Working Out: Just For The Looks?

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    May 04, 2012 10:41 PM GMT
    Well basically I want to know if you know anyone like this. I know a guy who used to be really big in school and when we left, I see on his facebook that he lost so much weight and he ended up getting all muscular and toned. I was happy for the guy then I start to see his facebook comments, it's like he changed into a completely different person.

    He was making self-absorbed/obnoxious posts and making fun of people that are over-weight and/or smaller than he is, not to mention endlessly making anti-gay comments/jokes. Also he just gained tons of friends that invite him to parties and stuff, when before he was a really quiet and shy type of guy who didn't care for all of that.

    So do any of you know anyone else like this, because it kind of annoys me to see that guys can get into it for bettering their lives first then use it to become a complete ass and get away with it because he's huge.
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    May 04, 2012 10:46 PM GMT
    MarkRoger saidHe was making self-absorbed/obnoxious posts and making fun of people that are over-weight and/or smaller than he is, not to mention endlessly making anti-gay comments/jokes.



    He's gay.
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    May 04, 2012 11:11 PM GMT
    Iceblink said
    MarkRoger saidHe was making self-absorbed/obnoxious posts and making fun of people that are over-weight and/or smaller than he is, not to mention endlessly making anti-gay comments/jokes.



    He's gay.


    LOL, well I kind of thought about that when I met him... he kinda gave me a vibe, but it was kind of hard to read. He never had a girlfriend except this one thing he told me about being with a girl as a joke to her or something then just dumping her but I dunno.

    And I mean after his 'transformation' and new found popularity, he hasn't yet found a GF which he should have been able to find easily... anyway, this thread isn't whether he's gay or not because I wouldn't even want him now.
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    May 04, 2012 11:20 PM GMT
    Well, at least he looks good whilst judging other ppl (although no one should ever judge anyone). But it's better than my ex bud and his bf who were out of shape, not that attractive and making comments like that about others.
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    May 04, 2012 11:23 PM GMT
    I work out because
    -It makes me live longer
    -I feel better
    -I look better
    -I'll be damned if I don't break personal boundaries.

    Once I began working out I found out that I motivated a lot of people. Being self-absorbed and obnoxious is not the way to go. I recommend not associating with anyone like that but providing a positive example through diet and exercise! icon_smile.gif
  • Lexical

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    May 04, 2012 11:50 PM GMT
    I lift for four reasons:

    1.) It improves my health

    2.) It improves my self esteem

    3.) It makes me feel great

    4.) It gives me an outlet for energy I otherwise wouldn't expend during term

    My honorable mention reason is less good, but still worth noting:

    5). It gives me an opportunity to ogle fit guys while resting between sets : P
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    May 05, 2012 12:08 AM GMT
    MarkRoger saidWell basically I want to know if you know anyone like this. I know a guy who used to be really big in school and when we left, I see on his facebook that he lost so much weight and he ended up getting all muscular and toned. I was happy for the guy then I start to see his facebook comments, it's like he changed into a completely different person.

    He was making self-absorbed/obnoxious posts and making fun of people that are over-weight and/or smaller than he is, not to mention endlessly making anti-gay comments/jokes. Also he just gained tons of friends that invite him to parties and stuff, when before he was a really quiet and shy type of guy who didn't care for all of that.

    So do any of you know anyone else like this, because it kind of annoys me to see that guys can get into it for bettering their lives first then use it to become a complete ass and get away with it because he's huge.


    while making fun of anyone is wrong, the fact that he used to be fat makes it more OK for him to be judgmental--> my justification for discriminating against fat people.
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    May 05, 2012 12:11 AM GMT
    I've lost a bunch of weight and I've chronicled it on Facebook. I get messages all the time asking me the magic secret of how I did it. Of course, the answer

    "Eat less, move more" usually doesn't make them happy.

    But I don't make fun of anyone or put anyone down. I usually post motivational items and songs.

    Of course since I found RJ, I don't really visit my FB page as much. icon_wink.gif

    Oh, and yes, part of me works out because I believe it improves my look, but the other part of me works out because I feel better and my health is much better.
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    May 05, 2012 12:16 AM GMT
    wonofakind saidWell, at least he looks good whilst judging other ppl (although no one should ever judge anyone). But it's better than my ex bud and his bf who were out of shape, not that attractive and making comments like that about others.


    Not quit sure I understand the logic here. Is it more acceptable for an attractive person to judge others? I guess I can see that it's a bit like a pot calling a kettle black if an overweight person is judging another for being overweight If that is what you're getting at.
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    May 05, 2012 12:18 AM GMT
    He sounds immature and arrogant - judgmental is not inspirational or helpful to less fortunate people . Being huge is not desirable if you go for definitions. Many lifters have no definition and looks disproportionate - and not healthy. He is a sad case and so his parties.
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    May 05, 2012 12:19 AM GMT
    Your friend spent his formative years being picked on by better looking people, so he probably see's this as the natural order of social interaction.
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    May 05, 2012 12:31 AM GMT
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    wonofakind saidWell, at least he looks good whilst judging other ppl (although no one should ever judge anyone). But it's better than my ex bud and his bf who were out of shape, not that attractive and making comments like that about others.


