6 seeking 10 Syndrome: Confident/Cocky or Clueless

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    Apr 25, 2012 1:07 AM GMT
    For the record I don't believe in ever calling anyone ugly, because

    1. I think that in itself is ugly
    2. I am not perfect myself so to look for that is weird
    3. Beauty and intelligence(the way we see it) is so subjective and other things like money and clothes are superficial.

    But in life aswell as online (inspired by one of my topics I posted recently)
    I wonder, why do people seek perfection, when they themselves are not.
    People can say it is not perfection, and alot of it is not, because sometimes it just is what turns you on and off,
    but I am talking about those long list people have, and then you see people who write topics about writing off people over the smallest thing. The you go to their profile and you see...umm...well you know what I am trying to say.


    I saw a topic today on here. This guy said the guy he saw was cute and everything but because his teeth were not perfect he let him go.

    Even some of my friends do it.

    It goes like this.
    "I want a guy, who smart, funny, fine, rich, tall, tan, ripped, stylish, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah , blah"

    I am just like...omg, you want all that, but yet you yourself, do not have half of what you want.

    Now everyone does not want the same thing and there is a difference between wanting someone who is perfect and wanting a perfect match for YOU.

    but nonetheless, online you see this huge list, of qualities, and im like WOAH. WHo is/has all that, you would have to build a guy to get all that in one.

    From what I have seen from my sisters relationship and people I know, and even my own little "things"

    if I can just fine an OK looking, semi smart , genuine dude who cares for me, then I will be happy.

    But I am not waiting on some carbon copy Cam gidet or giglet, whatever his name is. Or some Tyson Beckford to come around.

    So why some want alot more than what they are themselves?
    Is it cockyness or conceited or just because they feel they deserve the best?
    Honestly, If I had someone who was so perfect I think it would be intimidating, I mean if he is perfect damn near everyone would want him right?
    How can you even handle someone who is everything?
    Also if you are so picky about everything then arent you afraid you might end up with nothing?

    I am not saying to lower standards, or anything, but I do thing instead of writing people off , that some should just get to know them more.

    Not just when it comes to potential lovers, but friends aswell.icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 25, 2012 1:43 AM GMT
    As a formerly hopeful one hoping for much higher, I can tell you. The thinking is "Not all smart, funny, fine, rich, tall, tan, ripped, stylish, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah are attracted to the same. Maybe one will be into me the way I am, or will find something awesome about me that will make the rest seem unimportant."
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    Apr 25, 2012 2:15 AM GMT
    Do you have low self esteem.?

    Because alot of these things are so subjective.
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    Apr 25, 2012 3:03 AM GMT
    I have low self-esteem about things I suck at, and high self-esteem at things I'm awesome at.
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    Apr 25, 2012 3:10 AM GMT
    Because as humans, we usually see someone who we think is perfect and think "My god, everyone wants them" without realizing we have different tastes.

    I remember one time I was sitting in Peets drinking coffee, and I notice this Brazilian (Oh god why does it have to be Brazilian?) whom was checking me out. I walked up to him to say hi, and he couldn't believe I was talking to him.

    The man was hot, like had arms as big as my head, and I got a damn big head folks. Yet he thought I was too hot to talk too. Crazy!
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    Apr 25, 2012 3:45 AM GMT
    Tonight on "JamieJfromtheA Don't Go There Girlfriend! Oh Mah Gawd She Just Went There! Real Talk"

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    I think it's quite natural to have a bucket list of features you'd want your significant other to have...

    People become more realistic over time.
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    Apr 25, 2012 3:46 AM GMT
    apparently im selling myself short. everyone tells me how gorgeous i am, but i just dont see it. they cant believe it when i point out a guy i think is attractive and they inform me that he is, in fact, disgusting.

    I dont get it?? icon_confused.gif

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    Apr 25, 2012 3:49 AM GMT
    Phoenyx saidapparently im selling myself short. everyone tells me how gorgeous i am, but i just dont see it. they cant believe it when i point out a guy i think is attractive and they inform me that he is, in fact, disgusting.

    I dont get it?? icon_confused.gif



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    Apr 25, 2012 3:52 AM GMT
    TheBizMan saidTonight on "JamieJfromtheA Don't Go There Girlfriend! Oh Mah Gawd She Just Went There! Real Talk"

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    I think it's quite natural to have a bucket list of features you'd want your significant other to have...

    People become more realistic over time.


    LOL love it

    but what if they already missed out on their "Soul Mate" because of vanity and superficiality.

    @Phoenyx, what do you find attractive...and I think it is wrong to say someone is disgusting based on looks, its rude and mean.

    I think if they are sweet and kind to you that in itself is beautiful. But as looks go, you know the saying, different strokes for diff folks.

    I tend to become more attracted to someone, once they show me who they are. Even if i did not start to like them, if they are nice and listen to me and talk 2 me, it is like they become more of a turn on before my eyes.

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    Apr 25, 2012 3:53 AM GMT
    More like 4's who think they're 9's looking for 11's.
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    Apr 25, 2012 3:55 AM GMT
    You can't miss out on your soul mate...

