Now what? :S Advice appreciated

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    Apr 30, 2012 6:19 AM GMT
    So recently I told my mom I am gay, so I took her to this restaurant and we were talking and idk what got into me but I told her "mom what would you do if I introduce you a boyfriend?" and she reacted waaaay better than expected, she inmediatly took my hand and told me "I don't care who you love, if he makes you happy he makes me happy, I will always love you no matter what.... now, tell me all about him!" and I was like whaaat haha I told her that i didn't have someone to present her yet but that I just wanted to know that when the right guy comes she'll have no problem on going out to eat with me and my boyfriend.

    Of course that day I was happy, but then the next weeks she started to act weird with me and I don't know if it was just me creating that in my mind or if she was actually acting different with me.

    Today my mom called me and ask me how i was and what did i did yesterday, and I told her that I went to a club (which is gay) and she asked "sounds like fun, and did you meet a nice guy?" so I was like whaaat? now you're cool again...
    So can anyone figure out if my mom is cool with me being gay or not? :S

    On an slighly unrelated topic and to be honest less important haha, I did met a nice guy yesterday, a friend of mine introduced us and we started talking then dancing then kissing and finally we both had to leave so he gave me his phone number to call him. Now thing is that my love life hasn't been all that good lately so I am kind of in a "whatever" mood cos I don't want to be dissapointed again. You think I should call him again?

    Any advice or experiences will be appreciated icon_smile.gif THANKS!!
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    Apr 30, 2012 6:32 AM GMT
    1) Give her time.
    2) Call him. But don't have high expectations. If things don't work out, then you won't be too disappointed.
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    Apr 30, 2012 6:55 AM GMT
    xrichx said1) Give her time.
    2) Call him. But don't have high expectations. If things don't work out, then you won't be too disappointed.


    Thanks! (:
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    Apr 30, 2012 7:48 AM GMT
    xrichx said1) Give her time.
    2) Call him. ...
    ^^^that
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    Apr 30, 2012 8:10 AM GMT
    Call him, dumbass.
    Don't be like that "given up on dating" guy; it's a miserable character trait and unless you're truly better not in a relationship you have no excuse for not calling somebody that's interested.
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    Apr 30, 2012 4:13 PM GMT
    Anduru saidCall him, dumbass.
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    Haha thanks for the tough love man
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    Apr 30, 2012 8:13 PM GMT
    oooooh damn!
    My mom always is my mom and never act like my friend or something i think it so weird! If you feel bad talk with her about guys just say mom i wont talk about guys with you! And tell her : Did you like talk about guys with your dad?
    It's the same!
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    Apr 30, 2012 8:19 PM GMT
    You're reading too much into your mom's reaction. She's cool with it, so be happy! It may take a while to adjust, but she's done amazingly well so far it seems.
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    Apr 30, 2012 8:36 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    xrichx said1) Give her time.
    2) Call him. ...
    ^^^that

    double ^^^that

    The worst he can say is no, but if you don't call him you've already provided the no yourself.
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    Apr 30, 2012 11:28 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    paulflexes said
    xrichx said1) Give her time.
    2) Call him. ...
    ^^^that

    double ^^^that

    The worst he can say is no, but if you don't call him you've already provided the no yourself.


    I don't know, I'm scared of things not working out again :/ ... I do get your point tho ... Thanks!
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    Apr 30, 2012 11:28 PM GMT
    Larkin saidYou're reading too much into your mom's reaction. She's cool with it, so be happy! It may take a while to adjust, but she's done amazingly well so far it seems.


    Yeah, maybe I am reading only the bad stuff... Cheers dude!
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    Apr 30, 2012 11:31 PM GMT
    give me a call too
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    Apr 30, 2012 11:43 PM GMT
    Call him...and take it slowly (get the sex overwith if you want). But relaize that it's very easy to confuse the dopamine high of sex or sexual interest with actual real interest in/from a person. It's a discernment I've learned overthe years that guys seem to have trouble with (myself included).

    As for your mom, she will settle down if there are any doubts. ust don't breing home a flaming cross dresser the first time out and you should have no problems. :-P
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    Apr 30, 2012 11:51 PM GMT
    yea let your mom chill out on her own time...she sounds like shes well on her way already. and call him, but dont be too available. That is a lesson i have learned the hard way. several times. icon_redface.gif
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    May 01, 2012 12:38 AM GMT
    Your mother is testing the waters, she is wanting to make sure what you said is true or not or it is a phase that you will pass. She has not accepted it, she is also in shock but some people deal with shock differently than others.
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    May 01, 2012 6:49 AM GMT
    mizzouguy10 saidShe's probably offended you're pulling in hotter guys than she could, or that you're not inviting her for a threesome.
    He's not in Alabama.