Insecurity about your own racial background?

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    Apr 25, 2012 6:12 PM GMT
    Has anyone ever felt this way about this towards themselves?

    I know this probably a very difficult question to answer, but this is a forum and everyone is entitled to their opinion on this subject.
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    Apr 25, 2012 8:20 PM GMT
    When I was younger I used to feel that I didn't have anything to cling onto racewise or culturally, cause I am half Mexican, half American. It's been a common theme in my life to neither be from here or there, this or that, or the the other. I'm content with myself as I am now. I don't care if I'm good enough for anyone else for looking like this, or that. Usually people realize how stupid their prejudices on were, and if they've got a mind to get to know people for more than what they see physically, they usually spend time getting to know me. I personally don't feel anyone should ever let anyone else make them feel any less for what they look like at first site. You never know what lays beneath the surface. icon_wink.gif
  • TadPohl

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    Apr 25, 2012 10:16 PM GMT
    Sure, I grew up all kinds of confused because of the color of my skin and how it conflicted with the idea of the "All American"
    I was never upset that I was ethnic, only that I wasn't considered "normal" by American standards.... that there is something inferior about me. That not having light skin, blond hair or blue eyes made me.... ugly. It was a bothersome issue until college.

    I can't speak on behalf of other people, but even in my adult life I am sometimes boxed in by the color of my skin and the shape of my eyes.
    I get weird back handed compliments.
    I'm told "You're pretty hot..... for an Asian"
    or
    "We don't usually like your kind, but you're cute. Wanna go home with me?"
    or my favorite
    "Dude, you're Asian right? Then you must be an incredible bottom! It's cool. I don't mind small cocks. Wanna hang?"

    FML!

    What's troublesome isn't the matter of self perception, but of how I sometimes have to swim in the pool of crap based on other people's preconceived ideas of who I am... before I even begin to speak.

    btw Asians are equally nasty to me because I'm mixed. If ever you think they're talking shit in an Asian language. They probably are. I often overhear being called a dirty Mexican in Chinese.
    I was once labeled as a Middle Eastern by a group of frightened senior women talking trash in Asia town. Hilarious and wrong!

    Would insecurity based on race exist without outside influence?

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    Apr 25, 2012 11:58 PM GMT
    As I grew up African American in the South Of Alabama, It was not easy at all for me and to be honest all I was, was insecure.

    The white people I encountered at the time were racist and I did not fit in with them, but I always were around them and with my dad being a cop and my mother a devout christian I spoke differently with a very intellectual air.

    The kids from the hood thought I was whitewashed and called me names like oreo and snob and other things of the sort.

    I use to think things would be better if I was white, because of my personality in itself. I like pop music and punk just as much as R&B and I love Anime and I like animals, like Alligators and even work with one at work.

    My race has alot of "do's" and "don'ts" People treat me like they have a level of blackness that I do not measure up to, even though we are from the same hood.

    It is hard to get over sometimes.
    I still feel insecure more often than not, but not as nearly as I did before.

    Where I come from, following the rules is not cool, and peace is punkish. Therefore I never will fit in.

    I want to be a writer not a rapper.
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    Apr 26, 2012 12:15 AM GMT
    JamieJfromtheA saidAs I grew up African American in the South Of Alabama, ...
    Fuck, dude, you have my condolences! That place is the shithole of the US. icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 26, 2012 12:27 AM GMT
    I had a weird culture shock when I went to school in New York City. Everyone at school thought I was a foreign exchange student from Denmark or something, and people would talk very slowly to me like they weren't sure I spoke English.
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    Apr 26, 2012 12:36 AM GMT
    JamieJfromtheA saidAs I grew up African American in the South Of Alabama....


    Really, where? My dad is from Birmingham.
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    Apr 26, 2012 12:38 AM GMT
    _Thommy_ said.



    Tommy, you got a lisp.
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    Apr 26, 2012 12:39 AM GMT
    Yes I'm completely insecure about being white.
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    Apr 26, 2012 12:40 AM GMT
    Anduru saidYes I'm completely insecure about being white.


    Me too. We don't have scholarships for our own kind icon_sad.gif
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    Apr 26, 2012 12:40 AM GMT
    _Thommy_ said
    JamieJfromtheA saidAs I grew up African American in the South Of Alabama....


    Really, where? My dad is from Birmingham.


