Look at your partner --is he the kind you thought you'd be in a relationship with when you were single?

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    Jul 20, 2008 10:26 AM GMT
    Think Harry and Charlotte of Sex and the City. She admitted she could not see herself dating him, let alone marry him, when they were still just --well, fucking each other. The writer says that it was "growth" on Char's character to fall for someone like Harry --her complete opposite. Now I can't help but wonder-- did you end up with someone whom you pictured him to be, before he entered the picture?
    You're all smart, no more further elaboration needed.
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    Jul 20, 2008 1:51 PM GMT

    Hey ZiMpLuS,

    Wow, good topic!

    Before I met Bill I was into taller than 6ft 3inches, dark, mysterious and older.

    Bill had been in a long term relatonship with short, stocky and mysterious.

    I'm now with shorter, younger, blond blue-eyed open-and-honest. (Bill!)

    He's with tall, dark(-ish),and emotionally connected. (me!)

    I often joke that if we'd met each other in our 20s we would have kept on walking.
    -Doug


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    Jul 20, 2008 2:27 PM GMT
    Hmmm ...
    Well, I can't really say anything about that, since I don't have much experience. Still - Charlotte is a very good example of all the people around the world - they imagine some perfect person that they are gonna meet someday. And they almost never meet that character... but they find someone better. And what makes him/her better is that he/she is real ;)

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    Jul 20, 2008 5:39 PM GMT
    I Met Him I Met Him I met Him!!!
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    Jul 20, 2008 6:10 PM GMT
    2 LTRs--both of them my physical 'type'
    Neither relationship lasted.

    So who the hell knows.

  • Jul 20, 2008 6:20 PM GMT
    absolutely not-never did i imagine there would be a 32 year age difference.
    i was thinking about this to myself the other day...funny how things workout.
    but i'm happy, we're happy. *shrugs.
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    Jul 21, 2008 2:50 PM GMT
    I never imagined that I would ever go for someone who was 10 years younger, until I met my bf...
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    Jul 21, 2008 3:05 PM GMT
    I always thought I'd be with someone who was about my height, and I suppose probably more muscular.

    But now I have a cute, boyish, shorter boyfriend who is 8 years older than me. I guess he's not 'my type' but he's sexy and he loves me.

    I guess I've definitely grown up a bit. Probably all for the best.
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    Jul 21, 2008 3:07 PM GMT
    Mine is hairy, muscular and Latino - I got exactly what I was looking for. icon_biggrin.gif
  • UncleverName

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    Jul 21, 2008 3:14 PM GMT
    Great topic!

    I didn't know what I wanted, so wasn't really set on anything in particular. My partner isn't what I would have guessed, but I didn't think I'd ever want to stick with just one person for too long, so he is a bit of a surprise. It's nice to have life turn out different than you might have imagined it though. More excitement!
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    Jul 21, 2008 3:15 PM GMT
    The first time I met my BF, I thought I was soooo far out of his league until he started to pursue me. I was shocked when he asked for my number at the end of the night. You could say that I knew someone his age would come into my life, I just didn't know someone of his caliber would. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 21, 2008 3:20 PM GMT
    When i first met my bf I initially thought he would be a good hook up. Nothing serious. He was a little younger than me and didnt have the physique I usually went for. But thats what gyms are for and age is nothing but a number. We cliqued on so many other levels.
  • mtnjock

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    Jul 21, 2008 3:22 PM GMT
    When I met my bf, I was convinced we had just had one good night and that would be that. I was shocked when he called me the next day and asked to go out again that night. He's 10 yrs younger than I, amazingly cute, into the whole "scene", and the focus of every gay man who meets him- basically, my opposite. I'll admit I was convinced I didn't want to pursue anything with him because I couldn't see us together. Sure it's only been a short 7 months since we've been dating, but it was the best thing for me to give in and let myself fall in love with him.
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    Jul 21, 2008 3:23 PM GMT
    I have a thing for frat-boy types. Always have. So I like the physical type of younger adult males, in reasonably good shape.

    My guy of five years is a year older than I am, and about 100 pounds heavier than I. (He's working on that, but at his own instigation, not mine.)

