Interesting article on Grinder

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    May 02, 2012 5:51 AM GMT
    Hi all

    Have a look at this article :

    http://www.thefix.com/content/grindr-sex-addiction-compulsion-GPS-app8274?page=all
  • DR2K

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    May 02, 2012 6:29 AM GMT
    Yep like everything in life, use moderation.
  • Art2D2x

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    May 02, 2012 7:10 AM GMT
    You've got to be kidding me. LOL

    It seems like a pretty lengthy article on addiction for Grindr. It's fun to get on and look at, but do people really take this app seriously? They called it deceptive because the way it's marketed. DUH! I doubt the Apple store would allow its initial availability if it were marketed as a "Hook Up" app.

    I love this line the most: "A common observation in the coverage is the irony that gay men, especially those in their 20s, are now so 'addicted' to Grinder that when they go out to gay bars and clubs, everyone is staring into their smart phone at the Grindr profiles of the guys surrounding them rather than at the guys themselves."

    Could they really exaggerate it more?
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    May 02, 2012 7:15 AM GMT
    Art2D2x saidYou've got to be kidding me. LOL

    It seems like a pretty lengthy article on addiction for Grindr. It's fun to get on and look at, but do people really take this app seriously? They called it deceptive because the way it's marketed. DUH! I doubt the Apple store would allow its initial availability if it were marketed as a "Hook Up" app.

    I love this line the most: "A common observation in the coverage is the irony that gay men, especially those in their 20s, are now so 'addicted' to Grinder that when they go out to gay bars and clubs, everyone is staring into their smart phone at the Grindr profiles of the guys surrounding them rather than at the guys themselves."

    Could they really exaggerate it more?


    I'm sure that quote was written by some bitter queen that hasn't been getting any attention icon_lol.gif
  • DR2K

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    May 03, 2012 5:33 AM GMT
    I'll use Grindr at a club just to chat with someone, so fucking loud. icon_razz.gif
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    May 03, 2012 5:34 AM GMT
    You misspelled Grindr.
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    May 03, 2012 6:29 AM GMT
    Man, I knew all this all along, everything the article is discussing.

    I don't use grindr because I don't have the app. But adam4adam, manhunt...all these online websites just attract sex addicts and turn people into them. Why do you think every time you meet someone off there, they are on there for years. You meet up with them once or twice and then they are back on it. They have no incentive to take the time to know someone when there's 50 million faces (temptation) at their finger tips. People use these things because they are 'bored'. Bored? Get a life. Do something.

    I recently met a guy who has a cheapo old flip phone and I don't even think he uses the computer. Sure it's a bit old school...but you know what, we've been meeting each other steadily and sex hasn't been the goal in any of our meets.

    I couldn't ever say the same for people who always had hookup sites at their finger-tips 24/7. They always looking. Always on the prowl for new sex.Give me a guy who doesn't know about any of that.

    You wanna hookup? You better be willing to pay for it...by the hour. Because I'm about relationships.Shit....play wit it. What?

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    May 03, 2012 6:43 AM GMT
    Tallathlete24 saidYeah we can hookup, if you pay me.
    I gots twinny dolla for ya if you pay your own airfare. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Shark100

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    May 03, 2012 6:45 AM GMT
    quite interesting mate, thanks for sharing it with us!!!
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    May 03, 2012 6:46 AM GMT
    I only met one guy on grinr/dnr social ever since it's creation

    and it was only 2 dates and realized he wasnt for me

    I usually just go on and block guys and die a little inside when I've used up my daily 10 free blocks icon_sad.gif
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    May 03, 2012 6:50 AM GMT
    fasterpace saidI only met one guy on grinr/dnr social every since it's creation

    and it was only 2 dates and realized he wasnt for me

    I usually just go on and block guys and die a little inside when I've used up my daily 10 free blocks icon_sad.gif


    That's your form of entertainment? I mean, not trying to be a dick but, if you're not meeting anyone who you like and nobody is messaging you who you like, why waste your time?
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    May 03, 2012 6:51 AM GMT
    Tallathlete24 said
    fasterpace saidI only met one guy on grinr/dnr social every since it's creation

    and it was only 2 dates and realized he wasnt for me

    I usually just go on and block guys and die a little inside when I've used up my daily 10 free blocks icon_sad.gif


    That's your form of entertainment?


    I need some entertainment while laying by the pool
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    May 03, 2012 6:53 AM GMT
    Tallathlete24 said
    fasterpace saidI only met one guy on grinr/dnr social every since it's creation

    and it was only 2 dates and realized he wasnt for me

    I usually just go on and block guys and die a little inside when I've used up my daily 10 free blocks icon_sad.gif


    That's your form of entertainment? I mean, not trying to be a dick but, if you're not meeting anyone who you like and nobody is messaging you who you like, why waste your time?
    His screenname explains all...he's too fast for normal hookups sites. icon_cool.gif
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    May 03, 2012 6:54 AM GMT
    yeah, It's pretty transparent that GRINDR is a digital bath house.

    And with that said it attracts every character that you'll see at the bath house.. including the gawker or the "WTF am i here-ers" in which i would most likely be categorized as, alongside the creepy old letch, the muscle stud there just to be seen, the lonely librarian, the drug dealer, the dude looking for the dealer, the hooker, The freshly out teen and the closet moth. All the same rules apply.. if they are up later than 2 a.m. they are most likely partying..sex fiends.. so there's really nothing new.. it's just that the rooms are larger and far away.

    But my question is.. how the hell does the sex addict be a sex addict when 75% of the guys flake. I'm actually guilty of this because 90% of the time i have no intention on meeting and my vetting process is LONG for fear i will meet you and will dislike you or vice versa because you are missing the natural instinctual attraction of meeting at a bar, grocery store.. or street.
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    May 03, 2012 6:55 AM GMT
    fasterpace said
    I need some entertainment while laying by the pool


    Yeah, and in the meantime the guy of your dreams walks past. He's checking you out, but rather than strike up a conversation with him, you miss because you're too busy fingering away.

