Is anyone oblivious when it comes to flirting?

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    Apr 24, 2012 10:04 AM GMT
    I've finally realized I'm so oblivious when it comes to flirting.

    Just recently, my friends and I were at a diner and this cute waiter served us. Apparently, according to my friend, he was "flirting" and eyeing me down the entire time, which I was unaware of. I was just so focused on the menu, I apparently ignored something he said haha! Throughout the evening, he would come over and ask me, not my friend, but me if I needed more water or anything else. But, of course, being my oblivious self, I shrugged it off thinking he was just really nice. There goes one opportunity.

    And then there's that time at the coffee shop...

    Ugh. I have this really annoying problem of not being able to pick up on certain things, especially when I'm directly involved in the situation. My "gay-dar" is off, too. I am just too damn oblivious. Anyone have this problem, as well? It makes it hard for me to meet other guys...icon_mad.gif

  • Ritournelle

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    Apr 24, 2012 11:02 AM GMT
    I almost never hook up or talk to guys at bars because when a guy looks at me, I assume something's wrong. Like there's something on my teeth. Then I get all stand offish, and well, it blows.
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    Apr 24, 2012 11:39 AM GMT
    Completely. I need flashing neon signs and diagrams...

    (must insert clever gif later)
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    Apr 24, 2012 12:03 PM GMT
    onaquest saidCompletely. I need flashing neon signs and diagrams...

    This. Unfortunately.
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    Apr 24, 2012 12:09 PM GMT
    Yes.. I'm great at showing I'm interested.. but bad about playing into their compliments. So it can be some work on their part haha
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    Apr 24, 2012 12:15 PM GMT
    Totally oblivious to flirting. I've even had someone look at me in exasperation and say "you obviously don't get it that I want to go out with you, so just say yes already."

  • djzilla

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    Apr 24, 2012 2:07 PM GMT
    mplsmike saidTotally oblivious to flirting. I've even had someone look at me in exasperation and say "you obviously don't get it that I want to go out with you, so just say yes already."



    +1!!!!
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    Apr 24, 2012 2:09 PM GMT
    Totally oblivious to it but have the art of it mastered!
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    Apr 24, 2012 2:11 PM GMT
    If I'm not remotely interested, I can't hear it. If I want it, it's almost everywhere I look. Like a switch.icon_idea.gif
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    Apr 24, 2012 2:11 PM GMT
    TropicalMark saidTotally oblivious to it but have the art of it mastered!
    Can this be scientifically tested?
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    Apr 24, 2012 2:17 PM GMT
    Yehoshua_B5917 saidIf I'm not remotely interested, I can't hear it. If I want it, it's almost everywhere I look. Like a switch.icon_idea.gif
    Then quit following me!

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    Apr 24, 2012 2:17 PM GMT
    Yehoshua_B5917 said
    TropicalMark saidTotally oblivious to it but have the art of it mastered!
    Can this be scientifically tested?
    Yup! I can show you!icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 24, 2012 2:26 PM GMT
    I'm totally clueless. I think I over analyze the situation. I'm always thinking whether I'm seeing interest from a guy just because I'm interested in him.
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    Apr 24, 2012 2:28 PM GMT
    TropicalMark said
    Yehoshua_B5917 saidIf I'm not remotely interested, I can't hear it. If I want it, it's almost everywhere I look. Like a switch.icon_idea.gif
    Then quit following me!

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    Doing as Cyndi Lauper commands, TIme after time... gawd! Lol.
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    Apr 24, 2012 2:29 PM GMT
    TropicalMark said
    Yehoshua_B5917 said
    TropicalMark saidTotally oblivious to it but have the art of it mastered!
    Can this be scientifically tested?
    Yup! I can show you!icon_wink.gif
    Just try it. See how you like it!
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    Apr 24, 2012 2:39 PM GMT
    Totally oblivious, assuming a definition of flirting that does not include a guy who's simply hitting on you. Even when I was younger I was clueless, and sometimes afterwards a guy I subsequently did meet would admit he'd been flirting with me. HUH? With ME?

    My shyness about my appearance wouldn't allow me to believe guys would want to flirt with me. Even when I was doing all kinds of tricks to make myself more attractive, like exploiting my leather look from motorcycling. When it did work I still couldn't believe it.

