Hot list vs. Buddy list

  • silverfox

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    Jul 18, 2008 12:06 PM GMT
    Can someone explain to me the difference between the two?

    What makes you hot list one guy....and buddy another?

  • steven_patter...

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    Jul 18, 2008 3:32 PM GMT
    Well for me, Hot List is far more shallow. These are the guys who, based merely on their looks or bodies, produce an instant reaction. It's pretty much all about LUST. My Buddy List is more about guys who, from their profiles or their posts, seem like guys I'd really like to get to know and spend more time with. The categories are certainly NOT mutually exclusive. Mostly, both categories are about appreciating and acknowledging the incredible variety of interesting and great looking guys there are out there. And any of you men on my Hot List - if you're not a Mutual Buddy, I'd be MORE than happy to remedy that situation. Would love to find out we have more in common than just my open-mouthed gaping at your pics.
  • MSUBioNerd

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    Jul 18, 2008 3:33 PM GMT
    For me, the Hot List is merely men who are hot. the Buddy List is a much smaller set of guys I've actually communicated with repeatedly and like.
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    Jul 18, 2008 3:35 PM GMT
    the good looking ones go on the hot list, the trolls go on the buddy list. ... DUH!

    Actually, isn't it kinda self-evident.

    We hold these lists to be self-evident that all men fall into two categories. The buddy list is for guys I have had sufficient interaction with to know that I would like to be buddies with. The hot list is for eye candy.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 18, 2008 3:35 PM GMT
    I would concur with Steven... and MSUBioNerd, the guys on my Buddy list certainly are those I enjoy chatting with and respect...

    But the number who have me hotlisted far exceeds the number who have me Buddy listed... I hope thats not a bad thing....
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    Jul 18, 2008 4:48 PM GMT
    i have only one buddy who i've chatted with on occasion... but is there anyway to tell if anyone's buddied me? i know who's hotlisted me but just curious bout the buddy thingy...
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    Jul 18, 2008 4:53 PM GMT
    hot list= wow, if you were within a state's distance of me, there's no telling what i may possibly do to you, or encourage you to do to me ;)

    buddy list= we had one or more good conversations or exchanges of messages (much harder to get on)
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    Jul 18, 2008 4:55 PM GMT
    There are men on my hot list who should be on my buddy list but I don't think to make it so.

    But I agree with others - the hots are for repeat viewings. The buddies are for repeat conversations.
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    Jul 18, 2008 4:56 PM GMT
    Hot List = Aesthetics and MAYBE some "connection"

    Buddy List = a connection
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    Jul 18, 2008 4:56 PM GMT
    Some people on my "hot" list are also on my "buddy" list.

    Hot list - a guy you think has a lot going for him in terms of physical appearance and personality. Good bf material for someone (I think in terms of bfs not fbs.)

    Buddy list - a guy that you have had conversations with whom you have befriended.
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    Jul 18, 2008 4:56 PM GMT
    yomamali saidi have only one buddy who i've chatted with on occasion... but is there anyway to tell if anyone's buddied me? i know who's hotlisted me but just curious bout the buddy thingy...

    you have to check your e-mail notifications from realjock...that's the only way...then you sort of approves them by going to their profiles and adding them will confirm that you did. only then your pics will appear on each others' respective profiles. hope that helps.
    i will not be hotlisting anyone anymore. it's complex.
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    Jul 18, 2008 5:19 PM GMT
    LOLatYOUcosZIMisBACK said
    yomamali saidi have only one buddy who i've chatted with on occasion... but is there anyway to tell if anyone's buddied me? i know who's hotlisted me but just curious bout the buddy thingy...

    you have to check your e-mail notifications from realjock...that's the only way...then you sort of approves them by going to their profiles and adding them will confirm that you did. only then your pics will appear on each others' respective profiles. hope that helps.
    i will not be hotlisting anyone anymore. it's complex.


    ahhhh...
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    Jul 18, 2008 5:34 PM GMT
    Fuck the rules. If my arrow is on buddy then I click it. If it's on hot I shove you there. If you are on one my lists you got my interest. If you are on both I want to fuck you and make breakfast for you two.
  • silverfox

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    Jul 18, 2008 9:40 PM GMT
    yomamali said
    LOLatYOUcosZIMisBACK said
    yomamali saidi have only one buddy who i've chatted with on occasion... but is there anyway to tell if anyone's buddied me? i know who's hotlisted me but just curious bout the buddy thingy...

    you have to check your e-mail notifications from realjock...that's the only way...then you sort of approves them by going to their profiles and adding them will confirm that you did. only then your pics will appear on each others' respective profiles. hope that helps.
    i will not be hotlisting anyone anymore. it's complex.


    ahhhh...


    Actually guys....there is another way for you to look at the guys that have buddy listed you. You would do an "advanced search". Scroll down and check off the box that says GUYS WHO HAVE BUDDY LISTED ME.

    There you go.

    And who says these forums aren't helpful! icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 16, 2014 9:47 PM GMT
    Why is there this subtle implication that anyone on the buddylist and not the hot list is ugly? Ive had a few repeat convo's with amazing guys, who also happen to be good looking.
  • HottJoe

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    Jul 16, 2014 9:50 PM GMT
    "What makes you hot list one guy"?

    Obsession

    O B S E S S I O N

    Obsession
  • SeanFl1974

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    Jun 23, 2017 5:38 PM GMT
    For me, the Hot List is for guys I think are sexy. The Buddy List is for people with whom I have had many positive conversations. If you want to be on my Buddy List, you have to earn your place there.
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    Jun 24, 2017 8:20 PM GMT
    Buddy list reserves for guys who I think are nice and cool, I spoke with them and I like talking to them.
    Hot list is more out there, sometimes I love the guys photos but somehow I feel like they might be too HOT
    to speak with me. Lol But it's all relative, a guy can take a bad photo and looks stunning in person.
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    Jun 28, 2017 8:32 AM GMT
    To me the Hot List is like that one Wish List you make in the Neiman Marcus site because you know you will never spend about $5,000 for that Gucci suit you would love to have because it's way out of your [paycheck] league. Not to objectify, but it's more the list of guys I wish I could talk to but probably won't because they won't want to engage in conversation with me.

    But if they're in both my Buddy and Hot List, that's because they're legit, hot, cool and great people all around!

    ...or because I'm secretly hoping for conversation. haha.
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    Jun 28, 2017 8:34 AM GMT
    HottJoe said"What makes you hot list one guy"?

    Obsession

    O B S E S S I O N

    Obsession


    Lmao. I read this in my mind in three different volumes. You made my day. Thank you.