WHAT'S YOUR BIGGEST REGRET?

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    Apr 24, 2012 10:31 PM GMT
    I know it's not good to have regrets, but I think we all have them. What's your biggest regret to this day (if you have one)? Mine has to do with not choosing the career path I really wanted from the beginning. What's yours?
  • Lincsbear

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    Apr 24, 2012 10:43 PM GMT
    Same as you,wonofakind.
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    Apr 24, 2012 11:41 PM GMT
    Clicking this thread...or any other thread on RJ for that matter.
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    Apr 24, 2012 11:44 PM GMT
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    Apr 24, 2012 11:46 PM GMT
    not living as the gay man i'am for 48 yrs...!!!
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    Apr 24, 2012 11:48 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidClicking this thread...or any other thread on RJ for that matter.

    Or even worse, posting on this thread, or any other.
    Actually, there should be no regrets. If there are, then all the more reason to move on.

    Now I must move on.
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    Apr 24, 2012 11:49 PM GMT
    Not coming out in high school... I lived in Washington State. If any place in the US were going to be completely nonjudgmental about my being a gay high schooler, it was going to be Washington.
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    Apr 24, 2012 11:53 PM GMT
    Joining this membership club thing at college. I regret it now because i would have been able to show off my "diversity" side
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    Apr 24, 2012 11:55 PM GMT
    Two big regrets (related):

    1. Wasting my time with someone who was uncomfortable with his sexuality. We met in college and were both closeted. Our relationship lasted nearly eight years. When he wouldn't come out with me and live openly as a gay couple I dumped him.

    2. Not having the guts to come out with out him and waiting years later to do so.

    All those wasted years...
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    Apr 24, 2012 11:55 PM GMT
    I would agree with not "coming out" sooner. I missed out on so much put myself though so much denying who I really was. Life is too short to try to live for other people and not live life to the fullest. Now at 27 I live everyday to the fullest being the man I was born as and not caring what anyone thinks.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Apr 25, 2012 12:57 AM GMT
    I regret freezing up when this friend in highschool leaned over and kissed me and told that that he loved me, when we were alone together in my car.
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    Apr 25, 2012 12:58 AM GMT
    Throwing out boxes from my storage unit without going thru them first. icon_sad.gif
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    Apr 25, 2012 1:01 AM GMT
    Giving myself a few big "what if's" I've gone long time without doing. Think it's their existence that bothers me more than the actually What If's themselves.
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    Apr 25, 2012 1:04 AM GMT
    My biggest regret so far in life was not making high school a better experience. I absolutely dreaded through it and I hated a lot of my classmates. Looking back though, I wish I did try a little hard to get along, but it was a time of struggle when my parents were going through shit and accepting myself as gay. I guess I've already learned from all this, though, for the better.
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    Apr 25, 2012 1:05 AM GMT
    Not getting to the hospital earlier before my father's bypass surgery. They took him in early and I never got to tell him I loved him. He never made it thru.
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    Apr 25, 2012 1:06 AM GMT
    My plan is to get to my deathbed with no regrets. Life has been full of trail and tribulations, but I would not change a thing, as it has been what had made me the man I am today.
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    Apr 25, 2012 1:10 AM GMT
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    Apr 25, 2012 1:11 AM GMT
    n8698u saidNot getting to the hospital earlier before my father's bypass surgery. They took him in early and I never got to tell him I loved him. He never made it thru.
    There is a genuine regret! He knew!icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 25, 2012 1:13 AM GMT
    I am ambivalent. The number of things that I seriously regret, I can count on one hand. Yet I know the goal is not to carry them as regrets, but rather to think of and to respect them as learning opportunities. It's not easy.
  • Webster666

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    Apr 25, 2012 1:15 AM GMT
    My biggest regret is not going to law school, right out of high school.
    I never imagined that I was smart enough.
    Yet, a few years ago, I took a whole bunch of law classes, and got almost all "A's."

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    Apr 25, 2012 1:16 AM GMT
    I'm wiping the slate clean of my regrets. My life starts now, Not lived played in rewind. That's devil talk.icon_evil.gif
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    Apr 25, 2012 1:16 AM GMT
    Ray Bradbury said it best in the screenplay for "Something Wicked This Way Comes", "It's not the things you have done in life that you regret, it's the things you didn't do."

    I have had the blessed opportunities to do som many things in my life from my college degrees, multiple careers teaching college Humanities/Mythology, training people to work rides in the West side of Disney's Magic Kingdom, getting a doctorate in a medical field, bodybuilding so that I"m not a skinny stick like I was in high school, getting my NASM CPT certification. I have even gotten to live out the fantasies of many males having both escorted when I was in school and done a few small studio porn films. I have had a wonderful life and even now at the halfway point I am preparing to take everything that has come before and wrap it into a single business as I prepare to move back to a really large city.

    My only regrets are three , and I hope to fix at least one of them:

    1) Hurting someone I cared deeply about because, in spite of my efforts, I could not be the person he wanted me to be.

    2) I have not yet found a partner, that perfect companion taht share my views on love and sex and doesn't come with all the chemical vices that seem to plague the gay community, especially in the closeted South

    3) I want to have a son. I have reached that point where I'll see a little boy at a park playing catch with his Father and I with it was me playing catch and helping him grow up and discover himself and the world around him. My fondest memory of my last trip to Disney World was walking down the Boardwalk at 12:30 in the morning and seeing two guys walking hand in hand pushing a stroller with their sleeping child in it. It was a beautiful moment.

    Hopefully, me next move will fix one or both of these regrets.
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    Apr 25, 2012 1:25 AM GMT
    2...
    1) not coming out earlier (i have found an overwhelming amount of support i was scared wouldnt be there for me)

    2) watching the man of my dreams get hurt by his ex boyfriend and not being able to do anything about it icon_sad.gif
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    Apr 25, 2012 1:31 AM GMT
    Trusting a friend enough to tell them that I was going to commit suicide.
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    Apr 25, 2012 1:33 AM GMT
    SkinnyBitch saidTrusting a friend enough to tell them that I was going to commit suicide.
    Thankfully he was there to save your azz!