Anyone Been to a Bathhouse?

  • omahaeight

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    Aug 05, 2007 2:35 AM GMT
    Anyone been to one?
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    Aug 05, 2007 5:40 AM GMT
    I've been a few times a number of years ago - had to explore lol - but I found them breeding grounds for STDs and other problems like athelete's foot, etc - though I was lucky. Even though most men take care of themselves the intense humidity combined with very casual attitudes towards sex should make one think twice about what one does there.

    I've seen and experienced some wild and fun sex, but please watch out for STDs and also watch out for thieves (yes there are some bitches who steal wallets, cell phones and clothes when such items are not secured in a good locker). It doesn't help that bathhouses typically have dim lighting either: on the one hand that creates a great mood, but on ther other hand things are easily overlooked - your mileage may vary... lol

    Go at least once so you know what a bathhouse is like (some cities, like Montreal, refer to them as "saunas"); try to find a place that has a decent reputation if possible; be prepared to see many different guys - usually wearing nothing but a towel. You'll hear them have sex in various dark rooms or maybe in a porn cinema room if that is a feature of the bathhouse, and get ready to be cruised by some good-looking and also many not-good-looking men.

    Once you've been to one you can wear the experience as a badge of honour/rite of passage if you don't like it, lol.
    But hey, there are some guys who love bathhouses, so maybe you'll groove on that scene too? You'll only know if you go. ;-)
  • GQjock

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    Aug 05, 2007 5:58 AM GMT
    They can be pretty seedy...and they guys that you run into there aren't usually the most appealing
    ...but if you're ever in Cologne Germany the bathouse there is a must see :)
  • zakariahzol

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    Aug 05, 2007 4:01 PM GMT
    Here just like in Canada they call it sauna. Just the same there is a steam room and also a sauna. The steam room usually is pitch black. I usually go there when I am desperate for sex. Usually when I am so desperately horny and cannot get anyone to have sex with.

    Inside those pitch black steam room it really just matter of standing before some guys perform oral sex on me. Sometime two or three different guys in the row. Some even offer me to do bareback on them. Of course an absolute no-no for me.

    The last time some guys I dont know perform oral on me until I ejaculate and he swallow every bit of it (I only know him after he smile at me in the locker room). I am not sure if what I am doing now carry any risk of getting AIDS or other STD. Only in some rare occasion I do perform oral on sombody (you know when he is so mascular, enormously hung , I usually just cant control myself). 98% of the time it was done on me. Aside from that I also do the french kiss, necking, hugging each other just to get myself in the mood. Its this behaviour really that safe.

    What do you guys think?
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    Aug 05, 2007 5:17 PM GMT
    there is a diffr to the regular sauna and the gay one
    after all you won,t find men getting it on in a st8 one
    if you choose for a gay version, have fun
    just be prepared for any thing to come your way
    whether you like it or not
    when it comes to std,s in all it forms
    yes your more likely to catch something you don,t want
    stick to your own rules when it comes to safe sex (whatever they may be)
    and even that is no insurance

    just my 2ct
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    Aug 07, 2007 10:09 PM GMT
    For fuck sake! What is it with all this bullshit. Have any of you ever been to a sauna? How about offering some constructive advice?

    No, saunas are no more a breeding ground for STDs than a nightclub (full, by the way, of sweaty men who may not have had a shower for days).

    And everyone will be clean. They'll have had a shower or a steam or a sauna which is more than you can say for some of the men who you may meet in a coffee bar or wherever some of you delusional guys think other gay men meet each other.

    Plus, most saunas I've ever been to (and I've gone to a few) have free condoms and lube so you can take the necessary precautions.

    So go and enjoy yourself.

