Old Gay Couple = Disgusting!

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    Apr 25, 2012 8:33 PM GMT
    Well that's what it equals according to certain members of my family. My Aunt who was in the living room watching television calls me from upstairs...just to show me a older retired gay couple and she goes "It's Gross Enough When They Are Young But When They Are Old It's DISGUSTING AND THEY SHOULD BE BEAT." My reply was a fake smile and in my head I wanted to grab the lamp from the sidetable and beat her with it.

    No I'm not out to my family. With good reasons.

    Has anyone else ever heard this ridiculous statement??
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    Apr 25, 2012 8:35 PM GMT
    Xhris_19_FL saidWell that's what it equals according to certain members of my family. My Aunt who was in the living room watching television calls me from upstairs...just to show me a older retired gay couple and she goes "It's Gross Enough When They Are Young But When They Are Old It's DISGUSTING AND THEY SHOULD BE BEAT." My reply was a fake smile and in my head I wanted to grab the lamp from the sidetable and beat her with it.

    No I'm not out to my family. With good reasons.

    Has anyone else ever heard this ridiculous statement??


    I'd be happy to beat your Auntie with a billy club.
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    Apr 25, 2012 8:38 PM GMT
    I'd poop in a bag and hand it to her. Then I'd tell her "That's what's coming out of your mouth right now."
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    Apr 25, 2012 8:48 PM GMT
    TheBizMan saidI'd poop in a bag and hand it to her. Then I'd tell her "That's what's coming out of your mouth right now."



    Funny thing is...she's watching Fing Logo!!!!
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    Apr 25, 2012 8:57 PM GMT
    You don't have to out yourself to reply to her.
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    Apr 25, 2012 9:00 PM GMT
    Just her way of reinforcing her denial and keep you from destroying her Christal reality.
    But, what do I know.
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    Apr 25, 2012 9:01 PM GMT
    Xhris_19_FL saidWell that's what it equals according to certain members of my family. My Aunt who was in the living room watching television calls me from upstairs...just to show me a older retired gay couple and she goes "It's Gross Enough When They Are Young But When They Are Old It's DISGUSTING AND THEY SHOULD BE BEAT." My reply was a fake smile and in my head I wanted to grab the lamp from the sidetable and beat her with it.

    No I'm not out to my family. With good reasons.

    Has anyone else ever heard this ridiculous statement??


    And this is EXACTLY why you SHOULD be out! Where are your balls dude?
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    Apr 25, 2012 9:02 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidJust her way of reinforcing her denial and keep you from destroying her Christal reality.
    But, what do I know.


    Probably right. She probably knows on some level and this is a not so subtle bullying tactic to keep you from disturbing her comfortable worldview.
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    Apr 25, 2012 9:03 PM GMT
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    Xhris_19_FL saidWell that's what it equals according to certain members of my family. My Aunt who was in the living room watching television calls me from upstairs...just to show me a older retired gay couple and she goes "It's Gross Enough When They Are Young But When They Are Old It's DISGUSTING AND THEY SHOULD BE BEAT." My reply was a fake smile and in my head I wanted to grab the lamp from the sidetable and beat her with it.

    No I'm not out to my family. With good reasons.

    Has anyone else ever heard this ridiculous statement??


    And this is EXACTLY why you SHOULD be out! Where are your balls dude?


    I am out too EVERYONE. Except my family. Oh and sweetie I came out in High School at the age of 15...so I'm pretty sure my "Balls" are big enough.
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    Apr 25, 2012 9:04 PM GMT
    Old (gay) people in love? Please, I thought physical contact and affection with your partner stopped as soon as you say "I do" icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 25, 2012 9:05 PM GMT
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    Scruffypup said
    Xhris_19_FL saidWell that's what it equals according to certain members of my family. My Aunt who was in the living room watching television calls me from upstairs...just to show me a older retired gay couple and she goes "It's Gross Enough When They Are Young But When They Are Old It's DISGUSTING AND THEY SHOULD BE BEAT." My reply was a fake smile and in my head I wanted to grab the lamp from the sidetable and beat her with it.

    No I'm not out to my family. With good reasons.

    Has anyone else ever heard this ridiculous statement??


    And this is EXACTLY why you SHOULD be out! Where are your balls dude?


    I am out too EVERYONE. Except my family. Oh and sweetie I came out in High School at the age of 15...so I'm pretty sure my "Balls" are big enough.
    Not big enough for your 'family'!icon_wink.gif
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    Scruffypup said
    Xhris_19_FL saidWell that's what it equals according to certain members of my family. My Aunt who was in the living room watching television calls me from upstairs...just to show me a older retired gay couple and she goes "It's Gross Enough When They Are Young But When They Are Old It's DISGUSTING AND THEY SHOULD BE BEAT." My reply was a fake smile and in my head I wanted to grab the lamp from the sidetable and beat her with it.

    No I'm not out to my family. With good reasons.

    Has anyone else ever heard this ridiculous statement??


    And this is EXACTLY why you SHOULD be out! Where are your balls dude?


