The first move...

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    May 01, 2012 3:56 PM GMT
    I have to ask this question because it has been troubling me: are you the one who makes the first move or the one who waits for the other person to make the first move?

    I am not suggesting only when it comes to dating and whatnot--it can regard any aspect of daily life.

    As for myself, I am one of those introverts who wait for the other person to make the first move. There have been times where I get ballsy enough to make the first move...your thoughts or comments?
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    May 01, 2012 4:01 PM GMT
    generally, i make the first move

    but lately, i've not been making any moves...so it falls on others, except that i'm on a dating hiatus after a breakup and everyone is getting friendzoned...
  • MikemikeMike

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    May 01, 2012 4:01 PM GMT
    the man makes the first move. He who hesitates has lost.icon_idea.gif
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    May 01, 2012 8:29 PM GMT
    I rarely ever make the first move. When I do, however, it is only after I have had ample time to assess my target and my modus operandi . I definitely would not approach a random stranger whom I found attractive. Then again, for those not looking for anything serious, I guess that method suffices.
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    May 01, 2012 8:31 PM GMT
    Usually wait for the other person the make the first move. Unless I'm getting strong signals that he is interested, then I might make the first move.
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    May 01, 2012 8:33 PM GMT
    I have a history of making the first move... at least in the scenarios where it's a guy where we have a chance of working out long-term.

    I don't know if it's a height thing... I guess at 6'6" I can be intimidating?
  • DanOmatic

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    May 01, 2012 8:38 PM GMT
    Most of the time I make the first move.
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    May 01, 2012 8:39 PM GMT
    VERY sub I'll wait to hell freezes over before I will do anything. LOL
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    May 01, 2012 8:39 PM GMT
    I used to be the one who waited, but I am becoming more aggressive. icon_wink.gif
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    May 01, 2012 8:46 PM GMT
    If the guy is over 40 i like to make the first move... below that i tend to hesitate..... I don't know why. Comfort zone i guess.
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    May 01, 2012 8:51 PM GMT
    I'd make the first move but I'm afraid the guy might be straight...
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    May 01, 2012 9:06 PM GMT
    it feels like im always making the first move. whether its me actually going up to a person and hitting on them, or i was sending them "come after me" vibes. It makes them feel good when they think they have the control icon_twisted.gif

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    May 01, 2012 10:13 PM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidthe man makes the first move. He who hesitates has lost.icon_idea.gif


    yup. its also very hard when two introverts like eachother.
  • toybrian

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    May 01, 2012 11:38 PM GMT
    For me if it is about another guy it depends..sometimes it is me but most time I look for a signal and then go for it and hope he is interested.
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    May 02, 2012 2:05 AM GMT
    I usually wait for the other guy to make a move. When I do it first it comes across as awkward icon_redface.gif
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    May 02, 2012 3:21 AM GMT
    i don't make the first move bc they are supa hot and im just meh...but when im drunk I def. make the first move.(liquid courage) Once I straight up asked this guys if he wanted to make out and he was like yeah sure... I was like WTF it workedicon_lol.gif...LEGGO!!! icon_razz.gif
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    May 02, 2012 4:27 AM GMT
    LilPuppet saidi don't make the first move bc they are supa hot and im just meh...but when im drunk I def. make the first move.(liquid courage) Once I straight up asked this guys if he wanted to make out and he was like yeah sure... I was like WTF it workedicon_lol.gif...LEGGO!!! icon_razz.gif


    I'm all about the liquid courage too. It can help icon_razz.gif