Give Up On Relationships

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    Apr 26, 2012 5:53 AM GMT
    Ok so here's the situation in a nutshell...

    This guy messaged my on Grindr (I kno not an amazing place to find someone), but he said he wasn't looking for sex and just wanted to try to get to know me and become friends/date before hoping under the sheets.

    We've been on like 2 dates and they have been amazing so far. I know this because he has txted me like 5 minutes after I leave telling me what a good time he had, etc...

    I just don't know if he's into me. I feel like when we are together, we have an great time and are so alike. But when we text, he is so distant. Sometimes doesn't ever respond or just is dismissive. Maybe I'm just a crazy stalker and am being dramatic.

    I hate opening myself up because of the worry of being hurt. I've been in some really bad relationships and I don't want to start again. I'm just thinking of giving up on relationships forever.

    Just wondering of anyone else has been through this...Any help would be appreciated.

    Thanks ^-^
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    Apr 26, 2012 10:51 AM GMT
    Give Up On Relationships -- Age: 22

    Met on Grindr

    amazing so far.
    I know this because he has txted me like 5 minutes after I leave

    I just don't know if he's into me.

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    Apr 26, 2012 10:54 AM GMT
    Grindr is not good!!!

    I have met a few guys from that app and it never turned out good.
    I would say keep your guard up though...no need to just dismiss him I mean you never know.

    JUST KEEP YOUR GUARD UP

    Let it down after you have time between you two.
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    Apr 26, 2012 10:57 AM GMT
    adam228 saidGive Up On Relationships -- Age: 22

    Met on Grindr

    amazing so far.
    I know this because he has txted me like 5 minutes after I leave

    I just don't know if he's into me.

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    So I mean, he's probably into him, right?
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    Apr 26, 2012 11:50 AM GMT
    Adam228 saidGive Up On Relationships -- Age: 22

    Met on Grindr

    amazing so far.
    I know this because he has txted me like 5 minutes after I leave

    I just don't know if he's into me.

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    What a cute bunny gif!!!
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    Apr 26, 2012 11:54 AM GMT
    "Omg, I want to give up on relationships now! I'm 22 and can think for myself and I went to college to learn...schtuff. I learn that txting reflects what a person feels and thinks. Maybe I should've called him instead. Humm, doesn't matter, I thought I was in a great relationship and he gave me a great time and dates went well and I feel so luva-dubba!

    Oh wait, he's not talking to me anymore, I hate him! I hate guys! I should just be a priest and be celibate. I hate relationships anyway, I want to give it up so bad I wish lent was just around the corner!"

    Oh look BUNNY!!!!
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    Apr 26, 2012 1:18 PM GMT
    Adam228 saidGive Up On Relationships -- Age: 22

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    Apr 26, 2012 5:29 PM GMT
    U guys laugh now

    ...i'm actually really confused and don't know what to do

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    Apr 26, 2012 5:31 PM GMT
    Everyone knows you can only meet real quality guys on Manhunt.
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    Apr 26, 2012 5:38 PM GMT
    xcuriousgeorge69 said
    Just wondering of anyone else has been through this...Any help would be appreciated.

    It will happen all the time especially with guys in your age group. As you get older it does get better but only a bit. As well as you will be more experienced in dealing with a situation like this. So learn from this and move on as well as get ready to go through this possibly several times more in your future.
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    Apr 26, 2012 5:42 PM GMT
    And while you're taking a deep breath, take a look at your initial post.

    You were on Grindr (mostly hookups, but what can you do) and actually scored a couple of dates. Very cool.

    But just because your guy texted you after the date doesn't mean much. He could also be just a polite guy. It sounds like he's just not that into you.

    There's nothing wrong with that! That's what dating is for, to check for compatibility. You like him more than he likes you, accept it and move on.

    Stalker, no. Dramatic? An understatement.

    Hugs.

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    Apr 26, 2012 5:55 PM GMT
    Adam228 saidGive Up On Relationships -- Age: 22

    Met on Grindr

    amazing so far.
    I know this because he has txted me like 5 minutes after I leave

    I just don't know if he's into me.

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    This bunny is SO cute!! icon_biggrin.gif Made my day!
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    Apr 26, 2012 6:00 PM GMT
    xcuriousgeorge69 saidOk so here's the situation in a nutshell...

    This guy messaged my on Grindr (I kno not an amazing place to find someone), but he said he wasn't looking for sex ...
    That's like a lawyer saying he's not in it for the money.
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    Apr 26, 2012 6:09 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidThat's like a lawyer saying he's not in it for the money.

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    Apr 26, 2012 7:09 PM GMT
    showme saidAnd while you're taking a deep breath, take a look at your initial post.

    You were on Grindr (mostly hookups, but what can you do) and actually scored a couple of dates. Very cool.

    But just because your guy texted you after the date doesn't mean much. He could also be just a polite guy. It sounds like he's just not that into you.

    There's nothing wrong with that! That's what dating is for, to check for compatibility. You like him more than he likes you, accept it and move on.

    Stalker, no. Dramatic? An understatement.

    Hugs.



    +1, except that he might also be into you and just not into texting.

    It is difficult to read a person through technology. Some people are better communicators in person than they are through texting, emailing, phone calls, etc.

    At this point, there's no reason to give up. There's also no reason to fall head over heels and expect too much. Just relax and see where things go. Hugs.
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    Apr 26, 2012 7:14 PM GMT
    xcuriousgeorge69 saidOk so here's the situation in a nutshell...

