Befriending A Crush... through Facebook?

  • Art2D2x

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    May 03, 2012 7:17 AM GMT
    Excuse me for the "Dear Diary, Guess I Have A Crush On" post. This is bound to sound silly and stupid, but I need advice (sarcastic and bitchy comments welcome).

    So I have a crush on this guy who's employed by one of our clients. The dilemma is I'm not sure if he's gay, but I get a slight vibe from him. He's not effeminate, but he's also not macho-masculine. I mean, even from the initial moment we talked on the phone before we met, I had a feeling he was cute. Upon meeting, he exceeded those expectations. I can also tell he's smart and creative, at times making me melt into this big puddle of ditz; clumsy at times, even. Prior to a meeting we scheduled yesterday, for example, he almost caught me with mini-brownie crumbs dotting my lips after stuffing one into my mouth.

    I digress. Just a few minutes ago, I did some facebook stalking investigating. A part of me actually hoped he'd be straight so I could let it go. Alas, nothing on his profile produced a sign of his sexuality. It actually makes the pursuit a bit more exciting. One thing I found out that we have in common is our taste in music, especially my fave band Muse. I'm sure there's more.

    I actually would rather avoid the obvious Friend Request for professional reasons. It also looks desperate considering we're not really friends. How would you go about befriending him?



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    May 03, 2012 11:44 AM GMT
    O.M.G. he almost saw evidence that you eat?! That's a deal breaker.
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    May 03, 2012 12:12 PM GMT
    I think your approach should be a genuine approach. If you have an agenda (looking for clues as far as his sexuality) then i'm not sure how far that will get you.

    Just be cool with it. The more you see him, the more you have time to learn about him and you'll find out all you need to know without even trying
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    May 03, 2012 12:47 PM GMT
    "How would you go about befriending him?"

    By befriending him. Ask him out for coffee.
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    May 03, 2012 12:53 PM GMT
    Read all this idiotic half-witted advice (especially this post) and do what the hell you want.
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    May 03, 2012 1:19 PM GMT
    I wouldnt get involved with anyone involved in my professional circle. The professional and private worlds should never mix. It can be a recipe for disaster if things don't work out.
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    May 03, 2012 2:51 PM GMT
    CuriousOne saidI wouldnt get involved with anyone involved in my professional circle. The professional and private worlds should never mix. It can be a recipe for disaster if things don't work out.


    This is why I'm not on Facebook. In my experience as a gay man, it's not possible for these to stay separate for me. People will use it as a way to get ahead of you. Fuck them. Don't even let them know.
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    May 03, 2012 3:22 PM GMT
    If he's a client, maybe you can 'entertain' him and take him to happy hour somewhere. Work-related drinking is a good segue to a more personal relationship. And if he straight up says no, then you know he isn't interested!
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    May 03, 2012 3:44 PM GMT
    teamzissou saidIf he's a client, maybe you can 'entertain' him and take him to happy hour somewhere. Work-related drinking is a good segue to a more personal relationship. And if he straight up says no, then you know he isn't interested!


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  • Art2D2x

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    May 04, 2012 4:03 AM GMT
    Haaretz saidRead all this idiotic half-witted advice (especially this post) and do what the hell you want.


    Toda, Haaretz!

  • Art2D2x

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    May 04, 2012 4:06 AM GMT
    cold saidO.M.G. he almost saw evidence that you eat?! That's a deal breaker.


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    I feel so fat... it was the crumbs around my lips that bothered me. I'd scarf down a huge brownie if I didn't have that meeting.
  • Art2D2x

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    May 04, 2012 4:09 AM GMT
    CuriousOne saidI wouldnt get involved with anyone involved in my professional circle. The professional and private worlds should never mix. It can be a recipe for disaster if things don't work out.


    Thanks... although I've actually dated someone who also used to work in my building by coincidence. Didn't work out and we're still friends.

  • Art2D2x

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    May 04, 2012 4:10 AM GMT
    Muchas gracias people!
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    May 04, 2012 4:21 AM GMT
    Art2D2x said How would you go about befriending him?





    By treating him as a person instead of a person on a pedestal.