    That said, 3s go for 10s because 10s can sometimes be sluts. If it didn't work, they wouldn't do it.
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    Apr 25, 2012 3:56 AM GMT
    Larkin saidYou can't miss out on your soul mate...

    That said, 3s go for 10s because 10s can sometimes be sluts. If it didn't work, they wouldn't do it.


    I disagree, people may not realize that person is their soul mate. Or they may be to naive to see it.
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    Apr 25, 2012 3:58 AM GMT
    This just gave me an idea for a thread.
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    Apr 25, 2012 3:58 AM GMT
    If something is destined, you can't miss it. There is no use regretting what might have been... because it wasn't.
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    Apr 25, 2012 4:02 AM GMT
    Other people could consider my 10s to be 6 - 9s, so that kind of ups my chances.
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    Apr 25, 2012 4:05 AM GMT
    Larkin saidIf something is destined, you can't miss it. There is no use regretting what might have been... because it wasn't.


    Soul Mate- A person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner

    Mate - Pair
    Synonyms noun . partner - companion - fellow - friend - pal - chum
    verb couple - pair - marry - match - wed

    A soul mate by definition does not mean they are necessarily destine to be with you, it means they are a perfect match for you.

    People miss out all the time.

    I have seen people who could have their soul mate, but they did not because he didnt make enough money, or she wasnt pretty enough.

    People lose people all the time who could have been perfect for them, for bad reasons all the time. Hell someone in my family married a guy because of stability rather than being with the other dude she connects with.

    SO I disagree my beautiful Larkin.
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    Apr 25, 2012 4:06 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidMore like 4's who think they're 9's looking for 11's.

    And then there is bacon. Ariodante's true lover.

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    Apr 25, 2012 4:09 AM GMT
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    Ariodante saidMore like 4's who think they're 9's looking for 11's.

    And then there is bacon. Ariodante's true lover.

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    BACON IS A MILLION sadlove.gif
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    Apr 25, 2012 4:10 AM GMT
    JamieJfromtheA saidPeople miss out all the time.

    I have seen people who could have their soul mate, but they did not because he didnt make enough money, or she wasnt pretty enough.

    People lose people all the time who could have been perfect for them, for bad reasons all the time. Hell someone in my family married a guy because of stability rather than being with the other dude she connects with.

    SO I disagree my beautiful Larkin.


    If she's ugly and poor, how is she the perfect match for you?

    The idea of missing your perfect match somehow ignores the fact that people have different ideas of perfection... different priorities... and different needs.

    Let's be real, none of us who have access to the internet are really blazing a trail to our soul mates living under bridges. Neither are we hitting up total trolls in the 1-2 range. It's not a moral question: it's just a fact. The idea that inner beauty is the end-all of this "Soul Mate" question is incredibly strange to me.
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    Apr 25, 2012 4:10 AM GMT
    People are gonna go for who they want to go for...does it really impact you?
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    Apr 25, 2012 4:14 AM GMT
    why do people like to buy new cars instead of an old used crappy car? they will get you to the same place. why does it take hours to shop and find new clothes when you could just pick anything that will you cover you up all the same. we like nice things thats why.

    oh and maybe the 6 goes for the 10 because the 6 is ugly but has a great personality and the 10 is hot but a dull personality and the 6 just wants to bang a hot guy for the night. Or maybe the 6 is going for the 10 because the 10 also has a really good personality, come on just because he's hot doesnt mean he's a dick. lastly, maybe the 10 is with a 6 because the 10 see's something in the 6 that others dont.
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    Apr 25, 2012 4:21 AM GMT
    7Famark saidPeople are gonna go for who they want to go for...does it really impact you?


    It could, assuming people aren't going for him based on looks.

    Also, people realistically stay in their own league, +-1. At least among higher numbered guys, it's rare one will venture out of that range. Desperate people in the low numbers often fail to realize their number and dig themselves deeper by continuing to pursue 9's when they should be looking at the 4's in the corner.
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    Apr 25, 2012 4:23 AM GMT
    Firebrand said
    7Famark saidPeople are gonna go for who they want to go for...does it really impact you?


    It could, assuming people aren't going for him based on looks.

    Also, people realistically should stay in their own league, +-1. At least among higher numbered guys, it's rare one will venture out of that range.


    but..I don't want to play with other 4's icon_cry.gif
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    Apr 25, 2012 4:28 AM GMT
    7Famark said
    Firebrand said
    7Famark saidPeople are gonna go for who they want to go for...does it really impact you?


    It could, assuming people aren't going for him based on looks.

    Also, people realistically should stay in their own league, +-1. At least among higher numbered guys, it's rare one will venture out of that range.


    but..I don't want to play with other 4's icon_cry.gif


    lmfao what are you smoking. you are a 2.





















    jk ;)
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    Apr 25, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    Firebrand said
    7Famark said
    Firebrand said
    7Famark saidPeople are gonna go for who they want to go for...does it really impact you?


    It could, assuming people aren't going for him based on looks.

    Also, people realistically should stay in their own league, +-1. At least among higher numbered guys, it's rare one will venture out of that range.


    but..I don't want to play with other 4's icon_cry.gif


    lmfao what are you smoking. you are a 2.





















    jk ;)


    You're right icon_cry.gif