Trolls in gym

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    Jul 18, 2008 1:07 PM GMT
    The gym I go to is sort of gay gym.
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    Jul 18, 2008 2:01 PM GMT
    So called "Trolls" have sex drives to. I don't understand why you can't talk to guys that are "hot" after the shower or sauna. Give them your number and then you can hook-up later.
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    Jul 18, 2008 2:56 PM GMT
    I got the same problem but this guy doesnt even workout...he just sits around in the shower/sauna/jacuzzi area following people around.

    Sometimes I wanna sit in the jacuzzi especially after leg day and this sucker always comes in there and I jump up and get out. Youd think hed take a fuckin hint but I get out cuz I dont want him trying to touch me. ugh!!

    Really pisses me off...I am trying to be nice but I can feel it coming where Im gonna have to be mean...these guys need to quit.
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    Jul 18, 2008 3:02 PM GMT
    Well we have had the "troll" threads before. I tend to take a no nonsense kind of approach with them.. they are ignored unless they get too aggressive and then I'd let them know (or let the staff of the gym know of the issue).

    For me a troll is one who's sexual behavior is overly aggressive in an environment where such behavior shouldn't be tolerated (not an older man who doesn't look attractive).

    What you have to decide is, whether you should change your behavior to a minor extent (as to the schedule you follow in the gym), ignore the jerk or report him.
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    Jul 18, 2008 3:05 PM GMT
    I agree with HndsmKansan.

    But if you see a hot guy that you're interested in, go for it! It may be just the thing to make the troll go away.
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    Jul 18, 2008 3:19 PM GMT
    Ask him what the Feck he wants and tell him you do not fancy him so get lost!!!!!!!!!
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    Jul 18, 2008 3:20 PM GMT
    I can understand Quaddamn's desire to be able to have a conversation with someone he is just meeting without some troll actively listening to the conversation. It is awkward when you know this troll is paying attention to your every word as compared to someone else who is minding his own business.
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    Jul 18, 2008 3:31 PM GMT
    I'm sorry Orlandoguy. I'll stop. icon_redface.gif
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    Jul 18, 2008 3:39 PM GMT
    LOL....I think I know the gym you are talking about if you live in Orlando.

    If it happens again, just confront him. Ask him if he knows you or why he keeps following you.

    If he thinks you are unaware of him following you around he will continue.

    If you call him out on it, he may stop and if you do call him out on it and he doesn't let the gym manager know.

    They may have gotten complaints about him in the past.
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    Jul 18, 2008 4:12 PM GMT
    I think this is one of those posts where I totally agree with the sentiment (I don't want to be followed around the gym either) but wish it was expressed more... politely.

    It may very well be true that someone is a 'troll' in terms of looks, but that doesn't mean they are radioactive or have cooties (ewww don't touch me! I must LEAP out of the hottub!).

    If you're so bloody masculine and manly, then step up to the plate and be direct. Say, 'I'm sure you're a lovely bloke but it makes me uncomfortable that you seem to follow me. Please leave me alone.'

    And don't fuck in the sauna. It's a gym, not a Falcon set. Have some sense of propriety.

    I mean, honestly. Be an adult about it. And, recognise, as I do, that if you go to a gay gym, people will look. If you go to a straight gym, they'll probably look at you too, but I am guessing will be ever so less interested in following you into the hottub.
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    Jul 18, 2008 4:16 PM GMT
    Eor36 saidLOL....I think I know the gym you are talking about if you live in Orlando.

    If it happens again, just confront him. Ask him if he knows you or why he keeps following you.


    No, no, no. All he has to do is deny he is doing it and you look like a jackass. And as a member, he has the right to be anywhere he wants. Who the fuck are you to be objecting? See, that makes you look like an idiot.

    Part of your allure is your mystique. He doesnt know you. There is still a possibility that he might hook up. You know the old saying "Familiarity breeds contempt." I would say chat him up sometime. Make it casual. Dont give any specifics of yourself. Keep it very superficial. But during the course of the "conversation" either let him know you are definitely not now, nor ever will be, interested in him...or if that topic doesnt come up, make some less than complimentary remarks about him....like, "It doesnt look like sitting in the sauna is helping much. You might want to try working out some." Or try turning the tables on him and put him on the spot. In the course of your superficial conversation, remark that you see him in the sauna a lot, but not in the gym ...and ask him if he doesnt workout. Make him talk about what he is doing. That will let him know that you are on to what he is doing. And maybe make him feel like an "oob" (an oob is a noob without having to be new...tee hee hee)

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    Jul 18, 2008 4:26 PM GMT
    ahhh, so you are the guy I follow. Nice to know you're here too. icon_razz.gif just kidding
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    Jul 18, 2008 4:46 PM GMT
    i say if he wants to look, let him look. if he ever musters enough courage to strike up a conversation, there's no harm in being cordial. if tries to touch you inappropriately, just say, 'no thanks, i'm not interested.' why do so many people have such a hard time just being direct???

    as far as other guys trying to talk to you while he's around, i don't even understand how this is even a problem. what the fuck do you care what he hears or sees??

    also...

    london_nyc said

    And don't fuck in the sauna. It's a gym, not a Falcon set. Have some sense of propriety.



