That's so gay!!

  • TheBizMan

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    Apr 22, 2012 5:19 PM GMT
    When people use this term to mean "Stupid, lame, boring...etc", does it offend you?

    Is it wrong/hypocritical to use this term if you are gay?

    In my experience, it's more of the younger crowd that uses gay in this sense.
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    Apr 22, 2012 5:45 PM GMT
    I do it often and also like to make joke about gays with friends. I don't see the problem. If it's hypocritical, then I guess i'm a hypocrite.
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    Apr 22, 2012 6:05 PM GMT
    If I hear it from someone, I mentally dock them 100 points. I've had gay thrown at me as an insult enough that, no matter what they think they mean, I cannot help but be angered.
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    Apr 22, 2012 6:08 PM GMT
    It's stupid. I cringe every time some idiot says it.
    Well, maybe if they mean to say "gay" like it's literally gay/fabulous then I guess that's OK. lol
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    Apr 22, 2012 6:09 PM GMT
    It's insulting, even if another gay person says it to another.
    When one of my gay friends said that to me one time, i told him using that word to describe stupidity or mediocrity degrades OUR sexual orientation, enforcing the homophobia within us as much as how society treated us.
    He never did it again.
  • CarbGoggles

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    Apr 22, 2012 6:09 PM GMT
    Hahaha yikes I use gay as a generic derogatory slam all the time.
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    Apr 22, 2012 6:20 PM GMT
    TheBizMan saidWhen people use this term to mean "Stupid, lame, boring...etc", does it offend you?

    Is it wrong/hypocritical to use this term if you are gay?

    In my experience, it's more of the younger crowd that uses gay in this sense.


    I think that it is wrong to say it.
    I would consider myself a hypocrite if I ever started saying it.
    And I would feel cowardly if I just went with the flow and didn't object if my friends said it.
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    Apr 22, 2012 6:27 PM GMT
    I always get embarrassed
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    Apr 22, 2012 6:42 PM GMT
    I don't take it personally, but I really do not like it.

    I have this one guy who hangs out in my clique at school, and he uses it A LOT! There are three ways in which he uses it. First, to mean lame, second to mean 'imba/imbalanced' which is a gaming term for something too powerful (I suppose this is good, but generally people use it when someone else is too powerful, and kills them or something), and lastly as a stereotypical homosexual.

    Whenever he uses it in the first two ways, I pass a sarcastic (but friendly) remark about how he's SOOOOO correct, and then tell him it's wrong, and not to use it that way anymore.

    As for the last one, he actually uses it on himself a lot... because he really likes the colour pink... and rainbows...

    But no, he isn't gay, and no offence to him, but there is NO WAY I'd ever be interested.
  • A_1991

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    Apr 22, 2012 6:46 PM GMT
    I use it all the time. I don't really get offended by it if someone uses it as long as I know it is not meant in like an offense way.
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    Apr 22, 2012 6:48 PM GMT
    Trollileo said.
    ^ is so Gay!icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Apr 22, 2012 6:49 PM GMT
    Trollileo saidI don't get offended when someone calls me a kyke. I'm not going to get offended when someone calls me a faggot. Especially if it's in jest.


    What if someone calls you a SweaterVest Whore?
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    Apr 22, 2012 6:53 PM GMT
    Trollileo saidI'd be more offended if someone called me a Rick Santorum supporter.

    That would be just a plain old lie! can you imagine holding that assholes nutsack?
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    Apr 22, 2012 6:53 PM GMT
    No because language is a living thing and words change, as do their meanings. Lets not forget there are still people alive, were to them gay once meant bight, cheerful, up beat, then it come to mean homosexual, poofter; so anyone up set that it once again has, and is taking on a new meaning, just need to suck it up, build a bridge and get over it.

    Any how to me as a Bona Fide Homosexual, they can do whatever they wish to gay anyhow, as it's a banner I have long thought stoped to represent us heal homosexuals, since they started to shove every Tom, Dick, and Harriette under it.
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    Apr 22, 2012 6:54 PM GMT
    TrueBlueAussie saidNo because language is a living thing and words change, as do their meanings. Lets not forget there are still people alive, were to them gay once meant bight, cheerful, up beat, then it come to mean homosexual, poofter; so anyone up set that it once again has, and is taking on a new meaning, just need to suck it up, build a bridge and get over it.

    Any how to me as a Bona Fide Homosexual, they can do whatever they wish to gay anyhow, as it's a banner I have long thought stoped to represent us heal homosexuals, since they started to shove every Tom, Dick, and Harriette under it.
    Go have another bona fide drink!
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    Apr 22, 2012 6:56 PM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said It's insulting, even if another gay person says it to another.
    When one of my gay friends said that to me one time, i told him using that word to describe stupidity or mediocrity degrades OUR sexual orientation, enforcing the homophobia within us as much as how society treated us.
    He never did it again.


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    Apr 22, 2012 6:57 PM GMT
    TrueBlueAussie said
    GigoloAssassin said It's insulting, even if another gay person says it to another.
    When one of my gay friends said that to me one time, i told him using that word to describe stupidity or mediocrity degrades OUR sexual orientation, enforcing the homophobia within us as much as how society treated us.
    He never did it again.


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    Apr 22, 2012 9:48 PM GMT
    Its only insulting if you let it be
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    Apr 22, 2012 9:58 PM GMT
    Whenever I hear it, I usually say something like "Oh, you think it's awesome?"
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    Apr 22, 2012 10:05 PM GMT
    Unless I know the person used it to offend someone I don't care. It's just a word and the actual meaning isn't bad either.
    Also I don't want to make other people think about everything they say to me.
  • LJay

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    Apr 22, 2012 10:11 PM GMT
    I haven't paid a lot of attention to it until recently. A good friend of mine, who is straight, used it and it just cakught me wrong. At the root of the usage, it is pejorative. Somehow this particular time it just sounded wrong.

    Still have not made up my mind.
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    Apr 22, 2012 10:46 PM GMT
    I call out anyone who uses the term GAY in a pejorative way. And it IS the younger generation who does this the most, from my experience.
  • TheBizMan

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    Apr 23, 2012 12:22 AM GMT
    I personally don't take offence. I've said it before and thought nothing of it, but it just sort of dawned on me. Now it slightly bothers me, not enough for me to say anything though.
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    Apr 23, 2012 12:26 AM GMT
    It's all about intentions.
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    Apr 23, 2012 12:27 AM GMT
    I get annoyed when people say it, but I guess it's just the way society has the word being used. I mean the word is supposed to mean 'happy' and now it means 'homosexual' and/or 'stupid' / 'annoying' etc. It doesn't bother me that much to the point that I'll demand they take it back, just a little nuisance.