    I am out too EVERYONE. Except my family. Oh and sweetie I came out in High School at the age of 15...so I'm pretty sure my "Balls" are big enough.


    Sorry, it just pisses me off to hear someone get away with saying such ignorant shit like that without getting told where to step the fuck off.
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    Apr 25, 2012 9:06 PM GMT
    pocketnico saidOld (gay) people in love? Please, I thought physical contact and affection with your partner stopped as soon as you say "I do" icon_rolleyes.gif


    That's only lesbians.
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    Apr 25, 2012 9:06 PM GMT
    No, I haven't.
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    Apr 25, 2012 9:08 PM GMT
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    TheBizMan saidI'd poop in a bag and hand it to her. Then I'd tell her "That's what's coming out of your mouth right now."

    Funny thing is...she's watching Fing Logo!!!!

    I thought Logo wasn't allowed to be received in Tallahassee, the capitol of Florida. And not entirely a joke, when I lived in North Dakota their Prairie Public Television refused to show the GLBT program In The Life.

    I have mixed feelings when I see old gay couples myself (and not exempting me, either). Visually it's often not a treat, while I'm simultaneously admiring their longevity, both in life and probably as a couple.

    Frankly I do prefer to see a young couple who are very much into each other, not necessarily sexually, but just so attuned and well-matched. And despite my envy at what I never had myself at their age, due to my own stupidity & blindness, but it still makes me smile inside to see it.

    Maybe you should tell your aunt that you think all old couples are disgusting to look at, straight or gay.
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    Apr 25, 2012 9:09 PM GMT
    wow...out since 15 and you use the word "sweetie" and yet believe she doesn't know?
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    Apr 25, 2012 9:13 PM GMT
    Art_Deco saidI have mixed feelings when I see old gay couples myself (and not exempting me, either). Visually it's often not a treat, while I'm simultaneously admiring their longevity, both in life and probably as a couple.


    Really?

    I love seeing older (as in, even older than me) couples. They make me feel all warm and fuzzy. When I was younger I felt like there were so few role models for the committed male couple (for lots of reasons, HIV killing a lot of the guys in generations older than me, coupling wasn't as popular, etc.). I am so happy things have changed/are changing.
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    Apr 25, 2012 9:20 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidwow...out since 15 and you use the word "sweetie" and yet believe she doesn't know?


    I'm pretty sure she does know, and that's why she called him all the way from the living room just to tell him that. It's probably her way of trying to passively bully him into never coming out.
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    Apr 25, 2012 9:23 PM GMT
    I don't want to hear it. I'd correct her immediately. She's thinks you're straight? Good, use it to your advantage. "Look grandma, time are different now. Gays are being accepted more and more into society. I don't have a problem with it. It doesn't bother me one bit." is what you can tell her with her next cruel comment. I did that with family of mine when they had no clue about me being gay. Then once, one of my more rowdy family members called me a faggot for defending gays; and my clever(at the time) response was, "So what if I was a faggot? What would really change about me, or what you think of me, just cause of one small detail like that? I'm not,(I lied) but you better accept me anyways." He knows now, but never has brought that up to me.
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    Apr 25, 2012 9:28 PM GMT
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    Scruffypup said
    Xhris_19_FL saidWell that's what it equals according to certain members of my family. My Aunt who was in the living room watching television calls me from upstairs...just to show me a older retired gay couple and she goes "It's Gross Enough When They Are Young But When They Are Old It's DISGUSTING AND THEY SHOULD BE BEAT." My reply was a fake smile and in my head I wanted to grab the lamp from the sidetable and beat her with it.

    No I'm not out to my family. With good reasons.

    Has anyone else ever heard this ridiculous statement??


    And this is EXACTLY why you SHOULD be out! Where are your balls dude?


    I am out too EVERYONE. Except my family. Oh and sweetie I came out in High School at the age of 15...so I'm pretty sure my "Balls" are big enough.


    His point still stands, If you were out to your family, maybe they would re-examine thier views.

    But I see you are 19, so maybe you are still living at home and are dependent on them for a roof over your head, so I can understand if you are still in the closet at home.
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    Apr 25, 2012 9:34 PM GMT
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    Art_Deco saidI have mixed feelings when I see old gay couples myself (and not exempting me, either). Visually it's often not a treat, while I'm simultaneously admiring their longevity, both in life and probably as a couple.

    Really?

    I love seeing older (as in, even older than me) couples. They make me feel all warm and fuzzy. When I was younger I felt like there were so few role models for the committed male couple (for lots of reasons, HIV killing a lot of the guys in generations older than me, coupling wasn't as popular, etc.). I am so happy things have changed/are changing.

    I've always felt those same things, along with mixed feelings, as I said, because the old-age picture isn't always very pretty. And in our community a youthful image is everything.

    I hear the put-downs the young gays make about seniors, for instance how all old guys in the locker room are termed "old creepers" regardless of their behavior. Something commonly said right here on RJ.

