My future roommate is just told me he is selling himself for money

  • Dbrad3693

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    Apr 25, 2012 12:31 AM GMT
    Please someone anyone help me!
    Backgound info: My friend named josh and I are moving to columbus this fall to go to Thee Ohio State University icon_smile.gif We signed our registration form for the apartment we are getting and paid a total of 800$ for it. Very excited. We both plan on working part time to help pay for the apartment complex. I am currently a full time student, he works full time at some factory job.

    Now, I just got off the cell with him. He was acting weird and said he called off work and i confronted him about it.
    He goes, "Buddy, you remember about the convo about the male escorts we had?" (like 3 weeks ago we got on to rentboy.com because we had watched the movie "boy culture" and yeah)
    I replied "Yeah??"
    Him -"Im going to do it tonight! I got on to a site, a4a, and I am going to do it!!! I already have two guys interested... separate of course. I can make so much money"
    Me - "..............Are you fucking kidding me, you called off work to go escort?"
    Him- "Well im broke, WTF am is supposed to do?"
    Me- "We are college students what do you expect!"

    Convo went on a little more with him just kinda blowing me off, and ended the convo suddenly. I wanna stop him but I have to confess, I had one time did something similar. I had had oral for 150$. I felt so shamed and bad afterward that I put the money under my bed, and its still there. I would be a hypocrite if I call him out on it. (he doesnt know that though)

    What would you do in my shoes?
    Do I even try to stop him?
    Do I tell him about my experience and the shame I felt after?
    Does this effect him as a roomy?
    Please help
  • araphael

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    Apr 25, 2012 1:17 AM GMT
    Dude, I admit I can't really see what your problem here is. Your roommate is a grown man, he get's to make his own decisions. You shouldn't project your bad feelings and issues about your experience on to him. Let him live his life. Personally, I don't see anything wrong with him using what god gave him to make extra cash. I was a dancer for like a 6months once for girls at their bachelorrette parties and I made a ton of cash when I was a junior in college. The only reason I stopped is because I made the amount of money I needed and I didn't need to do it anymore. You'd be surprised at some of the things people do to survive in college. I say live and let live. But I'm an open minded, independent kinda dude.
  • Webster666

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    Apr 25, 2012 1:24 AM GMT
    You're making a huge deal out of NOTHING.
    I've known 4 different guys who sold sex. No, I wasn't a customer.
    What's the big deal ?

    What he's doing (or planning to do), in this regard, is none of your business.

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    Apr 25, 2012 1:36 AM GMT
    No, you shouldn't stop him, you have no right to. Are there romantic feelings between you two that make you not want him to do this?

    It might be a mistake for him, or he might be mentally mature enough to handle it. It's his choice though.

    I can't tell you not to be ashamed of letting a guy blow you becaise I don't know all the details. But most likely I'd think it's nothing to be ashamed of. Not that that will make you feel differently.
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    Apr 25, 2012 1:40 AM GMT
    I'd only be concerned if he plans to conduct "business" in your joint apartment. That could get you both expelled, if it's a University property.
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    Apr 25, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
    Are you his mommy?
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    Apr 25, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    woahhh. I guess like others said he's a grown man but It can't hurt to tell him your experience.
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    Apr 25, 2012 1:50 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidI'd only be concerned if he plans to conduct "business" in your joint apartment. That could get you both expelled, if it's a University property.

    Smart thinkin'.
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    Apr 25, 2012 2:03 AM GMT
    Am I the only gay dude who hasn't had and doesn't plan on having sex for money? icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 25, 2012 2:05 AM GMT
    1- Don't vacuum under your bed until you deal with the fate of that money.
    2- Make sure your friend works safely and has a constant supply of condoms and lube to bring with him at moments notice.
    3- Figure out what shame is really meant to do, and then why you feel it.
    4- Hugs.
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    Apr 25, 2012 2:05 AM GMT
    Firebrand saidAm I the only gay dude who hasn't had and doesn't plan on having sex for money? icon_eek.gif

