...another 'why the fuck did he do this' kind of thread. Usually I am really good at analyzing situations but this completely caught me off guard.

    Ok so...this semester I wanted to ease my way into the dating scene again so I (regrettably) joined OKCupid. Couple flakes, weirdos, trolls...whatever I was expecting it. So around the first week of March this really good looking 33 year old messaged me. He is in the Air Force, goes to J&W in Providence, seemed like the type of guy that I would really like.

    So we chatted there for a bit then exchanged numbers/facebook and I was surprised how long we could chat on the phone. We chatted for hours, got to know each other over the next few days, and I was really excited that this had some sort of potential. So, he agreed to come up to campus to have a drink with me and we both were really excited. Two days before we were supposed to meet up, i wake up to a Facebook message saying he was having second thoughts because he broke up with his boyfriend on February 27, blah blah blah.

    I am thinking to myself he is just another flake. I texted him that i wasn't sure if he was telling the truth but i'd give him the benefit of the doubt, that i'm a simple guy and don't like games...and some other not to nice things. I texted him a few minutes later apologizing and that i would rather talk on the phone than text. So we chatted later that afternoon and he just started yelling at me...literally. He was saying things like i wasn't understanding where he was coming from, he didn't want a 'weekend relationship'...and all this bullshit. I told him he was dooming something that hasn't even started. He said he didn't want to talk to me again and blocked me on Facebook. I was pissed that day and got over it. I just thought of him as another flake.

    So a month goes by and he texts me, asking me how i have been. So a bunch of alarms go in my head but i wanted to hear him out. We talked again and he gave me a really heartfelt apology saying I was right about everything, how he wasn't ready at the time, its been bugging him how he treated me for the past month, etc. I asked him what his intentions were because it was pretty fishy that he would text me after a whole month. He said he had no ill intentions that even if i just heard his apology and never spoke again he would be content but if i had the heart to give him a second chance he said i wouldn't regret it.

    People that know me know I don't give second chances...kind of my thing. I told him i would think about it. I had a really weird dream that night and i woke up thinking that i would get out of my comfort zone and give him another shot. So we meet up that week for dinner and a drink. The date was awesome, we chatted the whole time, had really great chemistry...it was really going well. He stayed over and we slept together...best sex i have ever had hands down. He left late friday afternoon and we were texting that week back and forth...very 'how's the weather' kind of conversations but whatever, i don't read much into texts.

    He told me he just wanted to let me know that he deleted his Facebook because his friend was denied an internship because of what was on his Facebook. Viable excuse but i had a voice in the back of my head saying i should double check that. Two days later I had to check and asked a friend to look him up on Facebook and low and behold...she could find him and i couldn't. The asshole blocked me. I texted him saying, "Funny how my friend could find you on Facebook and i couldn't. you did delete it right? Thanks for the sex, don't contact me again." Then i left him a voicemail saying that i really, really hope someone fucks you over more than you did me and that this will be the last thing he would ever hear from me again.

    I am just trying to make reason of this situation. Why, after one whole month, he apologies and begs me to give him a second chance...come over on a thursday night at 7:30...leaves friday afternoon at like 5...just to do that? Did he really drive just under 90 minutes to sleep with me? Really? He lives in Providence but he drives to bumblefuck connecticut JUST to fuck me?

    Worst part is...is that i can't get back at him. I would love nothing more than to beat the living shit out of this asshole and make him feel miserable but...i can't . I know that i just need to get over it and move on but...ugg just so pissed off.
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    Apr 22, 2012 6:03 PM GMT
    Oooo Gurrl.....CUT DA BETCH!!!!
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    Apr 22, 2012 6:13 PM GMT
    AlexanderB saidAlright so...another 'why the fuck did he do this' kind of thread. Usually I am really good at analyzing situations but this completely caught me off guard.

    Ok so...this semester I wanted to ease my way into the dating scene again so I (regrettably) joined OKCupid. Couple flakes, weirdos, trolls...whatever I was expecting it. So around the first week of March this really good looking 33 year old messaged me. He is in the Air Force, goes to J&W in Providence, seemed like the type of guy that I would really like.