    Not quit sure I understand the logic here. Is it more acceptable for an attractive person to judge others? I guess I can see that it's a bit like a pot calling a kettle black if an overweight person is judging another for being overweight If that is what you're getting at.


    i was being sarcastic
  • LJay

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    May 05, 2012 12:36 AM GMT
    Somehow I find it easy to leave the past version and the transformation of this guy out of the picture. The way I see it he is being an ass now and you need have no regrets about distancing yourself from him. No one should treat others as you say he is doing. That will become very obvious to him as time passes.
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    May 05, 2012 12:39 AM GMT
    I work out.... 45% for health and 55% for looks.

    But they are really connected... when you look good, you feel good, you work out you feel good.... when you feel good you look good..... lol

    Just being honest!
  • fitone

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    May 05, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    bitchy gay is amusing for about 30 seconds, then gets tiresome. most guys that fit that model strike me as being insecure...i alternate between being empathetic and wanting to bitch slap them.
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    May 05, 2012 12:50 AM GMT
    I began working out again three years ago, after a few years away from the gym. I was getting more attention as i bulked up and it motivated me to keep working out. I'm not going to lie. I like getting looks and flirts because of my fit bod. I think that is just human nature.

    Now, if I could start hitting the gym again and burn off my belly.icon_confused.gif
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    May 05, 2012 12:57 AM GMT
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    Josh1992 saidI work out because
    -It makes me live longer
    -I feel better
    -I look better
    -I'll be damned if I don't break personal boundaries.

    Once I began working out I found out that I motivated a lot of people. Being self-absorbed and obnoxious is not the way to go. I recommend not associating with anyone like that but providing a positive example through diet and exercise! icon_smile.gif

    You are an adorable little muffin.


    Will you marry me? icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 05, 2012 1:14 AM GMT
    Of course for the looks I actually don't really enjoy it!
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    May 05, 2012 1:19 AM GMT
    Yes it's primarily for looks.

    I'm enormous... and it's not so I can push a block up the side of a pyramid.
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    May 05, 2012 1:34 AM GMT
    Most likely he wasn't able to embrace the negative experiences he had in his life, and turned into a douche instead.

    I've come to a point in my life where I don't mind being sad, or feeling defeated, cause those things really push me to become a better person. I struggle with some personal issues, and self-esteem is amongst them. When it hits the peak, and I get really down, I tend to think about things thoroughly, thus turning into possible changes in my life (if not simply the way I think about a certain matter).

    I tend to fall for straight guys a lot, and somehow, I convince myself the reason why they don't look at me it's because of my looks. So, in an effort to prove myself I'm capable, I get a great motivation to work out more seriously. (I'm not saying I only work out because of this, obviously, but this works as an extra motivation!) Same works for grades. Whenever I get a bad grade at college, sometimes it motivates me to study more, and prove myself that I can succeed at it!

    So, in my opinion, that guy totally lost it ..
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    May 05, 2012 1:45 AM GMT
    JPtheBITCH said
    Splendidus_1 saidI struggle with some personal issues, and self-esteem is amongst them.

    Why would you have low self-esteem? You're like totally gorj.


    The reason why I have low self-esteem, is because I haven't found this site yet haha. People are great around here! icon_smile.gif

  • Musicman91

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    May 05, 2012 2:38 AM GMT
    I know a guy like that. He was a fat, nerdy, quiet and nobody really gave him the time of day. I was his friend because we both liked some of the same stuff and we hung out and all that jazz. Now since HS he's lost a ton of weight and bulked up and he is a complete douche. He is Mr Popularity because of his looks and has become arrogant and posts the most annoying crap in Facebook. And to top it all off I saw him a few weeks back out and he didn't even acknowledge me. Basically I was one of his only friends in HS and he's too cool for me. So I called him out on it and he had nothing to say. It's sad when people change...
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    May 05, 2012 2:58 AM GMT
    40% for looks

    20% for getting "bigger"

    40% for overall health benefits
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    May 05, 2012 3:09 AM GMT
    MusicMan91 saidI know a guy like that. He was a fat, nerdy, quiet and nobody really gave him the time of day. I was his friend because we both liked some of the same stuff and we hung out and all that jazz. Now since HS he's lost a ton of weight and bulked up and he is a complete douche. He is Mr Popularity because of his looks and has become arrogant and posts the most annoying crap in Facebook. And to top it all off I saw him a few weeks back out and he didn't even acknowledge me. Basically I was one of his only friends in HS and he's too cool for me. So I called him out on it and he had nothing to say. It's sad when people change...


    Well he still acknowledged me when I met him sometime in the mall. I don't have a problem if people work out for looks but when it makes the feel like they can say and do whatever they want with people it's disgusting. I was chunky when I was 15 and I decided to do something about it, and after that I tried to help other people or at least inspire other people to want to get more active because I was actually concerned about my health.

    The looks obviously factor in because there's nothing wrong with liking the way you look and having people check you out because you look great, but don't be such a total ass when you're in a great position while the people you mock and laugh at aren't and are in the same position you were in... totally hypocritical.
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    May 05, 2012 3:56 AM GMT
    Getting into shape more than tripled my income. Yes, looks matter...even to "straight" bosses.

    That said, one of the reasons I got into shape (not including a bad EKG reading when I was fat) was because I got tied of looking at a fatass in the mirror. If I can't turn myself on, it 's hypocritical to think I could turn someone else on...especially if they have the same fetish as me. icon_wink.gif