    Honestly, some of you guys really need to grow up and stop being so bloody judgemental.
  • sluglove

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    Aug 07, 2007 11:17 PM GMT
    Amen Redheadguy!
  • MikemikeMike

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    Aug 08, 2007 2:26 AM GMT
    Walked into one on vacation- It was considered an upscale one. It was the Island House in Key West. I highly UN recommend it!! It was seedy and the guys looked like it was the only way they could get laid was in a dark room. Left ASAP! I'm sure they r not all like that though. It would be narrow minded to think so! Hope you have better luck! Keep us posted.
  • ajlclimber

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    Aug 14, 2007 2:23 AM GMT
    One thing that you might want to consider is to go with at least one friend. You will have a better time that way.
  • Laurence

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    Aug 15, 2007 2:24 PM GMT
    Question: Aren't bathhouses/ saunas supposed to be seedy?

    Guys go there to have sex, which is supposed to be dirty (if you do it right), not swap knitting patterns.

    Stop being so prissy and have some fun (safe fun obviously).

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    Aug 15, 2007 4:39 PM GMT
    Never been but I've always been more of a one year stand person hehe. Got to say, I've considered going to one with my guy and having fun just the two of us.

    Anyway, there's two in town here and one is apparently fairly nice from friends' reports who've gone. The other didn't get great recommendations though.
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    Aug 16, 2007 1:32 PM GMT
    I've been to three Club O in Orlando (very clean and nice, outdoor pool etc) The Club in Dallas, clean but smaller and Sanson Club in Phila. new clean but empty the night I went.

    The key is you don't have to do anything you don't want to do and I haven't found anyone who didn't take "no" for an answer. If you just cruise and observe that can be fun in itself. Of course you'd want to take all the precautions you normally would and all three places provided lube and protection (I personally didn't have occasion to use it, just went to be part of the scene).
  • swimbikerun

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    Aug 17, 2007 7:40 PM GMT
    Eh, most fun to go with a buddy. Many guys into drugs and such. I agree with "GQjock", kinda seedy (unless that's what you're looking for!)
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    Aug 20, 2007 9:37 PM GMT
    If you're in San Antonio, TX, check out ACI or The Executive.

    ACI is not new, but more guys attend. Expect to see a variety of men into all kinds of shit. Tuesday is $10 all day with free HIV/Syphillis tesing. All other nights are $15 lockers and host to the late night clubbing crowd. I think the dark rooms and the faciltiy in general is not any cleaner than a college dorm, now those places can get pretty rancid. But the staff is keen on keeping the place clean as long as the customers keep it clean as well. I hate slipping on a used condom in the dark.

    99% of the guys are shy, so don't expect to be invited to a one-on-one session anytime soon. Be verbal! Most times when you vocalize what you like or don't like, chances are that someone will approach you with something you want. I prefer to watch than play and if I do, it mostly takes place in the video rooms.

    Executive is older, but the new location is cleaner and well tended. The video room does not offer comfortable seating, and the same videos repeat too often and are not stimulating. The crowd is small since the new location is very hard to find. It is the only one in town with a sling, though - which is very fun.

    IF you're lucky, you may just find yourself paired up in that sling with a VERY hot guy named "J.P." with a perpetual hard-on... *sigh*...


    Check them out...I've been wanting to visit other baths in other cities, too.
  • SFTraveler

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    Aug 26, 2007 6:25 AM GMT
    I haven't been to a bathhouse since they were closed in San Francisco in the mid-1980s. But the half-dozen times that I did go, I usually enjoyed myself.
    Unless they were drop-dead gorgeous and made me weak in the knees, I'd usually chat with someone who caught my eye in the video room. Then I'd decide whether to go to a private room or not.
    I was always very honest with people and eager to please them, so I struck up some lasting friendships in, of all places, the bathhouse!
    So if I were you, I'd go, play safe and enjoy myself.
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    Sep 30, 2007 2:51 AM GMT
    does anyone know any good bath houses in New York City? Kinda new to the idea.
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    Sep 30, 2007 3:10 AM GMT
    My recollection is that all the bathhouses in NYC were shut down during the AIDS crisis.
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    Sep 30, 2007 3:33 AM GMT
    Bathouses are about sex, my fellow Nebraskan.

    Bathouses give the users a safe place to have sex, and do their drugs. That's what it is: no more; no less.

    You need to be VERY CAREFUL as the folks there are often into multiple sexual partners, PER DAY, and often have drug, and esteem issues.