    Just cuz we don't disagree with it, doesn't mean we've done it or will do it.
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    Apr 25, 2012 2:06 AM GMT
    Dbrad3693 saidMy future roommate is just told me he is selling himself for money

    Please someone anyone help me!
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    How much money do you need?
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    Apr 25, 2012 2:06 AM GMT
    Firebrand saidAm I the only gay dude who hasn't had and doesn't plan on having sex for money? icon_eek.gif
    Yes.
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    Apr 25, 2012 2:10 AM GMT
    Dbrad3693 said Convo went on a little more with him just kinda blowing me off, and ended the convo suddenly. I wanna stop him but I have to confess, I had one time did something similar. I had had oral for 150$. I felt so shamed and bad afterward that I put the money under my bed, and its still there. I would be a hypocrite if I call him out on it. (he doesnt know that though)



    The best thing to do is try to put this behind you and get rid of this money. I will give you an address of where to send it so it can be properly disposed of.
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    Apr 25, 2012 2:11 AM GMT
    I'll take the $150 for you and put it to good use.
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    Apr 25, 2012 2:45 AM GMT
    Buy your roommate $150 worth of Ramen noodles and tell him to learn to live like other college students.
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    Apr 25, 2012 2:47 AM GMT
    Claystation saidAre you his mommy?


    this.

    grownups get to make their own choices.
  • stratavos

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    Apr 25, 2012 2:48 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidI'd only be concerned if he plans to conduct "business" in your joint apartment. That could get you both expelled, if it's a University property.


    ^this. also as long as he doesn't develop any substance dependencies, things should be fine.
  • TheBizMan

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    Apr 25, 2012 2:54 AM GMT
    I owed my university $2,000 bucks at one point. The only thing that stopped me from a similar fate as your friend was thinking about all the whack jobs (no pun intended) there are in this world. Who knows if you'll end up in a body bag.. or never heard from again. It was enough to set me straight (pun intended). Turns out I do have a conscience.

    Edit: Cause most business men do not.... it's probably cause I'm gay.
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    Apr 25, 2012 2:59 AM GMT
    LOL. Well what you did was actual prostitution. What your roomie is doing (or is about to do) is just being an escort. There's a difference between the two and you should figure that out before you start labeling and going the hypocrite route.

    I notice you still have that $150 so you can't feel too bad about what you did. LOL. As to your roomie's lame ass excuse of "I'm broke so WTF am I suppose do?". Answer: Get an actual job and stop being lazy and easily influenced with easy money tactics and schemes.

    In any case, what he chooses to do for employment shouldn't be your concern so long as his half of the rent is paid on time, it's not illegal and isn't harmful to your living situation (i.e...drugs, stalkers, random strangers coming by, neighbor complaints). If you feel having an escort for a roomie might put a damper on things then you have the option of not having him as a room mate to which I would suggest you either get a more "straight-laced" roomie to your liking or find a better paying job so you won't need a roomie. Other then that there's nothing much you can really do. He's an adult and you aren't his parent.
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    Apr 25, 2012 3:02 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidI'd only be concerned if he plans to conduct "business" in your joint apartment. That could get you both expelled, if it's a University property.


    This and its his life on how he leads it.

    As for the money...Donate it to charity if you're feeling bad about your past experience.
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    Apr 25, 2012 3:02 AM GMT
    You shouldn't interfere in what he does, as long as he doesn't "bring it home". You need to have a conversation that deals with establishing that particular boundary.

    If I were you, I would also add another rule that prohibits your roomie from disclosing where he lives, for the sake of both of your personal safety.
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    Apr 25, 2012 3:05 AM GMT
    Firebrand saidAm I the only gay dude who hasn't had and doesn't plan on having sex for money? icon_eek.gif


    No you arent buddy, and I have been offered too.
  • Dbrad3693

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    Apr 25, 2012 3:07 AM GMT
    You guys r right maybe im just making a big deal out of nothing,
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    Apr 25, 2012 3:08 AM GMT
    If he isn't doing it in your apartment then it's none of your concern.