Art_Deco saidI have mixed feelings when I see old gay couples myself (and not exempting me, either). Visually it's often not a treat, while I'm simultaneously admiring their longevity, both in life and probably as a couple.
I love seeing older (as in, even older than me) couples. They make me feel all warm and fuzzy. When I was younger I felt like there were so few role models for the committed male couple (for lots of reasons, HIV killing a lot of the guys in generations older than me, coupling wasn't as popular, etc.). I am so happy things have changed/are changing.
I've always felt those same things, along with mixed feelings, as I said, because the old-age picture isn't always very pretty. And in our community a youthful image is everything.
I hear the put-downs the young gays make about seniors, for instance how all old guys in the locker room are termed "old creepers" regardless of their behavior. Something commonly said right here on RJ.
So now that I've joined that demographic I know my partner & I are also objects of ridicule in our community, or at least disdain, pathetic in our loss of youth. We try to counter it by being as active and involved as we can, to show the youngsters that life, and especially gay life, doesn't stop at 60, or even 50 in some minds. (And maybe convince ourselves of it, too)
We've been to 5 gay functions, mostly fundraisers, since Friday (we also organized one of them), and we're leaving in 15 minutes for another at Rosie's. BTW, anyone in the area is welcome to attend as our guests, limit 2, just ask for Bob at the reception table, 6-8. So we try to do these counters to our age, this being just one of many reasons why, but at the end of the day, we're still old & ugly, and young people simply don't like it.