    Most of my family is in Birmingham, but I am from/Still Stay in Mobile
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    Apr 26, 2012 12:44 AM GMT
    msuNtx said
    Anduru saidYes I'm completely insecure about being white.
    Me too. We don't have scholarships for our own kind icon_sad.gif
    I know right? I wish I could get tons of money from the government for my ethnic background too. Doesn't ginger count as the new aboriginal?
  • DCEric

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    Apr 26, 2012 12:47 AM GMT
    I revel, and always have, in the fact that I do not identify as a Christian in this society. I am grateful that my parents didn't give in and give us gifts in the winter, and that I did not assimilate more than has already occurred.
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    Apr 26, 2012 12:49 AM GMT
    msuNtx said
    Anduru saidYes I'm completely insecure about being white.


    Me too. We don't have scholarships for our own kind icon_sad.gif

    Not all minorities get scholarships, largely just the ones that were enslaved, or the ones that collaborate to provide scholarships to their own community.
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    Apr 26, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    DCEric saidI revel, and always have, in the fact that I do not identify as a Christian in this society. I am grateful that my parents didn't give in and give us gifts in the winter, and that I did not assimilate more than has already occurred.
    Celebrating holidays based on consumerism makes somebody Christian?
  • metta

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    Apr 26, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    I would not use the word insecurity. I would use aware, different, and/or minority. I think a lot of that has to do with the way my parents brought me up. I'm bi-racial: half British and half Chinese. When your parents tell you that you live in the most powerful/advanced nation in the World and that my ancestry came from 2 countries that were once the most powerful/advanced nations in the world, what is there to be insecure about.. .icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 26, 2012 12:53 AM GMT
    It used to bother me for a long time that people thought I was Asian or partially Asian because of my small, almond-shaped eyes. I don't even have any Asian ancestry (at least nothing from the past 4 generations).

    Now I frankly don't care what people think I am icon_cool.gif In the end it doesn't matter.
  • DCEric

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    Apr 26, 2012 12:54 AM GMT
    Anduru said
    DCEric saidI revel, and always have, in the fact that I do not identify as a Christian in this society. I am grateful that my parents didn't give in and give us gifts in the winter, and that I did not assimilate more than has already occurred.
    Celebrating holidays based on consumerism makes somebody Christian?


    That is the main way that Christmas is celebrated in the United States. More Christians exchange gifts on December 25th, than attend church. Further, in the non-Christian community, the two events are inseparable.
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    Apr 26, 2012 12:57 AM GMT
    DCEric said
    Anduru said
    DCEric saidI revel, and always have, in the fact that I do not identify as a Christian in this society. I am grateful that my parents didn't give in and give us gifts in the winter, and that I did not assimilate more than has already occurred.
    Celebrating holidays based on consumerism makes somebody Christian?
    That is the main way that Christmas is celebrated in the United States. More Christians exchange gifts on December 25th, than attend church. Further, in the non-Christian community, the two events are inseparable.
    I'm not a Christian but I want presents at Christmas because it's an excuse for me to ask for expensive things from my parents.
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    Apr 26, 2012 1:00 AM GMT
    DCEric saidI revel, and always have, in the fact that I do not identify as a Christian in this society. I am grateful that my parents didn't give in and give us gifts in the winter, and that I did not assimilate more than has already occurred.

    Do you give your partner a gift around Christmas time?
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    Apr 26, 2012 1:01 AM GMT
    Anduru said
    DCEric said
    Anduru said
    DCEric saidI revel, and always have, in the fact that I do not identify as a Christian in this society. I am grateful that my parents didn't give in and give us gifts in the winter, and that I did not assimilate more than has already occurred.
    Celebrating holidays based on consumerism makes somebody Christian?
    That is the main way that Christmas is celebrated in the United States. More Christians exchange gifts on December 25th, than attend church. Further, in the non-Christian community, the two events are inseparable.
    I'm not a Christian but I want presents at Christmas because it's an excuse for me to ask for expensive things from my parents.


    *facepalm*
  • DCEric

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    Apr 26, 2012 1:02 AM GMT
    cold said
    DCEric saidI revel, and always have, in the fact that I do not identify as a Christian in this society. I am grateful that my parents didn't give in and give us gifts in the winter, and that I did not assimilate more than has already occurred.

    Do you give your partner a gift around Christmas time?


    No. He's Hindu. That wouldn't make an sense.
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    Apr 26, 2012 1:02 AM GMT
    DCEric said*facepalm*
    Are you fucking kidding?
    I'm admitting to being a consumer whore. That doesn't make me a fucking Christian.
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    Apr 26, 2012 1:03 AM GMT
    It's hard being white middle class icon_sad.gif. Everyone assumes that I have servants tending my lavish gardens in my gated community... but it's not true. Those gardens are supported by my homeowners association fees!
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    Apr 26, 2012 1:05 AM GMT
    No servants or Central American landscapers tending Larkin's lavish gardens? Well, that sounds plain wrong!