    It's not where you'll find the best sorts of people, but, being from OMA, and young, you won't be any worse for the wear if you remember several things: if it secrets fluid, you need to be protected against it, be it a mouth, a dick, or an asshole. Don't touch a needle.

    Bathhouses are an interesting social experiment for those folks without any sense of responsibility, foreplay, or acquaintance...basically 200 naked guys, most of whom are there for one thing, and one thing only: sex. It's a sad commentary on the human condition, but, it it what is it.

    As a young man of 20, I think you should go check one out, just to see how low things can go: asses in the air; drugs everywhere; disease and bad practice abound. Bath houses are for the most self-indulgent of the self-indulgent, basically.
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    Oct 04, 2007 1:28 PM GMT
    I went a few times when I was single in the 90's. Bathhouses have one advantage over bars, they are brutally honest, no mind games, everyone is there for one purpose, SEX.

    That being said you should be aware that even if everyone is practicing safer sex, the risk of picking up an STD (including HIV) is higher, the laws of probability kick in, many of the people that go to bathhouses, go to them frequently and sometimes have more than one partner each night they go, that is why they were shut down in San Francisco in the AIDS crisis. I am HIV+ and likely picked it up in a bathhouse by having unprotected oral sex (likely pre-cum).
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    Oct 22, 2007 8:05 PM GMT
    They are nice, you just have to be so careful. There is an etiquette involved too. It takes a while to get used to the ritual. I don't know why there is still a ritual, everyone is there for the same reason you would think. If you are a top, get a room and lay on the bed on your back, this indicates a top. If you are a bottom, lay on your stomach. Leave the door open and it is an invitation for some company and or a voyeur.
    Some have large play rooms too, you have to use more communication there.
    The reason I say be careful is, it is usually very anonymous play and barebacking in this day and age is so dangerous. I buy my own condoms so I know they are fresh, I lube myself up to make sure I'm nice and slick and I roll the condom on my lovers personally. When they pull out, I reach back to make sure the condom is coming with them and make sure it does.
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    Nov 06, 2007 3:58 AM GMT
    dont' know any of them that's worth going. all dirty and the men there are just not appealing. and i've always thought good looking guys don't go to place like that, cause they have plenty of fun out there. even if the guys are great looking, it's just not a place to have fun and walk away with ease of mind too.
    maybe someone can teach me how to lighten up.
    despite all these, bangkok has one that's a must visit.
  • liftordie

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    Nov 06, 2007 4:35 AM GMT
    ok there is no shame in my game!! whenever i visit LA i never miss a visit to the HOLLYWOOD SPA. hollywood blvd and ivar ave. 3 levels. hot guys. especially after the bars close there on a saturday night. which i guess in LA there really is such a thing as 'last call' !! i usally go with a friend or two.
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    May 05, 2008 2:10 PM GMT
    Well ohahaeight, how did it work out? Did you visit a bath house? Tell us about it Janet!

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    May 06, 2008 4:23 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidFor fuck sake! What is it with all this bullshit. Have any of you ever been to a sauna? How about offering some constructive advice?

    I have been to a few and like another stated earlier there are some that are very seedy. Granted those would be equal to some of the seedy bars with dark back rooms and any goes attitude but census shows them to have a higher STD rate.

    Yes condoms and lube are provide in most. Ive been lucky the only thing I ever caught were unwanted guests that required a good shampooing to get rid of. Other then that the only time I managed to catch something was when I met with a guy of MH and let him blow me. B

    If someone wanted to go visit one I wouldn't say no. I would recommend they go to a reputable one though and to lock up your valuables and of course following your big brain and not the little one.
  • Koaa2

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    May 07, 2008 12:40 PM GMT
    I have been to a few, and find them fun and interesting. You have to use your brain when deciding what to do. Sometimes seedy can be a turn on. You can still have fun and be safe. It amazes me how many guys wrap themselves in a cellophane closet and think you can't have sex because of catching a disease. There are lots of ways to have exciting fun sex. I think the media has turned gay sex into something that people have to fear. Nonsense.