Please RA(T)E me!

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    Apr 30, 2012 6:29 AM GMT
    Hello. I was recently rejected. The guy said he was not attracted to me. Now, I'm by no means a confident man, but I always thought I was at least okay looking, so it hurt a bit. Not sure what exactly is wrong with me, as he wouldn't tell me. And hotter guys have been attracted to me so... i don't know....
    I would appreciate anyones opinion on the subject of my aesthetic quality. Don't worry I won't be offended, I would just appreciate honesty, and I'm sure I can get that here. Feel free to rip on me hardcore if you want. A rating from 1 to 10 or even better would be specific features of me you find unattractive, like body parts, facial features etc. I would really just like some opinions.
    Thanks in advance!!
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    Apr 30, 2012 6:34 AM GMT
    0/10 would not look again.
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    Apr 30, 2012 6:35 AM GMT
    naivenewbie said Not sure what exactly is wrong with me


    Based on this thread: Insecurity and a need to derive your self-worth from others, inability to accept some guys just aren't into you and it has nothing to do with you.
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    Apr 30, 2012 6:36 AM GMT
    Join the party! icon_lol.gif

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    But seriously, don't let that dude get to you. He may not find you attractive, but I'm sure there are plenty of others that do. icon_wink.gif
  • TheBizMan

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    Apr 30, 2012 6:36 AM GMT
    naivenewbie saidHello. I was recently rejected. The guy said he was not attracted to me. Now, I'm by no means a confident man, but I always thought I was at least okay looking, so it hurt a bit. Not sure what exactly is wrong with me, as he wouldn't tell me. And hotter guys have been attracted to me so... i don't know....
    I would appreciate anyones opinion on the subject of my aesthetic quality. Don't worry I won't be offended, I would just appreciate honesty, and I'm sure I can get that here. Feel free to rip on me hardcore if you want. A rating from 1 to 10 or even better would be specific features of me you find unattractive, like body parts, facial features etc. I would really just like some opinions.
    Thanks in advance!!


    So you wouldn't be my cup of tea.
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    Apr 30, 2012 6:41 AM GMT
    Not commenting on you but just to say generally that:

    a) there's no accounting for taste;
    b) some guys like to bump ugly ie they want to be the pretty one, so someone might actually reject you if they think you are better looking than them;
    c) there are plenty of guys who I know in my mind that they are good looking but who I am not in the slightest attracted to sexually.
    d) there's no accounting for taste.
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    Apr 30, 2012 6:47 AM GMT
    I wouldn't worry if I were you. Be happy with who and what you are. Be comfortable in your own skin. Find others who are the same way.
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    Apr 30, 2012 6:48 AM GMT
    I see... I appreciate everyone's opinions. But especially the guy who rated me icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 30, 2012 7:35 AM GMT
    naivenewbie saidHello. I was recently rejected.
    Welcome to life.
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    Apr 30, 2012 8:10 AM GMT
    xrichx saidJoin the party! icon_lol.gif

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    But seriously, don't let that dude get to you. He may not find you attractive, but I'm sure there are plenty of others that do. icon_wink.gif


    LOL - xrichx, you are great.

    On topic, you are very attractive and have great bonestructure. I wouldn't worry. You're lucky to have that face.
  • mizu5

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    Apr 30, 2012 8:20 AM GMT
    you are a total stud.
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    Apr 30, 2012 2:08 PM GMT

    Well you're very cute, and remind me of a friend from long ago; Mikey.

    How about an 8/10?

    married but not dead, lol,

    -us
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    May 01, 2012 4:53 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    Well you're very cute, and remind me of a friend from long ago; Mikey.

    How about an 8/10?

    married but not dead, lol,

    -us


    +1, I would go with Doug & Bill...8/10
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    May 01, 2012 5:14 AM GMT
    I give you 8.75 icon_wink.gif
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    May 04, 2012 9:41 AM GMT
    Looks wise 8/10 your very much my physical type for a youngin. icon_cool.gif
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    May 07, 2012 5:20 AM GMT
    naivenewbie saidHello. I was recently rejected. The guy said he was not attracted to me. Now, I'm by no means a confident man, but I always thought I was at least okay looking, so it hurt a bit. Not sure what exactly is wrong with me, as he wouldn't tell me. And hotter guys have been attracted to me so... i don't know....
    I would appreciate anyones opinion on the subject of my aesthetic quality. Don't worry I won't be offended, I would just appreciate honesty, and I'm sure I can get that here. Feel free to rip on me hardcore if you want. A rating from 1 to 10 or even better would be specific features of me you find unattractive, like body parts, facial features etc. I would really just like some opinions.
    Thanks in advance!!


