My experience at the gym

  • darkbrwnsuga

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    May 02, 2012 11:50 AM GMT
    I am not into cruising the gym. About three months ago, this guy was taking a cicuit traiing class. I guess he saw me walking on the track. After his class, he came into the stretch area that was on the side of the walking track. So, he left. When I was done, i went into the sauna to relax. Out of nowhere, he came in the sauna. Another time, I was on the treadmill. I noticed that he was in the pool. So, I stop and start walking the track. i did not want this guy to think i was following. After walking the track, I went to the sauna. Again, he chowed up out of nowhere. I thought he was still swimming. So, I started a conversation. We talked about the classes that were going on. He told me to come to the cycling and circuit training classes. And that he would keep an eye out for me. I said sure. I went to the class he asked me did I like I said it was ok. He acts different. I notice when people are watching me but, i am trying to put the pieces to this puzzle. I thought to myself that if this guy is married why do we meet up alot. So, I was like he is showing up too much. So I asked him was he gay. he said no. I am married with three kids and one on the way. I said i was gay. he said he had no problem with people being gay and that his sister was gay. the crazy part is that i went to the steam room and told him that i wasnt being mean and that i did not want him to feel like i was on his coat tail all the time. somebody came in the steam room. so itold him to meet me in the sauna because i cannot take the steam. he came over. he said he was not gay. so , i told him that i notice that he watches me at time. he said that he has so much on his mind that he does not know who he sees at the gym. i was like that is odd. so now he sees me and he gets so uncomfortable. i think he is on the down low. i was concerned that he showed up in the sauna with me a lot of times. it is not that i think he is cute because he is not. what makes him unattractive is his weirdness. can anyone explain?
  • jmanorlando

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    May 02, 2012 1:30 PM GMT
    It sounds like you watch him more than he watches you. Basically, you have to assume that he is straight and not interested and it has been a random annomally that you end up at the same place often.

    Note if you go to the gym at the same time of the day each day and he does too there will be overlaps.

    I would suggest to stop over thinking the issue and just be yourself without pushing the issue. His answer about not seeing antone at the gym, sounds like me as I stare off between sets without focusing on anybody or a distant tv, just accept the answer and move on. If he is interested you have to let him make the move and expect, based on what he said, that none will be made.

    Just keep lifting and in time this will all pass.
  • darkbrwnsuga

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    May 02, 2012 3:48 PM GMT
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    No, I amnot watching him. But, I do know when people are watching me , and it creeps me out. when i asked him he was like he wants to encourage me. he does not even know me. he is crazy. so, i go at a different. time now. but thanks for you feedback.
  • HndsmKansan

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    May 02, 2012 5:01 PM GMT
    jmanorlando saidIt sounds like you watch him more than he watches you. Basically, you have to assume that he is straight and not interested and it has been a random annomally that you end up at the same place often.
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    Good point... go on about your business, it might be a coincidence for the most part.
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    May 02, 2012 5:03 PM GMT
    Some people like to be social at the gym, others not. Doesn't mean they want to hump you.

    A better question might be why you are focusing this much attention and energy on someone else's man?
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    May 02, 2012 5:03 PM GMT
    Maybe it was just a coincidence, like perhaps you and the guy have similar workout schedules. Or, maybe the guy is just being cordial or friendly. What do you do --- Invite him into the sauna????? Me thinks something is fishy here icon_eek.gif
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    May 02, 2012 10:38 PM GMT
    Sounds like you're writing a fictional novel. It's funny how you say you notice when people are watching you. You sure you're not hoping people are watching you or maybe you're just paranoid.

    Chances are, his actions are completely meaningless and coincidental and you've built it up in your own head as something way more than it is.
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    May 02, 2012 10:40 PM GMT
    darkbrwnsuga saidI am not into cruising the gym.
    I read no further than that cause I was too busy LOLing. icon_lol.gif
  • darkbrwnsuga

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    May 02, 2012 11:34 PM GMT
    no i am not paronoid. well, it might be funny, but you guys are reading it. so, you guys must like it.