Socioeconomic Status

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    Jul 19, 2008 1:33 PM GMT
    Would you date someone who make less than you? For example, you make good money and got a house, and you meet a guy who is making less than you and is renting a studio apartment. Would that be a problem?
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    Jul 19, 2008 6:45 PM GMT
    Answer to the first question: Yes
    Answer to the second question: No

    Basically, socioeconomic status won't matter to me.
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    Jul 19, 2008 7:08 PM GMT
    Socioeconomic status doesn't matter, but it doesn't mean that it is unimportant. It does take a lot of time and work for people from different backgrounds to get used to each other.

    People that I have been with in my life who came from a different background than I seem to have had a bigger problem with socioeconomic status than I have (in other words I might not have cared at all, but they certainly did).

    It helps if people are smart and flexible (on both ends).

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    Jul 19, 2008 7:10 PM GMT
    My answer is I don't care if a guy lives in a studio apt. and has a lower paying job. Think of the numbers of great guys you would be missing out on if you held out for only a limited group of guys within your same socioeconomic sphere. I mean, there are always pre-nups if it gets serous! hahahahaha!
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    Jul 19, 2008 7:22 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidMy answer is I don't care if a guy lives in a studio apt. and has a lower paying job. Think of the numbers of great guys you would be missing out on if you held out for only a limited group of guys within your same socioeconomic sphere. I mean, there are always pre-nups if it gets serous! hahahahaha!


    Maybe too that lower paying job keeps him in super hot shape too... agree with above. Plus anyone would get bored with the same crowd every day at every party, etc... Money... just another meaningless number [used to label] as long as you are happy and getting by!
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    Jul 19, 2008 7:39 PM GMT
    PRDGUY saidMaybe too that lower paying job keeps him in super hot shape too...

    Oh my gosh, that is sooo true! I often jokingly answer when I am asked* how do I manage to keep myself in shape --I say "Poverty". Which is partly true as accommodation is more of a priority than food, for my status.

    *by former school mates of mine who I reconnected with recently after not seeing even a picture of them in the last 20 years or so!
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    Jul 19, 2008 9:36 PM GMT
    You know, if money's an issue for either partner, beware. Love can take all forms, but if he's intimidated, he'll have difficulty feeling worthy, and that'll breed resentment.

    Or, worst case scenario, and I've seen this: he's broke and always asking for money, help with bills, that sort of thing. You may find him to be a drain on your resources.

    But, if you can be a sugar daddy, go for it.
  • upsguy68

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    Jul 19, 2008 10:30 PM GMT
    For me, it's not how much a potential mate makes, but being self-sufficient. I don't want someone that lives beyond his means!
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Jul 19, 2008 10:49 PM GMT
    I would never date money.
  • DCEric

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    Jul 19, 2008 10:52 PM GMT
    I actually struggle because my guy makes more!
  • ROYCE13

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    Jul 19, 2008 10:56 PM GMT
    silly question in a way, every other person you meet either makes more or less than yourself, I own, but many people of means rent, so ownership defines nothing in a way related to the question. no judgement here, but perpetuating silly ideas
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    Jul 19, 2008 11:44 PM GMT
    No it wouldn't matter.

    I can only see it being a problem if the guy was straight up broke. I am very good with my money and I like to treat my self to nice things and go nice places. Someone who was not able to go certain places or do certain things i would not allow them to limit me.

    But at the same time, I wouldn't not be friends with them or not give them a chance, but its not fair to someone who CAN afford more out of life to feel put out because the person they are with cannot share in that lifestyle. It's a two way street.

    I want to travel one day so if my partner can't afford that i'm not going to put that off. I think as long as the other person tries to make a living as much as possible and is a hard worker it shows good character. If the guys a lazy ass then move along.
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    Jul 20, 2008 12:18 AM GMT
    i would date someone who doesnt make as much as me and i would date someone who makes more than me.

    however, i do think that although it is not the most important part of a relationship, i do think that does play a role. if one partner makes significantly less than the other and one person is much further ahead in their career and financial goals than the other, i think that if we speak with honesty we can say that it might cause a problem. people can tend to become insecure or even jealous. i think that it could also limit some of the things that u might want to do as a couple because of cost restraints which can cause tension. But like anything in a relationship, if you really care and love the person, you will make it work.
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    Jul 20, 2008 12:31 AM GMT
    I don't think it would matter so much with dating for fun, but dating with the idea of LTR - those guys that would interest me probably are making decent money just based on their intellect and drive.