    So now that I've joined that demographic I know my partner & I are also objects of ridicule in our community, or at least disdain, pathetic in our loss of youth. We try to counter it by being as active and involved as we can, to show the youngsters that life, and especially gay life, doesn't stop at 60, or even 50 in some minds. (And maybe convince ourselves of it, too)

    We've been to 5 gay functions, mostly fundraisers, since Friday (we also organized one of them), and we're leaving in 15 minutes for another at Rosie's. BTW, anyone in the area is welcome to attend as our guests, limit 2, just ask for Bob at the reception table, 6-8. So we try to do these counters to our age, this being just one of many reasons why, but at the end of the day, we're still old & ugly, and young people simply don't like it.
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    Apr 25, 2012 9:38 PM GMT
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    Xhris_19_FL saidWell that's what it equals according to certain members of my family. My Aunt who was in the living room watching television calls me from upstairs...just to show me a older retired gay couple and she goes "It's Gross Enough When They Are Young But When They Are Old It's DISGUSTING AND THEY SHOULD BE BEAT." My reply was a fake smile and in my head I wanted to grab the lamp from the sidetable and beat her with it.

    No I'm not out to my family. With good reasons.

    Has anyone else ever heard this ridiculous statement??


    And this is EXACTLY why you SHOULD be out! Where are your balls dude?


    Not everyone can come out since people have different circumstances. Save your judgment.
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    Apr 25, 2012 9:41 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    I have mixed feelings when I see old gay couples myself (and not exempting me, either). Visually it's often not a treat, while I'm simultaneously admiring their longevity, both in life and probably as a couple.

    Frankly I do prefer to see a young couple who are very much into each other, not necessarily sexually, but just so attuned and well-matched. And despite my envy at what I never had myself at their age, due to my own stupidity & blindness, but it still makes me smile inside to see it.


    Wow. It's truly shocking to see such blatant ageism coming from a "mature" guy. Maybe you need to examine what makes you "smile".

    I was in the coffee shop a few weeks ago and saw a very elderly male couple in their 80's trying to get in the door. One was using a walker and the other was doing the best he could with a cane. Before I could get up to open the door for them someone beat me to it. They ended up taking the table beside us. I initiated a conversation with them using the cap one of them was wearing as a conversation starter. It was a Naval cap with the name of a ship on it. They told me how they met "during the war" (and no, not the Vietnam War!) They've been together longer than most of us have been alive. I felt my eyes tearing up the entire conversation and it was everything I could do not to cry. Now this made me smile.
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    Apr 25, 2012 9:43 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    I hear the put-downs the young gays make about seniors, for instance how all old guys in the locker room are termed "old creepers" regardless of their behavior. Something commonly said right here on RJ.


    I don't put up with that. At least when I'm actually not leering inappropriately.icon_wink.gif

    Art_Deco saidSo now that I've joined that demographic I know my partner & I are also objects of ridicule in our community, or at least disdain, pathetic in our loss of youth. We try to counter it by being as active and involved as we can, to show the youngsters that life, and especially gay life, doesn't stop at 60, or even 50 in some minds. (And maybe convince ourselves of it, too)


    Awesome that you do that, not awesome that you seem to buy into the stereotypes on some level.

    Art_Deco saidbut at the end of the day, we're still old & ugly, and young people simply don't like it.


    Perspective, darlin', perspective. We're all going to the same place sooner or later. Not that we don't all try to stave off the invitable, just a little. icon_wink.gif

    I think (hope?) maybe it will be easier for my generation. There are just so damn many of us. 30 years ago I would have told you that 50 year old gay guys were invisible. Now we're everywhere.
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    Apr 25, 2012 9:46 PM GMT
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    Art_Deco saidI have mixed feelings when I see old gay couples myself (and not exempting me, either). Visually it's often not a treat, while I'm simultaneously admiring their longevity, both in life and probably as a couple.

    Really?

    I love seeing older (as in, even older than me) couples. They make me feel all warm and fuzzy. When I was younger I felt like there were so few role models for the committed male couple (for lots of reasons, HIV killing a lot of the guys in generations older than me, coupling wasn't as popular, etc.). I am so happy things have changed/are changing.

    I've always felt those same things, along with mixed feelings, as I said, because the old-age picture isn't always very pretty. And in our community a youthful image is everything.

    I hear the put-downs the young gays make about seniors, for instance how all old guys in the locker room are termed "old creepers" regardless of their behavior. Something commonly said right here on RJ.

    So now that I've joined that demographic I know my partner & I are also objects of ridicule in our community, or at least disdain, pathetic in our loss of youth. We try to counter it by being as active and involved as we can, to show the youngsters that life, and especially gay life, doesn't stop at 60, or even 50 in some minds. (And maybe convince ourselves of it, too)

    We've been to 5 gay functions, mostly fundraisers, since Friday (we also organized one of them), and we're leaving in 15 minutes for another at Rosie's. BTW, anyone in the area is welcome to attend as our guests, limit 2, just ask for Bob at the reception table, 6-8. So we try to do these counters to our age, this being just one of many reasons why, but at the end of the day, we're still old & ugly, and young people simply don't like it.


    Funny. When someone asks me how I'm doing, I always answer with:

    Old and ugly, but other than that, just fine.