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I just had my first "date" for the first time in 1.5 years(my third in a life time). Sure enough he just wanted to have sex. I said "no" of course but one thing led to another and sure enough it happened even though I had no intention of doing anything, and i told him i didn't want to.

After my second date i stopped looking, or even wanting to date guys because my second "date, came on to strong. But sure enough today i went out thinking i was gonna have a proper date and that all came crashing down.

So do all guys just want sex? Or wtf is wrong with me

bosydomo saidI just had my first "date" for the first time in 1.5 years(my third in a life time). Sure enough he just wanted to have sex. I said "no" of course but one thing led to another and sure enough it happened even though I had no intention of doing anything, and i told him i didn't want to.

After my second date i stopped looking, or even wanting to date guys because my second "date, came on to strong. But sure enough today i went out thinking i was gonna have a proper date and that all came crashing down.

So do all guys just want sex? Or wtf is wrong with me

Well, for Pete's sake, look at you. Any homo that doesn't want to fuck you probably doesn't have a pulse.

bosydomo saidDo all guys just want sex?

Yes.

bosydomo saidOr wtf is wrong with me

If you don't want sex, then clearly you're not a guy.

OP. you just aren't the only one who feels this way. Not sure what the answer is or when to bring it up.

Paul, sex is great. But, NSA sex is {edit} not exactly 100% safe.

If it turns into a stream of hookups and only on Tuesday nights, that's what phone# blocking is for.
(damnit. OP is 22, hot, Canadian and having the same problem.)

I've learned many things about looks and getting guys to like me for more than what is sexually appealing about me. One, is that if you want to noticed for your hobbies/talents, put them out there for people to see. Second, if you want to be liked for you mind, make your profiles, connections, lifestyles and conversations more thoughtful and intelligent. Third, if you love your body and the way you look, take pride in the attention you get for it; but don't put more of it out there than you're willing to take flirty looks for being so damn HOT!1 Show the world what you expect it to give you back in return; or be the model of what you'd like other people around you to be... depending on what kind of people are in your life.

What I heard when I read your post:

"WAH WAH WAH men sux they just want the sex"
*slutty photos* *fucks on first date*

RobertF64 saidOP. you just aren't the only one who feels this way. Not sure what the answer is or when to bring it up.

Paul, sex is great. But, NSA sex is empty and an STD risk.

If it turns into a stream of hookups and only on Tuesday nights, that's what phone# blocking is for.
(damnit. He's 22, hot, and Canadian and having the same problem.)

So is it only a gay thing where guys just hookup after the first date? I must be missing something cuz every date is like this.

Now im not a princess but i want a prince who will take me out for dinner and actually engage in an intellectual conversation. Rather then S my D and call it quits for the night.

cold saidWhat I heard when I read your post:

"WAH WAH WAH men sux they just want the sex"
*slutty photos* *fucks on first date*

I didnt meet on on RJ so my pictures on here are irrelevant.

Enjoy it while you've got it. Soon enough all your dates will want is a sandwich.

theantijock saidEnjoy it while you've got it. Soon enough all your dates will want is a sandwich.

And it better be a damn good sandwich or somebody's gonna get a broken nose.

Three dates and a whine about all men. Jesus.

Perhaps communicate beforehand and let him know you don't do hook ups? Then take responsibility for your own actions if you do otherwise? Solved!

showme saidThree dates and a whine about all men. Jesus.

Are you saying Jesus turned water into whine?

Yes, they do. Put out, join a monastery, or actually follow through when you tell a guy you don't want to have sex on the first date.

You gotta be kidding me....Fuck yeah, I want sex. That's not all I want but given my pitiful demographic background and physical appearance sex doesn't come around all that often and I try to get it if and when I can.

WAAHHH WAAAHHH WAHHHH!!!

Yeah, pretty much, that's what we want. lol. It's interesting. For girls sex is power. For guys sex is definition. Go figure.

bosydomo saidI just had my first "date" for the first time in 1.5 years(my third in a life time). Sure enough he just wanted to have sex. I said "no" of course but one thing led to another and sure enough it happened even though I had no intention of doing anything, and i told him i didn't want to.

After my second date i stopped looking, or even wanting to date guys because my second "date, came on to strong. But sure enough today i went out thinking i was gonna have a proper date and that all came crashing down.

So do all guys just want sex? Or wtf is wrong with me

Not all fellas are interested in sex: some guys are asexual and such, don't care very much for that pastime. Yet, that doesn't mean your expectation of no sex within the first several dates is irrational. Since it's clear that you're looking for some way to stop the reduction of your dates to hook-ups, perhaps you could hold off some important tasks for completion after the date (that way you don't find yourself or your date taking advantage of the free-time for sex).

Going by what you said in the OP you could be asexual or possibly raped. You could start there and work backwards to figure out why you have issues with sex.

But shut up, Cold is hanging out on RJ again.

Maybe if you put a shirt on people wouldn't think you're that easy.

Smegmatron saidYou gotta be kidding me....Fuck yeah, I want sex. That's not all I want but given my pitiful demographic background and physical appearance sex doesn't come around all that often and I try to get it if and when I can.
WAAHHH WAAAHHH WAHHHH!!!

Hey why do you cover your face in all your photos?

RobertF64 saidPaul, sex is great. But, NSA sex is empty and an STD risk.

Paul don't give a fuck Paul get every STD.

Even at the cost of seeming like a prude if you REALLY don't want to go down that road you have to show people you're serious. If I told someone no and then later at their home they say "lets go in the bedroom" I say "goodnight" and walk out.

If you're worried about seeming polite think about it this way. Would you continue seeing someone who didn't respect your decision to not be used for sex?

You obviously identify with being a woman, therefore you're assuming the role of the woman which is to turn the man away for sex. So everything is working out as planned and now you can have as fucked up a relationship as heterosexuals do. Yay!



Just kidding



Or am I?

I believe 99% of gay guys do really think in sex...I do, however from the idea to the fact there are many things to consider. Starting from what do you really want, if it is sex...well , there is not much to think, if it is a LTR well, it is better to look for it somewhere else, sex is not probably the best foundation for a LTR, I personally am a bit dissaponted as I have had no luck by finding "the one", and actually I am not into hook ups, which makes me less active than most gay guys, kinda weird tho lol!! but that is the way it is and can't change it. The only thing I can say mate is.... sex is great, but I guess it is much better when you do it with someone who looks after you and your feelings and not only for the size of your cock or how bubbly is ur ass...btw it seems you have both !!!, you are the one who set the parameters buddy....how far you wanna go...up to you.

bosydomo saidI just had my first "date" for the first time in 1.5 years(my third in a life time). Sure enough he just wanted to have sex. I said "no" of course but one thing led to another and sure enough it happened even though I had no intention of doing anything, and i told him i didn't want to.

After my second date i stopped looking, or even wanting to date guys because my second "date, came on to strong. But sure enough today i went out thinking i was gonna have a proper date and that all came crashing down.

So do all guys just want sex? Or wtf is wrong with me

WTF is wrong with you is not that other guys want sex, it's that you give it up even though you say you don't want to.

You need to look at that, man.