    This guy messaged my on Grindr (I kno not an amazing place to find someone), but he said he wasn't looking for sex and just wanted to try to get to know me and become friends/date before hoping under the sheets.

    We've been on like 2 dates and they have been amazing so far. I know this because he has txted me like 5 minutes after I leave telling me what a good time he had, etc...

    I just don't know if he's into me. I feel like when we are together, we have an great time and are so alike. But when we text, he is so distant. Sometimes doesn't ever respond or just is dismissive. Maybe I'm just a crazy stalker and am being dramatic.

    I hate opening myself up because of the worry of being hurt. I've been in some really bad relationships and I don't want to start again. I'm just thinking of giving up on relationships forever.

    Just wondering of anyone else has been through this...Any help would be appreciated.

    Thanks ^-^


    You remind me of a 13 year old girl who just started going steady with a boy during 5th period and then saw him talking to the head cheerleader after school while waiting for the bus... Lol
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    Apr 26, 2012 7:15 PM GMT
    ALAYS think it over before starting a relationship ! Or just fuck~~~
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    Apr 26, 2012 7:16 PM GMT
    xcuriousgeorge69 saidOk so here's the situation in a nutshell...

    This guy messaged my on Grindr (I kno not an amazing place to find someone), but he said he wasn't looking for sex and just wanted to try to get to know me and become friends/date before hoping under the sheets.

    We've been on like 2 dates and they have been amazing so far. I know this because he has txted me like 5 minutes after I leave telling me what a good time he had, etc...

    I just don't know if he's into me. I feel like when we are together, we have an great time and are so alike. But when we text, he is so distant. Sometimes doesn't ever respond or just is dismissive. Maybe I'm just a crazy stalker and am being dramatic.

    I hate opening myself up because of the worry of being hurt. I've been in some really bad relationships and I don't want to start again. I'm just thinking of giving up on relationships forever.

    Just wondering of anyone else has been through this...Any help would be appreciated.

    Thanks ^-^


    Wow only 22 and he gives up. Cause he live a long full lofe been tons of places and circles.
    Young boiz always so tragic
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    Apr 26, 2012 7:54 PM GMT
    http://tinyurl.com/72926koMen seem to have forgotten their own ennobling mythologies, and how (or why) to want to be men. Valor, honor, nobility, and courage are virtues now exclusively relegated to sports and warfare. Men are not really encouraged to cultivate the interior qualities that have classically defined a warrior/ philosopher/poet/ king/hero (or, for that matter, an adult man). They now seem to regard virtues like loyalty, chivalry, honor, integrity, and honesty as being less than manly – twee, anachronistic. In an adolescent word: gay.


    The truth is that most men really aren't that great, so I'm not so sure that discovering that at a young age -- as I did -- is such a bad thing. It may harden and alienate you, but it will also mollify you against their weaknesses.

    You learn to give them these subliminal, covert little tests of their hearts and their sincerity, and when they fail, you turn and walk away.

    It's not your failure. It's theirs.

  • Apr 26, 2012 8:00 PM GMT
    Yea, you should give up. Most people die alone in the hospital staring at the blank ceiling.
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    Apr 26, 2012 8:34 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]xcuriousgeorge69 said[/cite] But when we text, he is so distant. Sometimes doesn't ever respond or just is dismissive. Maybe I'm just a crazy stalker and am being dramatic.

    I hate opening myself up because of the worry of being hurt. I've been in some really bad relationships and I don't want to start again. I'm just thinking of giving up on relationships forever.

    Just wondering of anyone else has been through this...Any help would be appreciated.

    First: Don't put too much stock in how someone comes across in a text. You are missing a load of verbal, facial, body cues that really give insight as to what a person insaying.

    Second: Anyone who opens themselves to another in the hopes of forming a relationship is vulnerable to being hurt.

    Third: What's the alternative? Close yourself off from the possibility of ever finding love? That seems a bit extreme. And sad. And hopeless.

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    Apr 26, 2012 8:42 PM GMT
    Sometimes it's better to give up.
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    Apr 27, 2012 2:11 AM GMT
    Thanks to u guys who are really helpful! icon_smile.gif
    It really means a lot to hear comforting words from some genuinely nice people.

    And to those of you who are judging just based upon my age, don't be so quick to throw stones until you actually get to know me. Just because I'm younger doesn't mean that somehow I am less educated, experienced, or intelligent as you.

    I would hope that if you were to ever go through something, that the words of others would be able to help you through your difficult times.
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    Apr 29, 2012 1:34 PM GMT
    xcuriousgeorge69 said

    I hate opening myself up because of the worry of being hurt. I've been in some really bad relationships and I don't want to start again. I'm just thinking of giving up on relationships forever.

    Just wondering of anyone else has been through this...



    There probably isn't anyone on here who hasn't been rejected and/or had their heart broken at least once -- it happens...you get over it...you move on. Drawing conclusions based on text messages (or the lack thereof) from a guy you met on Grindr who you've only been on 2 dates on is, as you put it...

    xcuriousgeorge69 saidbeing dramatic.
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    Apr 30, 2012 6:33 AM GMT


    You are not the only one that's going through this, especially meeting someone through the internet or of all places GRNDR -_-

    My advice, just don't over think it. If he's into you and truly had a great time with you then he'll make the time to communicate back. I think you guys need to get to know one another more first, before knowing if you guys are into one another or not... It's okay to open up, but just be careful =0

    I wouldn't give up, especially at your age^^
    There's plenty more.


    and just to add, i almost gave up a couple years ago... I'm glad I didn't icon_razz.gif