Is anyone else an Introvert?

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    Apr 23, 2012 11:10 PM GMT
    I've always thought something was wrong with me because I like spending a lot of my time alone. Don't get me wrong, I love meeting new people and love hanging out with people, but I've always been a bit of a quiet type when it comes to certain ways. It doesn't mean I'm angry or depressed, it just means that I appreciate my time alone and am pretty happy with who I am.

    If you need a little bit more info on what an Introvert is, here's a pretty cool quote from one of my friends that describes me fairly well

    You're probably just an introvert. This isn't a bad thing, despite the negative connotations that usually go along with. You probably don't care much for small talk or at least don't see the point in talking without having something to say. I'm guessing you also don't much care for social pleasantries and would prefer people be honest and real. They feel artificial and plastic: e.g. "I'm doing this just so you like me more." I'm guessing you don't update your Facebook status a lot.
    Your likes and interests might not intersect much with "normal" group interests. Also, you probably pay close attention to your emotions and thoughts, and enjoy reflecting inward. You already said you value your few close friends, and I'm guessing you have strong feelings of loyalty to them.
    It's not a bad thing to be an introvert, and about a third of the population identifies as such. I too have gotten into (presumed) problems about making new friendships, but I don't have much advice to help you out of it. A lot of social interactions still feel kinda plastic, but sometimes you just need to make concessions. I've tried doing this recently, and I've had positive results so far. The adage "fake it til you make it" seems to be true, as much I hate to admit so. For me, it was a matter knowing when to suppress the introvertive voice and becoming comfortable with social interactions. It's ok to make mistakes, you will get burned, you will be fine.



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    Apr 23, 2012 11:12 PM GMT
    Also, in before Claystation or anyone else asks to see my I.D. icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 23, 2012 11:16 PM GMT
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    Apr 23, 2012 11:19 PM GMT
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    Josh1992 saidAlso, in before Claystation or anyone else asks to see my I.D. icon_twisted.gif


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    Apr 23, 2012 11:25 PM GMT
    Yes, very much so.

    Quote from another thread:

    xrichx saidRelated:
    http://www.carlkingcreative.com/10-myths-about-introverts

    10 Myths About Introverts

    Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
    This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

    Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
    Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

    Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
    Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

    Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
    On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

    Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
    Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

    Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
    Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

    Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
    Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

    Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
    Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

    Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
    Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

    Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
    A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.
  • TheBizMan

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    Apr 23, 2012 11:26 PM GMT
    In large part, yes. I don't have a problem meeting new people, or feel uncomfortable doing so. I just tend to stick to a core group of friends, or myself.
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    Apr 23, 2012 11:26 PM GMT

    <------Recovering introvert here
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    Apr 23, 2012 11:26 PM GMT
    Huge introvert here, which is weird since both my first and second career fields are dominated by extroverts. *Shrug*
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    Apr 23, 2012 11:31 PM GMT
    I'm not. I speak my mind and tell it like it is.

    Even when i try to be it comes out bad
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    Apr 23, 2012 11:33 PM GMT
    Im an Extrovert ;)
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    Apr 23, 2012 11:46 PM GMT
    damm im introvert icon_surprised.gif
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    Apr 23, 2012 11:47 PM GMT
    I am, but you wouldn't know it from how often I post.
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    Apr 23, 2012 11:48 PM GMT
    I'm pretty sure the OP is THE only introvert.
  • metta

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    Apr 23, 2012 11:50 PM GMT
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  • Pontifex

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    Apr 23, 2012 11:52 PM GMT
    I'm an introvert. I'm actually pretty outgoing now compared to what I used to be. Most people who have met me recently wouldn't suspect it. But being with people is just exhausting. I like a lot of time on my own. Nothing feels better than getting away from people after work for a couple hours. lol. Well... sex feels better. But some days it can be close.
  • dyslogistic

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    Apr 23, 2012 11:54 PM GMT
    abso-fucking-lutely.

    although i have been referred to as a "lazy extrovert"
  • shawn829

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    Apr 23, 2012 11:55 PM GMT
    Fantastic to see that I'm not alone.
    Susan Cain's ted talk on introverts felt really liberating for me especially when most of my friends are extroverts. A must-watch for my fellow introverts.



    Introverted and proud.
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    Apr 23, 2012 11:56 PM GMT
    I think this is something like gay and straight...its a spectrum and most people fall somewhere in between the two.

    I identify mostly with Introvert and proud of it icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 23, 2012 11:57 PM GMT
    Phoenyx saidI think this is something like gay and straight...its a spectrum and most people fall somewhere in between the two.

    I identify mostly with Introvert and proud of it icon_biggrin.gif


    preach!!!

    I think the same thing. People have varying degrees of introversion and extroversion....
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    Apr 23, 2012 11:58 PM GMT
    Here!
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    Apr 23, 2012 11:59 PM GMT
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    Apr 24, 2012 12:15 AM GMT
    Susan Cain has written a lot of stuff about introverts. Check out her book.

    I'm definitely introverted and I prefer being around introverted people. Sometimes I go through phases where I try to be extroverted and I can do it for a night, but I get tired pretty fast.

    I've only had one introverted boyfriend and we clicked very well. Having someone that appreciates silence is a rare gift.

    Sometimes I get myself stressed over trying to do extrovert like things and fit in with them. I work in a profession with ALOT of extroverted people. Sometimes I start getting into their thinking that my quietness and reservations are a flaw and not a trait.

    On the flip side, I do have ADHD which means I can't do a lot of introvert typical behavior. I can't sit for hours on end and read. I'm also not particularly creative.

    Also, introverts by their nature tend not to be athletic (its a highly social interest). I had this problem for a while, and sought out 24 hour gyms to go when there were far less people. Eventually I just broke down and got a home gym, and have been loving it.

    I'm wondering if other introverted people have experienced this:

    On rare occasions there will be enough people in one place to overwhelm me so much that I just have to leave -- even if I'm with other people. One event was the gay pride parade in NYC after gay marriage had been legalized. It was absolutely packed -- just a sea of people. The second was a new years eve party at a venue here in NYC. There were just so many people, and a lot of people getting angry over poor service that I couldn't take it anymore.

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    Apr 24, 2012 12:19 AM GMT
    Wow! Thanks for all the information guys. This is really insightful! So glad there are some other fellow introverts on RJ too ;)
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    Apr 24, 2012 12:27 AM GMT
    I have no idea I feel like I'm a mix. I need my alone time every once in awhile but I also like to be very social at times.
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    Apr 24, 2012 12:33 AM GMT
    I call myself a extroverted introvert. I keep to myself unless I get to know you then I open up, if that makes sense.