    HYSTERICAL and very well put.
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    Jul 18, 2008 4:56 PM GMT
    I swear EVERY gym has at LEAST one!!!
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    Jul 18, 2008 6:12 PM GMT
    a1972guy saidI swear EVERY gym has at LEAST one!!!


    Like your gym?

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    Jul 18, 2008 6:22 PM GMT
    I've had a few guys who follow and stare - mostly they get my point that I'm not interested - because I have what my friends say is this "Imperious look" that shows on my face if I'm ever unhappy about something (strange, huh?) so anyway - the perps get my icy look and back off. One guy got my name and E-mail address through a newspaper article about me, and began contacting me. I politely let him know I was (at that time) in a relationship. The formality of my icy response took care of it.

    Guys - you can use a similar approach in person - I'd just say, "Hey man - this is just not my thing. Stay back and give me some space, ok?"
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    Jul 18, 2008 6:36 PM GMT
    Sounds to me like you are paying too much attention to his actions. Ignore him. Don't have any eye contact with the guy. If he follows you some place get up and walk away. I don't know what other advice to give you. You're 30 years old. Control the situation.
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    Jul 18, 2008 6:40 PM GMT
    I kinda have a problem with people using the word troll. Its fuckin rude for many reasons. Is he any less because he is not attractive? Is he doing anything you havent done? + dont forget, any one of us could be that 'troll' one day.

    I dont see why you cant be direct and tell him to butt off if he tries anything funny. But he is not really trying anything funny; he just wants to look at you, maybe, like you will look at a hot guy when you see one. Should he be different because he is not hot? I bet you wouldnt mind if the guy that was timing his workout with you was hot.

    You have to take the good with the bad my friend. Its a gym, everyone has access. Besides, its really not such a big problem. You should be thankful that you are attractive enough to have anyone try to time their work out with yours just to take a glimpse.

    "The biggest reason I hate that is that whenever there are hot guys trying to get to me, I cant responce because he is always there."

    I will leave this one alone.
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    Jul 18, 2008 6:53 PM GMT
    I understand why it can be a big deal. Sometimes when having a casual conversation with someone, you talk about personal aspects of your life. Where you work.. the car you drive.. just general things you chit chat about. Now, some of that information could lend him a hand in seriously stalking you.
    I dunno about you guys, but I've taken the nice guy approach and made friends with the kind of people that do this. Trying to "drop hints", and "make them aware I know what their doing." While it might stop them, it's also just as likely to encourage them. The best way I've found to deal with it is confrontation.

    If he denies doing it, let him know you're not a moron. It doesn't take a genius to realize someone who never uses any of the workout equipment, but instead spends all their time in the locker room, steam room, and hot tub, has an ulterior motive.
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    Jul 18, 2008 6:54 PM GMT
    sluggo_la saidi say if he wants to look, let him look. if he ever musters enough courage to strike up a conversation, there's no harm in being cordial. if tries to touch you inappropriately, just say, 'no thanks, i'm not interested.' why do so many people have such a hard time just being direct???


    I agree with sluggo. Be direct.

    I had a guy follow me around at the gym over the course of a week or so. Finally, I just said to him, "Hey, how you doing?" We proceed to have a pleasant chat for a few minutes, then I told I had to go because my boyfriend was waiting for me. Never followed me again.
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    Jul 18, 2008 6:56 PM GMT
    Just to clarify.. it doesn't matter how attractive/unattractive they are. If you're following me around everywhere... you're a creep.
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    Jul 18, 2008 7:27 PM GMT
    KentuckyTuss saidJust to clarify.. it doesn't matter how attractive/unattractive they are. If you're following me around everywhere... you're a creep.

    */whoops....u-turns and hurries off in another direction/*
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    Jul 18, 2008 7:34 PM GMT
    Squarejaw saidI'm sorry Orlandoguy. I'll stop. icon_redface.gif
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    Jul 18, 2008 7:40 PM GMT
    Just to clarify.. it doesn't matter how attractive/unattractive they are. If you're following me around everywhere... you're a creep. Unless you've got LOLcats. Then the cute blinds you to everything else.
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    Jul 18, 2008 8:23 PM GMT
    I hope you realize how shallow all of this sounds ;)