Kristoff saidSoooo, I use to suffer a condition called TMS, it's getting off abnormally by masturbating differently, thus damaging the nerves in your dick. I'm recovered alot, as I can wank n stuff now. However... I still can't finish when topping and don't enjoy oral sex and it can be hard to get off sometimes still? My partner hates bottoming, so that probably doesn't help, but it's just tight and hurts even with heaps of lube and patience, but it just doesn't feel like anything... Is this normal? Can all guys get off on top or am I just broken haha?
no problem getting off from topping, but everyone is different. Not everyone's triggers are the same when cumming. It's not about normal, it's about what works for YOU.
Also, there's a certain component of prep when you bottom (not just the cleanliness part), lube and patience are definite, but there's also just practice. it is not always going to go smoothly the first few times, but that doesn't mean you don't keep trying.
And for the patience part, be patient with yourself in general. The anxiety from pressuring yourself to bottom properly is counterproductive, and it makes what can be a fun activity into a chore (and thus, a bore). Not sure what you and your partner do, but perhaps you can integrate other kinds of play before/during the part where you bottom (i.e. kissing while you guide him inside, etc)