Would YOU date a guy for money? Why not? I don't think it's shallow

  • cody004

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    Apr 28, 2012 1:49 AM GMT
    So the other night I met a guy at a club that I wasn't exactly attracted to, he wasn't ugly, he was just average and I just wasn't attracted to him at all (fwiw, he was 32, so a few years older than me). So me and my friends were chatting him and his friends, later, after seeing him buy some drinks for his friends one of my friends jokingly asked "So are you their bitch buying all their drinks?", she said it jokingly though. He just rolled his eyes and didn't answer...one of his friends later told us about how he's sold some internet business and had tons of money, nice cars, etc.

    Long story short I kind of, began feeling attracted to him? I dont know if that's normal, I guess the fact that he had money made me like him? I don't know, it's just how I felt. We exchanged numbers and I texted him, and we're going on a date tomorrow.

    I told my friends, thinking they'd be happy, most were jealous and called me 'shallow' and how I'm just going to 'use' the guy. I said there's nothing wrong with being attracted to someone for something they have (whether it be money, or be good genetics). Am I wrong?

  • Apr 28, 2012 3:04 AM GMT
    Sure, use your youth to earn some money. Tonnes of people do that. If you do that though, please admit that you do it for material gain, but not some hidden sickly weakminded romantic thought. Basically, if you decide to be rotten, at least be man enough to admit it.
  • mybud

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    Apr 28, 2012 3:40 AM GMT
    Nahhhh Don't worry you're like 50% of all gay guys...Money equals attraction...
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    Apr 28, 2012 3:42 AM GMT
    Money is irrelevant. Quite frankly, I want to make my own money, not get it by being some overrated whore.
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    Apr 28, 2012 3:42 AM GMT
    Note to self. Win the lottery.
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    Apr 28, 2012 3:43 AM GMT
    onaquest saidNote to self. Win the lottery.


    You dont need too, you look like money baby.

  • Apr 28, 2012 3:43 AM GMT
    Whore is the one of the oldest professions. Nothing is wrong with it.
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    Apr 28, 2012 3:44 AM GMT
    Awwww, thank you. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 28, 2012 3:48 AM GMT
    No. Wouldn't be able to enjoy sex. Money doesn't get me hard, unless I've earned it; or make me feel loved, unless someone buys me a sentimental gift, or I give one to someone. But you're right, it's not shallow, it could work, just remember to keep the money in the bank, and the cards in your pocket.
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    Apr 28, 2012 3:50 AM GMT
    No I wouldn't date anyone solely for the purpose of money. I'm an "old soul" so the chemistry has to be there for me. Money can corrupt people, I've seen it all too often.
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    Apr 28, 2012 3:52 AM GMT
    Josh1992 saidNo I wouldn't date anyone solely for the purpose of money. I'm an "old soul" so the chemistry has to be there for me. Money can corrupt people, I've seen it all too often.
    See, The South doesn't need me. You've got a good perspective on things at your young age, and people need to hear something different in real life. I can't wait til I can afford to move out of there, then you can visit me wherever I'm at; not in The South. icon_wink.gificon_cool.gif
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    Apr 28, 2012 3:54 AM GMT
    In all honesty, for me, I would not - because I am one of those sappy people who believes there are more important things than money.

    I am of course saying this on today - when I could really use a sugar daddy... icon_redface.gificon_redface.gificon_redface.gif
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    Apr 28, 2012 3:57 AM GMT
    Absolutely. In fact, fuck yeah!

    But only if it's a long distance relationship. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 28, 2012 4:00 AM GMT
    Yehoshua_B5917 said
    Josh1992 saidNo I wouldn't date anyone solely for the purpose of money. I'm an "old soul" so the chemistry has to be there for me. Money can corrupt people, I've seen it all too often.
    See, The South doesn't need me. You've got a good perspective on things at your young age, and people need to hear something different in real life. I can't wait til I can afford to move out of there, then you can visit me wherever I'm at; not in The South. icon_wink.gificon_cool.gif


    Haha well thanks for your kind words, but I won't be here for too long icon_cool.gif! Come to the South anyway and come visit! Meeting new people is awesome!
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    Apr 28, 2012 4:00 AM GMT
    Isn't it a known fact that if you're *that* attracted to money it means you yourself currently have or have had serious (negative) financial issues?? Or something along those lines...
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    Apr 28, 2012 4:06 AM GMT
    "Would YOU date a guy for money? Why not? I don't think it's shallow"

    I avoid guys with money, because of the disparity of incomes. The couple of times I innocently violated that rule, when I started dating them before I knew how much money they had, did not end well.

    One guy in particular I really liked, and I bluntly told him, when he revealed his wealth to me about a month after we'd been dating, that his money was a problem for me. And turned out my lack of substantial money was a problem for him, too.

    For me, at least, income equality is the best way to go. No jealousy, no resentment, no competition, just a whole lot of conflicts over money avoided.
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    Apr 28, 2012 4:28 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidFor me, at least, income equality is the best way to go.
    Not if they're both broke. icon_lol.gif
  • dj12

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    Apr 28, 2012 4:55 AM GMT
    No. I did the opposite and broke it off with a rich dude because of the money. He was a great guy, had an awesome bod, big dick, funny, and all that. But, I'm a poor college student and I couldn't keep up with him finacially. He had to pay for just about everything we did and it made me too uncomfortable and I felt guilty for it, even though he said he didn't mind. So, when he said he wanted to get more serious, I broke it off. Felt bad, but what could I do? Plus, he was 51, which is older than my dad..lol.
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    Apr 28, 2012 4:59 AM GMT
    You said, "Long story short I kind of, began feeling attracted to him? I dont know if that's normal, I guess the fact that he had money made me like him? I don't know, it's just how I felt."

    Well you won't know unless you go out with him and find out why you're attracted to him. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 28, 2012 5:06 AM GMT
    No, I would not. (Contrary to what some people on here might believe...)

    I dated a guy for about a year and a half, and while he wasn't wealthy - he was always the one picking up the tab. At first it was nice, and I appreciated it...but after a while, I started to feel resentful (not his fault)...but I felt like I wasn't bringing anything to the table (literally), and just felt super guilty that I wasn't in a position at that point to be an equal partner in the relationship.

    That being said, I don't think I would be able to handle another situation that, after a while would lead me to feel inadequate or like I wasn't contributing.

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    Apr 28, 2012 5:26 AM GMT
    Not sure, but probably this:

    If it was a very significant income/wealth gap, probably not; some guy making a six or seven figure income or more has different circles of influence and society he will travel in.

    Though on a casual or professional basis I can easily interact with such folks, over time I'd feel less willing to be the silent partner at the fringe of his higher-powered world.

    On the other hand, I could date someone in less fortunate financial circumstances provided he was willing to pull his weight and had a plan that we could work together to improve his situation.

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    Apr 28, 2012 5:30 AM GMT
    Only if he's really old, really rich, with a bad heart condition and eager to marry.
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    Apr 28, 2012 5:40 AM GMT
    Sure. I've come to the conclusion that gay guys are incapable of love(only lust) so why not date for money? Especially as I get older and my sexual attractiveness wanes.
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    Apr 28, 2012 5:52 AM GMT
    Atlantamasseur saidSure. I've come to the conclusion that gay guys are incapable of love(only lust) so why not date for money? Especially as I get older and my sexual attractiveness wanes.


    Lol, not finding love...with your sparkling outlook on life? Weird...
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    Apr 28, 2012 6:09 AM GMT
    Zero attraction to wealth and/or power. Gimme a hardscrabble guy with ripped jeans and a bookshelf made out of cinder blocks.