Confront or let it ride?

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    Apr 24, 2012 2:36 AM GMT
    If you secretly discovered that someone had lied about something would you confront them or let it ride? FYI not a "I'm not gay" issue who gives a fuck about that...really?
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    Apr 24, 2012 2:40 AM GMT
    If you ever lied about being gay, and you confront someone else for lying about something, that makes you a hypocrite.
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    Apr 24, 2012 2:42 AM GMT
    fhaynie81 saidIf you secretly discovered that someone had lied about something would you confront them or let it ride?


    Confront them, if...

    1. There's a consequence that can result from it.
    2. It opens up an issue that needs to be discussed.
    3. You're upset and you need to blow off steam at them.

    Otherwise, if it's a more distant thing, then maybe just file it away that you're now aware the person apparently lacks honesty.
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    Apr 24, 2012 2:42 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidIf you ever lied about being gay, and you confront someone else for lying about something, that makes you a hypocrite.
    lying about cheating for example is a few orders of magnitude less justifiable than lying about being gay, you disingenuous stereotype

    It's really depressing when gays themselves prove that they indeed have lower standards than everyone else
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    Apr 24, 2012 2:44 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidIf you ever lied about being gay, and you confront someone else for lying about something, that makes you a hypocrite.


    Everybody has lied at one time or another.
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    Apr 24, 2012 2:48 AM GMT
    hottop88 said
    paulflexes saidIf you ever lied about being gay, and you confront someone else for lying about something, that makes you a hypocrite.
    lying about cheating for example is a few orders of magnitude less justifiable than lying about being gay, you disingenuous stereotype

    It's really depressing when gays themselves prove that they indeed have lower standards than everyone else
    What's the difference? A lie is a lie.

    Personally, I don't think lying is bad. It prevents lots of nasty consequences.
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    Apr 24, 2012 2:53 AM GMT
    Depends on the lie. Sometimes it also works better to let it brew for a while. Let them cower in your presence. Demand sex at inappropriate times to in order for them to hopelessly attempt to salve their shame. Drop little innuendos which further reinforce their tribute to your urging. Then, when you are deep fucking them face-to-face, eye-to-eye, just as they're about to close their eyes and cum from the passion...




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    Apr 24, 2012 3:28 AM GMT
    I like Michael Corleone's approach to this issue in the "GodFather" movies. He would say to the people around him: "If it's bad news, tell me immediately and quickly so it can be dealt with." Bad things that are allowed to linger usually create more and worse problems than the original bad thing itself. Michael was a wise man I think.
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    Apr 24, 2012 3:35 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    hottop88 said
    paulflexes saidIf you ever lied about being gay, and you confront someone else for lying about something, that makes you a hypocrite.
    lying about cheating for example is a few orders of magnitude less justifiable than lying about being gay, you disingenuous stereotype

    It's really depressing when gays themselves prove that they indeed have lower standards than everyone else
    What's the difference? A lie is a lie.

    Personally, I don't think lying is bad. It prevents lots of nasty consequences.


    That's self-serving gay logic. The intent is everything.

    I dumped my ex, not because he did anything, but because I came to realize he's the kind of person who will convince himself that lying about it will be to spare my feelings. Can't respect people who think that way.
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    Apr 24, 2012 3:56 AM GMT
    It really depends on what the lie is.
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    Apr 24, 2012 8:10 AM GMT
    fhaynie81 saidIf you secretly discovered that someone had lied about something would you confront them or let it ride? FYI not a "I'm not gay" issue who gives a fuck about that...really?


    Context. Context. Context.

    If you don't' give the context, no one can give you correct advice.

    There is no universal principle with which you can say when it is good to confront someone and when it is bad.
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    Apr 25, 2012 5:50 PM GMT
    adam228 said
    fhaynie81 saidIf you secretly discovered that someone had lied about something would you confront them or let it ride? FYI not a "I'm not gay" issue who gives a fuck about that...really?


    Context. Context. Context.

    If you don't' give the context, no one can give you correct advice.

    There is no universal principle with which you can say when it is good to confront someone and when it is bad.


    The problem that I have is, if i confront will the person take it as being confrotational or just a random act of gossip that they swear can't be proven.