    I often like to make the analogy between dating and fishing (really). And there are guys who are attuned to the most sensitive nibble on the bait, and those, like me, who have to see the rod pulled down 4 inches (slight pun there) before they get the message. I was always just so dense about flirting.
  • vintovka

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    Apr 24, 2012 2:42 PM GMT
    Usually when I try to hit on someone they think I'm too scary and they avoid me. (Providence is kind of provincial.) icon_sad.gif
    Also, I'm terrible at spotting when someone is interested in me, thus still single.
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    Apr 24, 2012 2:47 PM GMT
    vintovka saidUsually when I try to hit on someone they think I'm too scary and they avoid me, icon_sad.gif
    Also, I'm terrible at spotting when someone is interested in me, thus still single.
    Like that one time I sent you a reply and told you how handsome you were, and I didn't care about your tattoos? Cause, I'd hit it; but not sure if I could quit it?icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 24, 2012 2:49 PM GMT
    Yehoshua_B5917 said
    TropicalMark said
    Yehoshua_B5917 said
    TropicalMark saidTotally oblivious to it but have the art of it mastered!
    Can this be scientifically tested?
    Yup! I can show you!icon_wink.gif
    Just try it. See how you like it!
    It works purrfectly!icon_wink.gif
  • Ritournelle

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    Apr 24, 2012 2:51 PM GMT
    Yehoshua_B5917 said
    vintovka saidUsually when I try to hit on someone they think I'm too scary and they avoid me, icon_sad.gif
    Also, I'm terrible at spotting when someone is interested in me, thus still single.
    Like that one time I sent you a reply and told you how handsome you were, and I didn't care about your tattoos? Cause, I'd hit it; but not sure if I could quit it?icon_twisted.gif


    QFT, dayum!
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    Apr 24, 2012 2:51 PM GMT
    TropicalMark said
    Yehoshua_B5917 said
    TropicalMark said
    Yehoshua_B5917 said
    TropicalMark saidTotally oblivious to it but have the art of it mastered!
    Can this be scientifically tested?
    Yup! I can show you!icon_wink.gif
    Just try it. See how you like it!
    It works purrfectly!icon_wink.gif
    I'm fool for a good flirt. Too bad, I'll out of practice for a while... sigh*
  • vintovka

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    Apr 24, 2012 2:58 PM GMT
    Yehoshua_B5917 said
    vintovka saidUsually when I try to hit on someone they think I'm too scary and they avoid me, icon_sad.gif
    Also, I'm terrible at spotting when someone is interested in me, thus still single.
    Like that one time I sent you a reply and told you how handsome you were, and I didn't care about your tattoos? Cause, I'd hit it; but not sure if I could quit it?icon_twisted.gif


    Nice... if my "brick and mortar" life looked more like RJ, I would be a happy man!
  • bangg

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    Apr 24, 2012 3:02 PM GMT
    Ritournelle saidI almost never hook up or talk to guys at bars because when a guy looks at me, I assume something's wrong. Like there's something on my teeth. Then I get all stand offish, and well, it blows.


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    Apr 24, 2012 3:19 PM GMT
    vintovka said
    Yehoshua_B5917 said
    vintovka saidUsually when I try to hit on someone they think I'm too scary and they avoid me, icon_sad.gif
    Also, I'm terrible at spotting when someone is interested in me, thus still single.
    Like that one time I sent you a reply and told you how handsome you were, and I didn't care about your tattoos? Cause, I'd hit it; but not sure if I could quit it?icon_twisted.gif


    Nice... if my "brick and mortar" life looked more like RJ, I would be a happy man!
    Me too. The guys who actually stay on here after they join, and show face are the best! I'd date you. You look as badass as Iike to think I am. That's a turn on for me; amongst others.
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    Apr 24, 2012 3:31 PM GMT
    bangg said
    Ritournelle saidI almost never hook up or talk to guys at bars because when a guy looks at me, I assume something's wrong. Like there's something on my teeth. Then I get all stand offish, and well, it blows.


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    Haha I do see that, all the time....

    But when they are flirting with me? I seem to not have a clue...