Still Waiting For My First Kiss?

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    Jul 19, 2008 5:21 AM GMT
    when it comes to a girl im fine. i say the line and be on my way. when it comes to a guy im so shy and get beyond nervous. and i dont know why. i walked into a store today and the guy started staring at me and i just put my head down but he looked like a fucking celebrity..why....i need help overcoming whatever it is that i have.
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    Jul 19, 2008 4:31 PM GMT
    The first can be really intimidating. (I had mine a few months ago and was terrified.) But after that first (and, well, the several more that immediately followed it icon_lol.gif ) it became easy. This sacredness we place by first times and virginity creates a burden that some people can shake off (heard some very casual first kiss stories from guys here) and some can't. There's no shame in it either way.

    For me, it was a process of building up. A kiss is something you can't take back or explain away, so you can start with something safer. You mentioned eye contact-- you can shoot some serious fire with your eyes. So next time you see a guy looking at you, muster up some courage and look back.
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    Jul 20, 2008 3:28 PM GMT
    darkphoenix89 saidwhen it comes to a girl im fine. i say the line and be on my way. when it comes to a guy im so shy and get beyond nervous. and i dont know why. i walked into a store today and the guy started staring at me and i just put my head down but he looked like a fucking celebrity..why....i need help overcoming whatever it is that i have.


    lol, i'm totally like you. but hey, cheer up, at least you were sort of crushing on that guy right? i totally get shy and like start looking down almost everytime i'm addressing some guy that i don't know icon_redface.gif
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    Jul 20, 2008 8:22 PM GMT
    Think smaller. Just cause you do NOT avoid eye contact or talk to a (hot) guy doesn't mean that the world is about to end. So why feel so much pressure? (:

    If you have nothing to say, just let your smile do your talking. It can be worth 1000 words and will put you (and possibly him) more at ease.

    As a followup, you can even strike up a conversation. Smalltalk is fine (the details of your PhD thesis can wait). Do NOT ask what his astrological sign is. But find something about him to comment on, and a question may work better cause it gives him something to answer about. So instead of saying "nice hat" you could ask "nice hat, where'd you get it?". If he's at the gas pump across from you: "I've been thinking of getting one; How do you like your Crown Victoria?"

    No, don't tell him the truth, that your grandparents have this car and you hate it. Yes, fibbing is OK. If you never see him again he'll never know. Alternatively, years later, you'll be able to joke about it.