Is it necessary to tell up front?

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    Jul 18, 2008 3:18 PM GMT
    If someones in a monogamous realationship and has an account on realjock...is it necessary to say hes in a relationship or not on the profile?

    What if you found your bf's profile on here and said he was looking for friends but didnt mention you at all or that he was in a relationship? Is it a big deal? Maybe once he did make a friend he could tell them then?

    Me personally I dont see what the big deal is about. If your in a relationship and all your looking for is friends then why not say your in one?

    What do you think? and what would you do if you saw your bf's profile with no mention of you?
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    Jul 18, 2008 3:42 PM GMT
    I'd be sad. I mean the fact that he is looking for 'friends' is a small concession. But the truth is, he probably didn't mention it because he wanted those who contacted him not to feel like he's out of the ballgame. i.e. he's still looking. icon_cry.gif

    or maybe he's just stupid and forgot to put it there. icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 18, 2008 4:50 PM GMT
    If he is in a relationship then he should say so. Honesty and integrity, good attributes for any homo sapien to have.
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    Jul 18, 2008 5:40 PM GMT
    I think he should say so, especially, if it bothers his partner. It's an easy option and it keeps away most of the riff raff.

    If he's the flirtatious type, gets aroused by the flirting, and takes out his sexual arousal on his partner, then it could be a win-win. That is unless the other is uncomfortable.

    I think both partners should feel comfortable and agree on such things so that unnecessary doubts and fears don't turn into unwarrented resentments.
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    Jul 18, 2008 5:50 PM GMT
    Sometimes guys do forget to change their profiles when they get into a relationship. I've done it before. Actually, I think my profile says "single" on a couple of sites now that I think about it.

    Were you snooping on your boyfriend?
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    Jul 18, 2008 6:04 PM GMT
    Definitely... "man-up" and be honest about your situation! You should be happy you're in a relationship.
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    Jul 18, 2008 6:10 PM GMT
    That is DEFINITELY between you and you!! As well as between you and your man, NOT us!!!
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    Jul 18, 2008 6:14 PM GMT
    There was this guy I knew in real life who created an account on here and didn't indicate being in a relationship on his profile - he didn't know that I knew that he was in a long-term "marriage"-type relationship - and then he hit me up wanting to hang out. I found the whole thing pretty sketchy. Maybe he did just want to be friends and friends only but it's hard not to question someone's intentions when there is no mention of the SO anywhere to be found.
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    Jul 18, 2008 6:15 PM GMT
    I thought a while before posting a response to this topic, and this is was I came up with. If one is secure in the relationship they hold with the person they love, then it should make no difference as to if either person's profile refelects such a state. On the flip-side however, it would become an issue if "hook ups" was indicated.

    It was stated in the "snooping" forum, if you don't ask, you have no right to infer.
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    Jul 18, 2008 6:16 PM GMT
    quaddamn saidWhat if you found your bf's profile on here and said he was looking for friends but didnt mention you at all or that he was in a relationship? Is it a big deal?
    What do you think? and what would you do if you saw your bf's profile with no mention of you?


    i guess my bf has to do some explanation ...

    if my bf can prove his case, i may consider it ...

    as long as my bf does not fool around ...

    if my bf fools around, i should be part of it ... ha ha ha ...
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    Jul 18, 2008 6:17 PM GMT
    Ok... so I thought about it some more.

    If EVERYTHING else is checked/filled-out on his profile and his relationship status was left blank - I'd be ticked.

    If NOTHING was filled-out, I probably wouldn't care so much.
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    Jul 18, 2008 6:38 PM GMT
    I wouldn't think of it as a big deal, unless it said he was looking for hookups or something. I WOULD be kinda sad that it didn't mention me.. but in all reality, your other half might not always make everything in his life about you.

    Trust me, it's hard to say that considering that I am seriously the jealous type.
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    Jul 18, 2008 6:56 PM GMT
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    Jul 18, 2008 7:15 PM GMT
    I don't know why you wouldn't want to, unless you were trying to hide something. For example, I just met the greatest guy I've ever met in my life, and if things work out, you better believe that I will mark my profile as in a relationship. If your relationship isn't something that you are proud of and a source of joy to you, then you should probably be evaluating your life and relationship.
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    Jul 18, 2008 7:19 PM GMT
    It should be in your profile. Period. There is no reason why someone in a relationship shouldnt have it there.