Advice on telling little sister I'm Gay

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    Apr 27, 2012 10:25 PM GMT
    My parents only gave me 1 rule after I came out. Do not tell my little sisters until they are older. I have respected that. Lately my 16 year old sister has consistently bugged me about why I don't have a girlfriend. She has even asked If I was gay. I have avoided the question. I don't know how much longer I can avoid it. Should I just tell her despite my parents wishes. She isn't good at keeping secrets so that is the biggest thing.

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    Apr 27, 2012 10:27 PM GMT
    When I read this topic I thought you were referring to siblings who were extremely young... but 16 lol. If they are old enough to watch Glee, I think it's okay they understand the concept of you being gay.
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    Apr 27, 2012 10:29 PM GMT
    S34n05 saidWhen I read this topic I thought you were referring to siblings who were extremely young... but 16 lol. If they are old enough to watch Glee, I think it's okay they understand the concept of you being gay.


    Other one is 11. I mean I know she gets the concept and will be fine but its more of the telling her despite my parents.
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    Apr 27, 2012 10:36 PM GMT
    msuNtx saidShould I just tell her despite my parents wishes. She isn't good at keeping secrets so that is the biggest thing.

    My initial reaction is that your sisters are still your parents' minor children, so I would say Mom & Dad get to make the rules on this one, right or wrong. Have you asked them directly about telling the older sister, now 16?
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    Apr 27, 2012 10:41 PM GMT
    msuNtx said
    S34n05 saidWhen I read this topic I thought you were referring to siblings who were extremely young... but 16 lol. If they are old enough to watch Glee, I think it's okay they understand the concept of you being gay.


    Other one is 11. I mean I know she gets the concept and will be fine but its more of the telling her despite my parents.


    I would say the best route is to discuss with your parents why you can't tell your sisters, especially the older one.
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    Apr 27, 2012 10:51 PM GMT
    If kids are old enough for the question, then they are old enough for the answer as well.
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    Apr 27, 2012 11:09 PM GMT
    Thanks for the advice. I asked my older sister for advice and she said tell the 16 year old. I guess I'll have a sit down with my mom and dad soon and tell them that Sarah has been bugging the crap out of me can I just tell her. I think they are still just scared and don't really want do deal with it. Its been a year now since I came out but we pretty much avoid the subject altogether. And yes I only seem my family maybe twice a month and today just happens to be one of those days.