What's a guy to do?

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    Apr 27, 2012 4:33 AM GMT
    So I live in a small town outside of a small metropolitan city (milwaukee) and gay men are far and few between, and even rarer are good gay men, semi-attractive, actually human beings lol.

    This thought came about tonight because its a Thursday. This is my date night because its a relatively lax day for me, and its basically my free night out of the week to go on dates, but really, I havent been on a real date in forever.

    I am the type of guy who's not really into hookups. Don't judge those who do, but for me it's not really my thing. I'm always in search of something more. I want the real deal, something worthwhile and all that jazz. fireworks and magic so to say.

    But lately its been a dry spell. All the good ones are gone or don't exist in this small little sliver of the world lol. A part of me feels like I want to just go for a hookup. Late night sexcapade and adventure, something to just give me a bit of a thrill. Heck, attention from a guy would be nice.

    I'm recently out from a bit of an emotional rollercoaster. Feel for my best friend but that favor went unreturned. I chose him but he didnt choose me kinda deal. So yea, days go by without a real motivation to do much lol. I just want a date and someone to come along to put a spark back in my life. But really what do I do? Gotta stay friends with my rejectee best friend, have to continue my existence in non-gay existent Wisco, and as a personal choice, don't do hookups. hahah where do I go from here?

    Sorry for the rant, but feel free to share some insight or personal life complaints/successes here icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 27, 2012 12:16 PM GMT
    You're 21. Stay on whatever path you've chosen in life. If you go for things that you enjoy and value in life, other guys who value the same things will find you. If you're still in a small podunk town at the age of 25 and still singing this song, move to a larger city and don't look back. Everybody is lonely sometimes, bro. Don't sweat it.
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    Apr 27, 2012 12:20 PM GMT
    Kane9126 said A part of me feels like I want to just go for a hookup. Late night sexcapade and adventure, something to just give me a bit of a thrill. Heck, attention from a guy would be nice.>


    honestly if you are single.. you can do what you like really.. just be safe!!
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    Apr 27, 2012 1:49 PM GMT
    First ...Never trash your beliefs for a one nighter...You'll either regret it or obsess over a guy who in reality was just horny and wanted to get laid....Your friend not returning your kindness....The reality...You'll meet a lot of guys in your life that are more concerned in "What's in it for them ?" Finding a good man is like picking a rose...You reach down to claim it but in the process you end up with a handful of pricks...Listen up...Your cute...When you express yourself.. you're sensitive...kind....Stop looking for love until you get around to loving yourself....That guy is pretty special....Later
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    Apr 27, 2012 5:30 PM GMT
    You are searching for something that's not to be found.

    I took that straight from a song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GlF24avCM98

  • Apr 27, 2012 9:00 PM GMT
    You want to fish in a well, you are setting yourself up for failure.

    Move to another city. You are really quite attractive, should have no problem finding someone who likes you (at least until you get old, but then we all do).
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    Apr 27, 2012 9:21 PM GMT
    Wow that's crazy, I'm going through literally the exact same thing! And The guy I really liked, didn't have the same feelings for me, and lately I've been so down in the dumps. It sucks. I feel like it's so hard to find a quality guy these days who wants more than to just hookup. So don't feel bad, you're not alone.