    So, I guess you could say I'm mildly surprised. icon_smile.gif

    I also have to state he's my first LTR (and hopefully I won't have to find a second), and it just... flows. Go figure.
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    Jul 21, 2008 3:24 PM GMT
    great forum topic! really fun to read icon_smile.gif

    glad to see ppl in here are with someone who's right for them, regardless of what they thought they were after :p
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    Jul 21, 2008 3:40 PM GMT
    Never, in a million years, did I dream I'd wind up dating the guy I'm dating. He's not the type of guy I usually date, which is good. icon_smile.gif We click on so many levels, and even when we have disagreements they aren't that bad. I'm really excited to see where things go from here. I also really like his friends and they seem to like me too. The best part is that we can make each other laugh a lot.
  • VinBaltimore

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    Jul 22, 2008 1:54 PM GMT
    Yeah, even six years later I still look over at him sometimes in amazement that he's the one I feel in love with.

    Not that he's not a handsome man. But he's completely different that what I used to consider my ideal type.

    I didn't even happen the way I thought it would. I always imagined there'd be that immediate bolt of Cupid's arrow and WHAM you were in love. Instead, our relationship - stemming from a blind date - developed very slowly over time.
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    Jul 22, 2008 2:04 PM GMT
    VinBaltimore saidYeah, even six years later I still look over at him sometimes in amazement that he's the one I feel in love with.

    8 years here and I have the same feeling. Just this morning I told him how lucky I was to be waking up next to him every morning. I do like d'em older, muscle bears - yum!

    We're close to a 10yr difference and yes, he's pretty much exactly what I want out of a husband. He's taller, bigger, handsome, kind, generous, an amazing father and family man. Oh... a great lover! icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 23, 2008 11:01 AM GMT
    Those who are happy/satisfied (with exaggeration on the "slash" part) right now --FUCK OFF!!! All of you fuck off!!! LOLLLLLLLLLLLLL x

    Yes, I had grapes for breakfast... real sour ones! icon_redface.gif

    Carry on...
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    Jul 23, 2008 11:28 AM GMT
    My husband is the man I have always dreamed of...a hot btfl bodied brown skinned butch man that treats me like gold.

    I dont think I was who he thought he would end up with, but we love each other so much and fell in love as soon as we first met face to face. He says I am beautiful to him so Ill just have to take his word on that.

    That was almost 4 years ago and when he walks through the front door I still get butterflies in my stomach and cant wait to wrap my arms around him and tell him how much I love him.
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    Jul 23, 2008 12:00 PM GMT
    redbull said...and fell in love as soon as we first met face to face.

    Did you meet online?

    WELCOME BACK TO RJ, REDBULL!!! MISS YOU TOO!!!
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    Jul 23, 2008 12:06 PM GMT
    I was never a fan of online dating...people just arent honest, but I was going through a breakup and feeling sorry for myself so I went online to yahoo personals and was making fun of people to make myself feel better....hahaha.

    Anyway...there he was....my mouth dropped open and I thought..."he would never go out with me" but I sent him a message anyway. He responded...we talked for about a month on the phone. (we live 2 hours apart)

    Then we met at a local bar here in town and from that night on we have been crazy about each other. That was almost 4 years ago.
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    Jul 23, 2008 12:39 PM GMT
    redbull saidI was never a fan of online dating...people just arent honest, but I was going through a breakup and feeling sorry for myself so I went online to yahoo personals and was making fun of people to make myself feel better....hahaha.

    Anyway...there he was....my mouth dropped open and I thought..."he would never go out with me" but I sent him a message anyway. He responded...we talked for about a month on the phone. (we live 2 hours apart)

    Then we met at a local bar here in town and from that night on we have been crazy about each other. That was almost 4 years ago.


    Nice story..............

    I met mine online!
  • jarhead5536

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    Jul 23, 2008 12:43 PM GMT
    Not even close. My perfect adolescent dream man? I already was married to that guy. What an ass, good riddance. My husband today is NOTHING like my ex, and thank God for that...
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    Jul 23, 2008 5:28 PM GMT
    I've NEVER had any type of longterm relationship with anyone even near what could be called "my type".

    I guess I'm just too bloody easy.