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    Jul 20, 2008 12:47 AM GMT
    I've been in love twice and when in those two relationships the socioeconomic difference between us didn't matter at all.

    In a couple of my more casual dating relationships, the fact that I made more money seemed to be a mildly, bothersome issue at times.

    In sum, it's never been the deal-breaker.
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    Jul 20, 2008 2:45 AM GMT
    It is a factor for me. I would date someone from a lower socio-economic status as long as they didn't fall into the cultural trappings of that class. I couldn't date someone who was poorly educated, loved Jebus, and operated a still. But I couldn't date a super-rich guy who was the trust-fund Paris Hilton sort. Money isn't the issue, culture is.
  • dfrourke

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    Jul 20, 2008 3:00 AM GMT
    lol

    finances happens to be one of the top three reasons couples don't make it...so...

    NO - no problem with someone making less than I do if they REALLY love their job...there are some really good people doing really good work...making really shitty salaries...

    I would probably take issue if our financial values were different...[i.e. what you do with your money]...I tend to like people who can "hold their own" in a relationship...so, if I'm paying for everything...that might be an issue...

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    Jul 20, 2008 4:30 AM GMT
    I used to think socioeconomic status didn't matter until I dated a very wealthy man.

    I grew up middle class, thus was never introduced to the different social environments the wealthy encounter. I had difficulty finding common ground in these situations.

    This man showered me with gifts(that i repeatedly asked to stop), preferred to eat a higher end establishments and shop at high end retailers.

    Although, he did not judge or persuade me to live his lifestyle, I compromised to do some things he enjoyed. The simple act of eating out with bills of $200, left little in the wallet.
    I'm one that insists on carrying my own weight in
    a relationship and this was just too expensive and stressful to maintain.


    Theoretically it doesn't matter but as a realist...yes it does.
  • GQjock

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    Jul 20, 2008 10:11 AM GMT
    The answer is wrapped up in WHY he's renting a studio apt

    If he's working and just has a low paying job?
    Absolutely, I'd date him
    But if he's renting a studio apt because most of his money is going toward other things? Like drugs maybe
    or clothes that he can't afford?
    that tells me something of his character and then the answer is no
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Jul 20, 2008 12:47 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidIt is a factor for me. I would date someone from a lower socio-economic status as long as they didn't fall into the cultural trappings of that class. I couldn't date someone who was poorly educated, loved Jebus, and operated a still. But I couldn't date a super-rich guy who was the trust-fund Paris Hilton sort. Money isn't the issue, culture is.



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    Jul 20, 2008 12:56 PM GMT
    I think how guys handle their finances would be a bigger issue than the amount of money they make.
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    Jul 20, 2008 12:57 PM GMT
    I would probably have no problem dating a guy who makes less money then me. But maybe I will if he makes more ...

    I sort of agree with what MunchingZombie said. Sometimes socioeconomic status DOES effect people...
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    Jul 20, 2008 1:01 PM GMT
    Lapinblanc saidI think how guys handle their finances would be a bigger issue than the amount of money they make.


    whoa i didn't read his post LOL i agree with lapinblanc... what would matter to me is how he treats his money. if he's cheap like me, we'll prolly get along juuuust fine
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    Jul 31, 2008 10:36 PM GMT
    Socioeconomic status = similar background.

    My 49 years have taught me I would probably have a better chance with a guy who has been to college, is making enough to be reasonably comfortable, hasn't been married or a parent, has dropped acid/shrooms/etc. at least once, . . .

    But exceptions are allowed. icon_biggrin.gif

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    Aug 01, 2008 6:14 AM GMT
    Whether my guy makes more or less than me, money becomes an issue for me if we find ourselves thinking about it, and when it eventually affects the way we deal with other as a couple.