    What's wrong with having a conversation with someone real-time?
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    May 03, 2012 6:56 AM GMT
    Tallathlete24 said
    fasterpace said
    I need some entertainment while laying by the pool


    Yeah, and in the meantime the guy of your dreams walks past. He's checking you out, but rather than strike up a conversation with him, you miss because you're too busy fingering away.

    What's wrong with having a conversation with someone real-time?


    I can multitask I'm quite the professional
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    May 03, 2012 6:57 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Tallathlete24 said
    fasterpace saidI only met one guy on grinr/dnr social every since it's creation

    and it was only 2 dates and realized he wasnt for me

    I usually just go on and block guys and die a little inside when I've used up my daily 10 free blocks icon_sad.gif


    That's your form of entertainment? I mean, not trying to be a dick but, if you're not meeting anyone who you like and nobody is messaging you who you like, why waste your time?
    His screenname explains all...he's too fast for normal hookups sites. icon_cool.gif



    hookup site?

    what's a hookup site? icon_razz.gif
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    May 03, 2012 7:06 AM GMT
    JackKash said
    But my question is.. how the hell does the sex addict be a sex addict when 75% of the guys flake. I'm actually guilty of this because 90% of the time i have no intention on meeting and my vetting process is LONG for fear i will meet you and will dislike you or vice versa because you are missing the natural instinctual attraction of meeting at a bar, grocery store.. or street.


    75% of the guys may flake but you're meeting the other 25% for a hookup. Say you're meeting that 25% for sex? That makes 100% of the guys you actually meet, hookups. If there are 100 guys to meet in a month and you are meeting 25% that's 25 different guys. About 6.25 guys per week. (let's say oral is the .25)

    And what you're saying is all true. But it doesn't quite make the situation better or different from fasterpace by having no intentions on meeting. Why are you guys on there? And of course, if you don't care to mention what your intentions of wanting to meet at a bar/grocery/etc. then what good is it?

    To me, it just seems like people have these profiles up, are full of skepticism...and pretty much not going anywhere with it. I can't see that as a very productive way of getting anything done. If I don't like the type of people that are present around me, I want to atleast be able to dance and get tipsy in the process. Doing it sober is far too painful LOL. Plus, I can't be bothered having bland conversations about absolutely nothing because the way we met just happens to be because one or both is bored and looking into a phone. Great conversation material icon_rolleyes.gif


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    May 03, 2012 7:19 AM GMT
    fasterpace said
    paulflexes said
    Tallathlete24 said
    fasterpace saidI only met one guy on grinr/dnr social every since it's creation

    and it was only 2 dates and realized he wasnt for me

    I usually just go on and block guys and die a little inside when I've used up my daily 10 free blocks icon_sad.gif


    That's your form of entertainment? I mean, not trying to be a dick but, if you're not meeting anyone who you like and nobody is messaging you who you like, why waste your time?
    His screenname explains all...he's too fast for normal hookups sites. icon_cool.gif



    hookup site?

    what's a hookup site?
    icon_razz.gif
    It's something that I'd LOVE to meet you on. I'd hookup with you in a heartbeat. icon_cool.gif
  • suedeheadscot

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    May 03, 2012 7:23 AM GMT
    Had a bit of a laugh at the section in the article of how people weren't engaging in gaybars and talking to each other. I hate gaybars! Any means in which the damn places can be avoided is absolutely fine by me!
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    May 03, 2012 7:24 AM GMT
    I look at it as entertainment myself. I'm on there and every once in awhile i will get an extremely attractive guy who will spark an interesting conversation that seems to flow back in forth without much effort and chore. That's like 5% of the time.. most of the time i'm hit up with men i'm not interested in (or as the case with scruff are FARRR away..so no chance to meet them).. and only block if i i'm annoyed or they are rude... i'll tell them up front i'm not looking to hook up. Grindr came in handy in NYC..and i met a few guys who were actually out at the same bar..and told me what else was up in the town.. so it's useful.. but more times it's not..and just something to procrastinate with and browse men you'll never meet.. you'll see a guy and think "Oh he has nice pecs.. oh his teeth are pretty... wow he looks like a DICK! .. He's married and drinks too much probably" and then your bus will arrive or the waiter will arrive with your food.

    It's like people watching.

    I've met a small handful of men with intention of solely sex.. and all but 1 i bailed out on because they were sketch.

    I've made a few virtual grindr pals.. it's casual .. fun.. light.

    Never dated a guy from there.

    Scruff is dirtier and waaay more fun.
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    May 03, 2012 8:03 AM GMT
    This is a stupid article and in the long run would spread more harm than good.
  • ytOwen

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    May 03, 2012 9:37 AM GMT
    It totally depends on how you use it.

    I like the Grindr, Scruff, and Manhunt apps.
    One time I ended up hand cuffed in the back of a Cop Car.
    The Cop was cute!

    Living in Northern Canada I usually use Grindr, etc
    to crack jokes with guys in Alaska.

    Alaska ... ... ... Alaska ... ... ... I need to go to Alaska ... ... ...
  • Parker817

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    May 03, 2012 9:40 AM GMT
    http://www.thefix.com/content/grindr-sex-addiction-compulsion-GPS-app8274?page=all

    yw
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    May 03, 2012 10:15 AM GMT
    Tallathlete24 said

    You wanna hookup? You better be willing to pay for it...by the hour. Because I'm about relationships.Shit....play wit it. What?



    I think you mean that literally since you turn tricks legitimately