    So we chatted there for a bit then exchanged numbers/facebook and I was surprised how long we could chat on the phone. We chatted for hours, got to know each other over the next few days, and I was really excited that this had some sort of potential. So, he agreed to come up to campus to have a drink with me and we both were really excited. Two days before we were supposed to meet up, i wake up to a Facebook message saying he was having second thoughts because he broke up with his boyfriend on February 27, blah blah blah.

    I am thinking to myself he is just another flake. I texted him that i wasn't sure if he was telling the truth but i'd give him the benefit of the doubt, that i'm a simple guy and don't like games...and some other not to nice things. I texted him a few minutes later apologizing and that i would rather talk on the phone than text. So we chatted later that afternoon and he just started yelling at me...literally. He was saying things like i wasn't understanding where he was coming from, he didn't want a 'weekend relationship'...and all this bullshit. I told him he was dooming something that hasn't even started. He said he didn't want to talk to me again and blocked me on Facebook. I was pissed that day and got over it. I just thought of him as another flake.

    So a month goes by and he texts me, asking me how i have been. So a bunch of alarms go in my head but i wanted to hear him out. We talked again and he gave me a really heartfelt apology saying I was right about everything, how he wasn't ready at the time, its been bugging him how he treated me for the past month, etc. I asked him what his intentions were because it was pretty fishy that he would text me after a whole month. He said he had no ill intentions that even if i just heard his apology and never spoke again he would be content but if i had the heart to give him a second chance he said i wouldn't regret it.

    People that know me know I don't give second chances...kind of my thing. I told him i would think about it. I had a really weird dream that night and i woke up thinking that i would get out of my comfort zone and give him another shot. So we meet up that week for dinner and a drink. The date was awesome, we chatted the whole time, had really great chemistry...it was really going well. He stayed over and we slept together...best sex i have ever had hands down. He left late friday afternoon and we were texting that week back and forth...very 'how's the weather' kind of conversations but whatever, i don't read much into texts.

    He told me he just wanted to let me know that he deleted his Facebook because his friend was denied an internship because of what was on his Facebook. Viable excuse but i had a voice in the back of my head saying i should double check that. Two days later I had to check and asked a friend to look him up on Facebook and low and behold...she could find him and i couldn't. The asshole blocked me. I texted him saying, "Funny how my friend could find you on Facebook and i couldn't. you did delete it right? Thanks for the sex, don't contact me again." Then i left him a voicemail saying that i really, really hope someone fucks you over more than you did me and that this will be the last thing he would ever hear from me again.

    I am just trying to make reason of this situation. Why, after one whole month, he apologies and begs me to give him a second chance...come over on a thursday night at 7:30...leaves friday afternoon at like 5...just to do that? Did he really drive just under 90 minutes to sleep with me? Really? He lives in Providence but he drives to bumblefuck connecticut JUST to fuck me?

    Worst part is...is that i can't get back at him. I would love nothing more than to beat the living shit out of this asshole and make him feel miserable but...i can't . I know that i just need to get over it and move on but...ugg just so pissed off.
    There's where ya blew it.
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    Apr 22, 2012 6:17 PM GMT
    Unfortunately there are those people who live for the drama and just want to fuck with people. At the end of the day, it's about their stuff and they are to be pitied.

    I'm sorry that this happened to you. Please don't beat yourself up because you went against your normal intuition/choice WRT giving him a second chance.

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    Apr 22, 2012 6:29 PM GMT
    Go Lorena Bobbitt on his ass!!
    Er, dick, I mean...
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    Apr 23, 2012 3:44 AM GMT
    AlexanderB saidSo we chatted later that afternoon and he just started yelling at me...literally.

    Well, that's the bottom line for me. I mean, you haven't even met the guy and he is already shouting at you... I'd say Goodbye.

    AlexanderB saidWorst part is...is that i can't get back at him. I would love nothing more than to beat the living shit out of this asshole and make him feel miserable but...i can't . I know that i just need to get over it and move on but...ugg just so pissed off.

    You only hurt yourself by hurting others. It doesn't anyone good.
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    Apr 23, 2012 3:49 AM GMT
    So you broke it off because of facebook?