Would it be a bad idea to ask a straight guy out on a date?

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    May 01, 2012 8:21 AM GMT
    I have a slight feeling that he could be gay, but it also could be wishful thinking. He is my TA for physics lab, surfer/snowboarder kinda guy and is super cute. Tomorrow is my final for that lab so I probably wont see him again and I'm debating whether or not I should give it a shot. I mean, whats the worst that could happen?
  • MikemikeMike

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    May 01, 2012 8:29 AM GMT
    why not just ask him if he'd like to hang out sometime. If you get shotdown right there he doesn't even like you as a person and you got your answer without getting a punch in the face. Hahaha
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    May 01, 2012 8:31 AM GMT
    Thanks, didn't think of that. Sounds like a great idea.
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    May 01, 2012 9:21 AM GMT
    I agree with MikemikeMike icon_smile.gif

    Wish ya luck..
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    May 01, 2012 11:58 AM GMT
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    May 01, 2012 12:08 PM GMT
    I ask my straight guys out on a date. We call it "bromance time"

    but since you don't really know this guy well then you're better off on just asking to hang out and if he likes men and likes you, you'll know, and if he likes women you'll know
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    May 01, 2012 12:10 PM GMT
    If you think there is a chance that he is gay, then go for it!
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    May 01, 2012 12:11 PM GMT
    Ethically, he should decline even if he is gay and interested.
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    May 01, 2012 1:14 PM GMT
    Haha thanks guys, now let's just hope I don't puss out.
  • douglasjames2

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    May 01, 2012 1:48 PM GMT
    GO 4 IT!
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    May 01, 2012 1:52 PM GMT
    redox87 saidEthically, he should decline even if he is gay and interested.


    I have to agree, so if he declines it may be because he is your instructor, sort of, and he would feel that he has to delcine becaue of professionlism.
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    May 01, 2012 2:17 PM GMT
    redox87 saidEthically, he should decline even if he is gay and interested.


    This.
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    May 01, 2012 2:33 PM GMT
    I tried this the other day at school the old fashion way. I didn't look him up and stalk him on the internet. He is a math tutor in the math labs at my school, and he always gave off vibes and got close when explaining things. He wears tight jeans, works out, and has a nice ass. He was a sweet guy and our personalities clicked. However, I asked him "Would you like to hang out sometime? maybe work out or go see a movie some time?"

    his response: "I would if i wasn't married."

    Do married guys randomly wear rings? ive seen him with it on and without..
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    May 01, 2012 2:33 PM GMT
    Moral to my story is, it never hurts to try.
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    May 01, 2012 2:40 PM GMT
    DO IT! and report back to us how it goes hahaicon_cool.gif
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    May 01, 2012 2:43 PM GMT
    MK_Ultra saidI tried this the other day at school the old fashion way. I didn't look him up and stalk him on the internet. He is a math tutor in the math labs at my school, and he always gave off vibes and got close when explaining things. He wears tight jeans, works out, and has a nice ass. He was a sweet guy and our personalities clicked. However, I asked him "Would you like to hang out sometime? maybe work out or go see a movie some time?"

    his response: "I would if i wasn't married."

    Do married guys randomly wear rings? ive seen him with it on and without..


    He could be married to a man even if it isn't legal in the state, it might be legal in his heart.

    I wear a wedding band, I can't marry yet in California but my heart says we are married, and yes every now and then I forget to put it on in the morning due to me rushing off. icon_confused.gif
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    May 01, 2012 2:43 PM GMT
    I always take my straight friends on "dates."

    The funny thing is they're so comfy with their sexuality that they'll even call themselves my date in public, and stand up to anyone who has a problem with it. icon_cool.gif
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    May 01, 2012 2:44 PM GMT
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    Hahahaha...lol!! I like this.
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    May 01, 2012 2:47 PM GMT
    So bizarre... I'm in Italy right now and men are so much more comfortable with their sexuality. I forgot how it is, shouldn't. It's my 4th time here, but I love the men's attitude on sexuality.
  • Vaughn

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    May 01, 2012 7:08 PM GMT
    If he's straight and a guy... your a guy.... it'd be pointless.
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    May 01, 2012 7:36 PM GMT
    mizzouguy10 saidYou should clearly get his facebook and creep the shit out of him first.