    1) You're attractive
    2) Rejection is hard, but it's one of those things that becomes a much less big of a deal the more you put yourself out there. Kind of like public speaking.
    I've certainly had my fair share of rejection, but it has no bearing on my confidence.
    3) Gay guys tend to have very specific standards, so it's frequent that a 7/10 rejects a 7/10 or even an 8/10. It just happens...!
  • Lexical

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    May 07, 2012 7:50 AM GMT
    We talkin looks or the whole package?

    You're an 8 on looks, I would say.

    Harder to judge mental attributes, but the "low self esteem is a bonus" thing is sort of...offputting. Perhaps it was a joke, but seeking someone with low self esteem sounds unpleasant.

    The profile in general also has sort a sardonic, calculated air to it. Maybe it's happenstance or I'm reading into it to much. There also is a bit of vanity in that, and the post you made. I mean, most people are aware that attractiveness changes based on personal perspective, and I think you are bright enough to know that, so the purpose of this thread is not likely to be because you really think there's anything wrong with you; you'd like us to reinforce your sense of your own attractiveness which you know is extant.

    This is a pretty typical response to rejection, but that doesn't make it any less objectionable. Positive ratings might make you feel better for the moment, but it will not remove the insecurity which causes you to seek them.

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    May 07, 2012 3:50 PM GMT
    Lexical saidWe talkin looks or the whole package?

    You're an 8 on looks, I would say.

    Harder to judge mental attributes, but the "low self esteem is a bonus" thing is sort of...offputting. Perhaps it was a joke, but seeking someone with low self esteem sounds unpleasant.

    The profile in general also has sort a sardonic, calculated air to it. Maybe it's happenstance or I'm reading into it to much. There also is a bit of vanity in that, and the post you made. I mean, most people are aware that attractiveness changes based on personal perspective, and I think you are bright enough to know that, so the purpose of this thread is not likely to be because you really think there's anything wrong with you; you'd like us to reinforce your sense of your own attractiveness which you know is extant.

    This is a pretty typical response to rejection, but that doesn't make it any less objectionable. Positive ratings might make you feel better for the moment, but it will not remove the insecurity which causes you to seek them.



    I like that assessment

  • May 08, 2012 3:21 AM GMT
    Body 7/10
    Face 3/10
    Together 10/20, so you still pass...
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    May 09, 2012 11:44 PM GMT
    6/10 for face
    8/10 for body
    I would say aside from face and body, your general aura is also very important. A person with 14/20 outlooking can makes you think that he is 18/20 because of his unique aura. Similarly, there are guys who are 18/20 at first glance but after a while I would rate him 14/20 because of his aura...
  • Chadfromfw

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    May 12, 2012 6:16 PM GMT
    I think you are very hot, but you should work on your confidence and your insecurity. Know that you are attractive, and no one can tell you otherwise. The guy who dumped you was probably less attractive...or even more insecure about his looks than you are.

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  • Remus772

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    May 12, 2012 10:52 PM GMT
    I think you look just fine though you should work on your self-esteem - everyone gets rejected at some point, it doesn't mean you're ugly or you worth less. I'd fuck you, for what it's worth icon_razz.gif
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    May 12, 2012 11:11 PM GMT
    dude, you're gorgeous. Body-wise hell yea! and face-wise - you have that masculine-youngboy look goin' on.

    Hey, there are always gonna be a sour bunch of gays out there who'se purpose in their miserable life is to just make everyone around them feel shittier than them so they can feel better about themselves.

    don't let them get to you.

    I was insecure too, but who cares... well, once you go out there and experience a wide variety of personalities you realize there's more to just the surface features.. and you seem like a down-to-earth kinda guy.

    9/10