Is it bad to have preferences?

  • prototype

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    May 01, 2012 3:11 AM GMT
    Alright here I go...

    So I'm a Native American (Navajo actually) who lives in Arizona and I don't really date a lot cause some of the guys who are into me are also native.

    I just don't date native guys...I'm not attracted to them and that's pretty much it. However, when that is brought up in bars or just in everyday life I get frowned upon or eventually get a drink thrown in my face!

    So is it really bad that I have a preference or is it just paranoia? I dunno it just kinda sucks sometimes when some guy you aren't attractive to you C-blocks you and then calls you a bad name because you didn't feel the same way!

    What do you think?
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    May 01, 2012 3:14 AM GMT
    There's a difference between preferences and prejudices. I guess the question is why you feel this way about other Native Americans? Why wouldn't an otherwise attractive person attract you just because of their race?

    It's not the end of the world, but you are limiting yourself if you cut off entire groups of people just because of their physical features. You can always move to some place where you find the people more attractive, but that's just avoiding the issue.
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    May 01, 2012 3:16 AM GMT
    This is yje option of being HUMAN....to have choice and preferences....also why it is called the dating game....Good Luck!icon_cool.gif
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    May 01, 2012 3:24 AM GMT
    As one who finds attractive people in all races, I don't understand and using your logic, they should not find you appealing. That being said, I sure have certain preferences myself...they just don't happen to exclude one, several or any race (including my own). Taking you at face value, the concept is interesting...I would like to know what drove/drives those feeling towards ones own race.
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    May 01, 2012 3:31 AM GMT
    Once you openly state your preferences in a public setting such as a forum they are no longer preferences but platforms. It's the difference between licking your plate clean when you are completely alone and telling a group of people "I lick my plate clean when I'm completely alone". Some people don't get how in that setup you are no longer licking your plate clean alone.
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    May 01, 2012 3:47 AM GMT
    prototype saidIs it bad to have preferences?
    It depends on what the preferences are. icon_razz.gif
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    May 01, 2012 3:56 AM GMT
    prototype saidAlright here I go...

    So I'm a Native American (Navajo actually) who lives in Arizona and I don't really date a lot cause some of the guys who are into me are also native.

    I just don't date native guys...I'm not attracted to them and that's pretty much it. However, when that is brought up in bars or just in everyday life I get frowned upon or eventually get a drink thrown in my face!

    So is it really bad that I have a preference or is it just paranoia? I dunno it just kinda sucks sometimes when some guy you aren't attractive to you C-blocks you and then calls you a bad name because you didn't feel the same way!

    What do you think?


    NO not at all, you like what you like.

    I am black, and I prefer white guys. I just like them, or Mexican, not saying I dislike black men and I do find some attractive, but for some reason I love white men. My dream guy is white in my mind,

    However, I advise to atleast be friends or get to know ALL men, because if you close yourself off, you may miss out on someone special. People can suprise and change you or show you things you never thought you knew, and taste can change, you can become attracted to someone that your originally did not. So just try to keep an open mind and keep the doorways of communication open.

    However It doesnt make you predjudice or racist...people throw those words around so much but do not know what they mean.

    People are mean, just ignore them. it is ok, no one can tell you who to like. Funny how people are telling you such and such, and calling you names for who you are attracted to, while we as gay men deal with that stuff as a whole for the same reason.

    You think they would understand you cannot help it, but hypocrisy...gotta love it.

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    May 01, 2012 4:08 AM GMT
    You like what you like. You don't have to be sexually aroused by guys of your race... that's just dumb. It's not like you hate guys from your race, just not into them. Perfectly understandable. Don't worry man you're hot you'll find a good guy.
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    May 01, 2012 4:10 AM GMT
    Very simple. Its about what makes your dick hard.
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    May 01, 2012 4:18 AM GMT
    beachwalk saidVery simple. Its about what makes your dick hard.


    +1
  • ytOwen

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    May 01, 2012 4:29 AM GMT
    dudewithabeard said
    beachwalk saidVery simple. Its about what makes your dick hard.


    +1


    + 100%
  • ytOwen

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    May 01, 2012 4:31 AM GMT
    Preferences are great!
    Your preferences simply tell you what you like, and what you'd like more of. Cultivate them.

    Why compromise?
  • ytOwen

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    May 01, 2012 4:32 AM GMT
    At least by cultivating them you get more of what you want.
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    May 01, 2012 5:15 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidOnce you openly state your preferences in a public setting such as a forum they are no longer preferences but platforms. It's the difference between licking your plate clean when you are completely alone and telling a group of people "I lick my plate clean when I'm completely alone". Some people don't get how in that setup you are no longer licking your plate clean alone.


    Like. You make me think.

    -Doug

    PS I think it's better to be who we are with our preferences and be able to be up front and open about them without anticipating rancor. Less broken hearts in the world of dating. icon_wink.gif
  • ineedausernam...

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    May 01, 2012 5:24 AM GMT
    JamieJfromtheA said
    prototype saidAlright here I go...

    So I'm a Native American (Navajo actually) who lives in Arizona and I don't really date a lot cause some of the guys who are into me are also native.

    I just don't date native guys...I'm not attracted to them and that's pretty much it. However, when that is brought up in bars or just in everyday life I get frowned upon or eventually get a drink thrown in my face!

    So is it really bad that I have a preference or is it just paranoia? I dunno it just kinda sucks sometimes when some guy you aren't attractive to you C-blocks you and then calls you a bad name because you didn't feel the same way!

    What do you think?


    NO not at all, you like what you like.

    I am black, and I prefer white guys. I just like them, or Mexican, not saying I dislike black men and I do find some attractive, but for some reason I love white men. My dream guy is white in my mind,



    LOLOOLLOLLOLLLOLOLOLLLOOLOLL

    It's not the end of the world, but why not? Do you consider yourself attractive? As a native yourself, why don't you think you're attracted to other natives?