    Yes.
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    May 01, 2012 7:51 PM GMT
    Well, I dominated my final, but not so much talking with Ben. Towards the end of the exam he called out 5 mins left. There were several people still working on the exam. I was taking my time making sure everything was correct, slightly hoping I would be the last one to finish so I could talk with Ben when I turned in the exam. When I realized the other people could stay working on the exam all day and that it was way past 5 mins, I quickly glanced over the exam and packed up my back pack. It was kinda funny because as soon as Ben saw I had finished said "Ok, time to turn in the exam, times up". Now, if he just time called time randomly or if he was waiting until I finished to end time I don't know, but it was nice. Then, I walked up to the front to hand him my exam and we had a short conversation about some adventures he would be going on this summer and said our goodbyes as I walked out the door. I thought I would sound like a creep if I just asked him to hangout right then and there, so I didn't haha. Maybe I'll send him an email sometime and see how his summer is going or see if he's teaching the next physics lab I would be taking this summer.......
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    May 01, 2012 9:17 PM GMT
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    MK_Ultra saidI tried this the other day at school the old fashion way. I didn't look him up and stalk him on the internet. He is a math tutor in the math labs at my school, and he always gave off vibes and got close when explaining things. He wears tight jeans, works out, and has a nice ass. He was a sweet guy and our personalities clicked. However, I asked him "Would you like to hang out sometime? maybe work out or go see a movie some time?"

    his response: "I would if i wasn't married."

    Do married guys randomly wear rings? ive seen him with it on and without..


    He could be married to a man even if it isn't legal in the state, it might be legal in his heart.

    I wear a wedding band, I can't marry yet in California but my heart says we are married, and yes every now and then I forget to put it on in the morning due to me rushing off. icon_confused.gif


    That's so nice... anyway to the OP just try I guess, I wouldn't have the balls to do it unless I were out.
  • vintovka

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    May 01, 2012 9:26 PM GMT
    Facebook him.
    Also, so far as the posts that said it's an ethical conflict--that is not necessarilly true. Where I go (for grad school) TAs are considered students and are free to date other students so long as they are not actively grading their work. If it were at my school it would be OK as soon as the final is done.

    If it were a regular professor, there would be an issue.
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    May 01, 2012 11:01 PM GMT
    samj0047 saidWell, I dominated my final, but not so much talking with Ben. Towards the end of the exam he called out 5 mins left. There were several people still working on the exam. I was taking my time making sure everything was correct, slightly hoping I would be the last one to finish so I could talk with Ben when I turned in the exam. When I realized the other people could stay working on the exam all day and that it was way past 5 mins, I quickly glanced over the exam and packed up my back pack. It was kinda funny because as soon as Ben saw I had finished said "Ok, time to turn in the exam, times up". Now, if he just time called time randomly or if he was waiting until I finished to end time I don't know, but it was nice. Then, I walked up to the front to hand him my exam and we had a short conversation about some adventures he would be going on this summer and said our goodbyes as I walked out the door. I thought I would sound like a creep if I just asked him to hangout right then and there, so I didn't haha. Maybe I'll send him an email sometime and see how his summer is going or see if he's teaching the next physics lab I would be taking this summer.......


    Aah man, that is so adorable icon_biggrin.gif

    You should've done it like in the movies, after you said goodbye walk 3 - 5 steps towards the exit and stop, take a deep breath, turn around and say ''You know what screw it! and walk fast towards him, grab him and kiss him!!!! Let go (He'll be confused at this point) and say hit me up on facebook if you'd like to hang out.. and run as fast as you can icon_biggrin.gif (the running is for incase he doesn't react like in most movies icon_razz.gif)

    But seriously you should def. hit the add button on facebook
    You got nothing to loose!